Angelberry:

What should be the prayer point

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Lol.

byvan03:
Marriage has been ridiculed, things that shouldn't be condoned are now being nurtured. I don't even get how his ex is still his friend. You guys didn't date? I believe everyone knows where the rain started beating them. The foundation of every marriage defines the structure, hope you didn't cause their break-up.

guyXander:

Edit the number of his ex to another of your number or but a new number. Then use his ex's picture as the profile picture.
This way, all chats come to you henceforth.

Oluwa o!

So the one you are telling your husband is not Important to him Once you see any picture of her delete them immediately don't waste anytime. And tell him sternly that you would not like to see his ex pictures in his phone again,that it gives you nightmares.

Its either he still loves his girlfriend more than he loves you or he doesn't care about you feelings when you see his girlfriend's pic on his phone. There's also a strong possibilty that he still gets better quality time with his girlfriend than with you. Just talk to him and ask he gives you a bit of respect.

Miami11:
Warn him sternly, what kind of nonsense is that,

He is not a baby, I would sit him down and lay it out and in the open, I would also give him an option to remain with the girl or let me go.

Wonder where all this people with low self esteem come from,

You teach people how to treat you, and if you are passive about matters of exes and side chicks oh well!

I love ladies like u.

Vision4God:
Pls kip praying for ur husband and respectfully talk to him about it.
He will change. May not b immediate, but he will.

JESUS IS LORD.
I dey fear some post oo

How disrespectful.....

However reading between the lines, this is his real heartthrob and you probably knew this throughout the time you were dating but you still carried on being second best.

Keep on telling him this is not acceptable and deleting the pictures until he gets the message, but I do hope she has moved on cos any green light she gives him may turn to something else.

Some people can disturb themselves and their minds..
Why go thru his phone in the first place?
I will never go thru my bf's phone and he doesnt go thru mine too..
What the eyes do not see, the heart do not ache over.. Why snoop around for.trouble??

One thing ,my bf knows is this when my female friends and neigbours compliment his looks and bike, he starts smiling sheepishly at home.. The kind stern look, i give to him when we get home.and also just one word: honey, u know i trust you, pls dont dissapoint me
He will smile and then make a straight face and say, nah dont worry.... I wont ok?
I will say ok, no problem with a straight face too.. End of matter
And i wont bug him again....
Thats all...even after marriage, i wont check... Why check phone

whatsapp is really destroying a lot of marriage these days ehn.....only God can help this institution called marriage

Amelian:
Some people can disturb themselves and their minds..
Why go thru his phone in the first place?
I will never go thru my bf's phone and he doesnt go thru mine too..
What the eyes do not see, the heart do not ache over.. Why snoop around for.trouble??

One thing ,my bf knows is this when my female friends and neigbours compliment his looks and bike, he starts smiling sheepishly at home.. The kind stern look, i give to him when we get home.and also just one word: honey, u know i trust you, pls dont dissapoint me
He will smile and then make a straight face and say, nah dont worry.... I wont ok?
I will say ok, no problem with a straight face too.. End of matter
And i wont bug him again....
Thats all...even after marriage, i wont check... Why check phone

There is a difference between bf and husband. A bf owes you nothing, a husband swore to fidelity and should be held accountable for any breach in contract.

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There is a difference between bf and husband. A bf owes you nothing, a husband swore to fidelity and should be held accountable for any breach in contract. [/quote ]








Thats where you are so wrong before he becomes my husband and before we started dating he swore to be faithful and loyal to me..and he owes me Loyalty, Pure loyalty... Likewise me to him.. And he knows if hes caught red handed cheating , its over.. Even if its marriage or dating , to me its all the same thing to me.. And hes so aware of it.
I dont disturb myself snooping around his phone... And he shudnt snoop into my phone too..its a rule between us.
Ok lemme ask you, after checking his phone and u see a lady"s pic there.. What will u do??
Divorce him ? Or make your home a living hell for him to stay??

My dear , you willl do nothing than rant all day.. And if he likes , he will continue or he will stop.. Not because u screamed hell and brim stone but because he decides to either stop or continue keeping those pics.. And mind you, u dont even know if they are dating or not?
So why raise hell?? Due to what u dont have complete evidence of?

As for me? Its a waste of time, checking his phone.. But i always make it clear.. You dare not cheat on me .. If i catch you , pants down ? Am gone.. Simple.
No time dear , to become detective..

@Amelian

This rule can't work for everyone. Some prefer not to live in fool's paradise. About the ranting, some people actually do have solutions that work for them. Everyone can't believe in privacy inside marriage, I don't believe it. There is actually a vast difference between boyfriend and husband, dating is not marriage. OP did nothing wrong by knowing who she is dealing with and has every right to go through her husband's phone. If you believed in the loyalty he swore, why then will you be scared of touching his phone?


