I'm here again to get the view of my fellow members on nairaland. My wedding is in a month's time & will be taking place in my wife's church. Now my family is insisting that the thanks giving be held in my own family church & not my wife's church on the sunday after the wedding. Pls I want to know if its right to go to another church instead of the church the wedding took place? This matter is raising a heated arguement. I think it should be on the church the wedding took place. Bottom line "WHERE SHOULD WEDDING THANKS GIVING TAKE PLACE?"

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I'm here again to get the view of my fellow members on nairaland. My wedding is in a month's time & will be taking place in my wife's church. Now my family is insisting that the thanks giving be held in my own family church & not my wife's church on the sunday after the wedding. Pls I want to know if its right to go to another church instead of the church the wedding took place? This matter is raising a heated arguement. I think it should be on the church the wedding took place. Bottom kind "WHERE SHOULD WEDDING THANKS GIVING TAKE PLACE?"

wedding is a tough institution without your extended family adding their wahala. so dont go looking for one. there are no rules about things like this. just learn to make everyone happy. if your wife family love their daughter they would easily let you go do thanksgiving in your parents church.

that was what we did. it makes everyone happy.

you may choose to do it your way and live to regret the wahala it will start cos you know our people dont forget easily. that is the last pressure you want on your wifes head. if you can talk your parents out of it do but if you cant let your wife do the needfull as they say. wedding and thanksgiving is some few hours but marriage is a life time so make wise decisions.

To me o,logically,d  thanksgiving should hold in the church
where the wedding was held.
After the  wedding and thanksgiving,u may corner ur wife to ur church.

U are the one marrying ,not ur family.
Take charge,ur family's decision should be second to urs.
Solicit their understanding though otherwise
they ll label ur wife a bad woman even b4 d married life had taken off.

In my own opinion, i think the thanksgiving should hold in the groom's church.

The bride's parents have already been ''honoured'' by holding the wedding in their family church, so it's just being fair to allow the groom's family host the thanksgiving service.

The church where the wedding ceremony is done is the usual option for thanksgiving. If your people insist on having it in their church, you can have another one later, maybe following week. I believe everyone'll be happy this way.

The wedding is usually in the bride's church - her family gets to decide that. But , after the wedding , any other thing , afterparty etc is done at the grooms side because the wife is now part of the groom's family.

She was handed over to the groom in her church, thanksgiving is time to present her to the groom's (family) church. This is simply because she is now a member of the groom's family. Afterwards, you both can keep attending your individual churches.

Ideally, weddings are held in the wife's or her parents church and thanksgiving the groom's church. Except both parties hold strong resentments for each other's church.

From the day you marry, the woman is now yours, and only you and her needs to decide where the thanksgiving would take place.
If they are too much of "wahala people", then, just do in both churches

theres nothin u cant do once it comes to marriage without the parent involving themselves to make issues arise, well as it seems, the thanksgiving has to be in the grooms church, lets assume this; the wedding took place in the brides church which is in another community say her village, n after the wedding the couple has to leave 4 d grooms home, wont the thanksgiving hold at the groom's home church?.

the groom's parent are right with their demand, so the thanksgiving shud be held in the groom's church.

u shldn't hv the wedding and the thanksgiving in the same church o!. . .one shld be on the grooms side and the other on the bride's side. . .its more or less tradition now. . .

The thankgiving shud def be at the groom's church

If the wedding is in one church why can't there be a compromise and do the thanksgiving in the other?

chai na wa for all the pple o!
why do pple like complicating other's lives?

look OP, the most important thing is for you and your bride to decide what you want and to insist on it.
just explain to your pastor/priest and go ahead. anybody way no want come make hin no come.

extended family members will quarrel/disagree, if not over thanksgiving venue, then over something else (like couples colours )
so go ahead and do your thing!

Thanks all. I will never regret the day I stumbled into nairaland. It has always come to the rescue when some critical/sensitive decisions ought to be made. It's always served as a pointer/guide. GREAT NAIRALAND, KWENU!