I'm a Relationship person.
Though not married, but I
try to learn a lot.
Apart from choosing the
wedding date, venue and
caterer for your day, there are other deeper issues
you both need to discuss
with each other. Issues
where you need to open
up to your partner
completely and let him/her in.
Without discussing these
crucial issues before
marriage might be unwise
and may have
repercussions later on in the marriage.
Here are the issues below:
1.Your past: Have you told
him/her about any
negative or positive
experience from your past that has a significant effect
on your life? Your history
can impact your marriage’s
future. Allow him/her to
be part of it and move
forward as a couple. Do not let your past haunt
your future.
2.Family obligations: How
will you celebrate the
holidays? Do you plan to
spend Christmas at your folks’house, and New
Year’s Day with his family?
Things as simple as these
can spike arguments in the
future. Lay all the cards
down in terms of your financial obligations on
each side. Are you okay
with allotting a certain
percentage of his salary to
his parents?
3.Division of house labor: When it’s just the two of
you at home, hiring a
helper may mean an
unnecessary expense, so
it’s only practical that you
two discuss the division of house chores. If you really
loathe washing the dishes,
compromise that you’ll be
in charge of cooking and
table cleanup. If your man
hates doing the laundry, volunteer to wash the
clothes and ask him to be
in charge of the
clothesline. This way, you
won’t hate each other,
while maintaining the upkeep of your love nest.
4.Sex: Newlywed sex is
fun and exciting, but as
you count the wedding
anniversaries, one of you
can sometimes overlook its value. Explain to him
your expectations and
limits, or how you two can
maintain the spice in the
bedroom.
5.Secrets: Whether it’s something you did that
you regret, a health issue,
or a family secret, he/she
deserves to know it. Also,
since he’s basically going
to be part of the family, divulging these details
matter. It’s better that he/
she hears it from you than
from someone else.
6.Faith: If you have
different religions, say, he’s a Renewed Christian
and you’re a Catholic,
confer with one another
which church you’ll be
spending Sundays at. Also,
if you do plan to have kids, finalize what religion
they’ll be following.