Tell me you can't go through a boyfriend 's phone and it's very understandable.

Rehil:
don't delete her number from his phone pls,it will only make him mad*bin there n done it* pls find a convenient time,in d bedroom on d bed after a wonderful section of bedmatics n let him know how u feel.let him know u feel insecure n not comfortable with him saving her pics, its making u think he still feels something for her but pls don't just tell him to delete her number or stop communicating with her.if he respect and value u n your feelings he will make decisions n u will see results.Patience pls,don't attack him ooo,men have their pride.all the best,don't loose sleep over it,be a good wife n God be with u

hnmmmm and what if twas the other way, will the hubby accept this kind of advice in good faith and do what u have just adviced?? Women don suffer no be small ooo

AZeD1:
I don't know what phone your husband uses, but most phones will save pictures automatically once you view the picture.

And y does he still views an ex' s pictures? I

byvan03:
@Amelian

This rule can't work for everyone. Some prefer not to live in fool's paradise. About the ranting, some people actually do have solutions that work for them. Everyone can't believe in privacy inside marriage, I don't believe it. There is actually a vast difference between boyfriend and husband, dating is not marriage. OP did nothing wrong by knowing who she is dealing with and has every right to go through her husband's phone. If you believed in the loyalty he swore, why then will you be scared of touching his phone?


Tell me you can't go through a boyfriend 's phone and it's very understandable.

Am not scared touching his phone.. Its not about fear but respecting each other's privacy. For me , i dont beleive in it.. I love my privacy alot... Likewise him too. For us ,theres no difference in our relationship and in marriage. And we are not living in fool's paradise. We are both aware of what we require from each other..
What works for us.. Might not work for another... Its our choice to be faithful to each other , even in courtship..its a mutual agreement, which works perfectly well for us.. And we are happy with our choice... If no one is faithful when courting? Is it in marriage u will then change mindset and start becoming faithful
Some human beings are not automated machine that can switch from unfaithful during courtship and suddenly switch to faithful during marriage..
Well everyone with his or her own.

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eyinjuege:


Some numbers can never be forgotten no matter how hard you try, talk less of when you're still game.

Meaning , if she deletes her number from his phone, he probably still has her number in his heart.

However, he can make a conscious effort never to contact the number.

Hmmm.

I feel you bro...

Amelian:





Am not scared touching his phone.. Its not about fear but respecting each other's privacy. For me , i dont beleive in it.. I love my privacy alot... Likewise him too. For us ,theres no difference in our relationship and in marriage. And we are not living in fool's paradise. We are both aware of what we require from each other..
What works for us.. Might not work for u.. Its our choice to be faithful to each other , even in courtship..its a mutual agreement, which works perfectly well for us.. And we are happy.

Am not questioning your decision or choice in life . All am saying is that OP is not wrong going through her husband's phone. Believe it or not, when people yap on how much they love privacy, it's always because they are hiding something, that something mustn't be infidelity. There is a vast difference between dating and marriage, it is not the same to me. You mentioned that it's the same to you, it's Ok .

Amelian:





Am not scared touching his phone.. Its not about fear but respecting each other's privacy. For me , i dont beleive in it.. I love my privacy alot... Likewise him too. For us ,theres no difference in our relationship and in marriage. And we are not living in fool's paradise. We are both aware of what we require from each other..
What works for us.. Might not work for another... Its our choice to be faithful to each other , even in courtship..its a mutual agreement, which works perfectly well for us.. And we are happy with our choice... If no one is faithful when courting? Is it in marriage u will then change mindset and start becoming faithful
Some human beings are not automated machine that can switch from unfaithful during courtship and suddenly switch to faithful during marriage..
Well everyone with his or her own.

byvan03:




Am not questioning your decision or choice in life . All am saying is that OP is not wrong going through her husband's phone. Believe it or not, when people yap on how much they love privacy, it's always because they are hiding something, that something mustn't be infidelity. There is a vast difference between dating and marriage, it is not the same to me. You mentioned that it's the same to you, it's Ok .

My dear, its same to me ooo... But desiring one's privacy does not mean one is hiding or both are hiding anything. Checking my phone ,means my partner distrust me, thats how i see it.. If not? Why must my partner check my phone??. . I simply dont like it.. And the op, shudnt have ...
Anyways its all good.

AZeD1:
I don't know what phone your husband uses, but most phones will save pictures automatically once you view the picture.

Which phone does this?

CoCoLav:


Which phone does this?

My phone.

AZeD1:

My phone.

Lol...how can that be true?

CoCoLav:


Lol...how can that be true?

Why can't it be true?

AZeD1:

My phone.

All phone do it. How do you think you can view the pics without it being stored in your phone first? And even when you' ve switched off your data? Some phones keep theirs in a temporary folder though.

Op I don't advice married folks so kpele.

it's better you define your relationship with him