kola1930:
We've been married for a year now and blessed with a pretty daughter. My wife feels little or no urge to be intimate. Its been more than a month now since I had s*x. Reason being that, am angry inside of me that she is always not in the mood, so I decided to hold myself and see when she'll realize it that am angry about it and do the needful. But it seems like am just suffering my self because she seems not to realize she needs to do something fast. I am feeling like cheating on her as a way to punish her maybe she'll realize it that she needs to satisfy her husband to keep him away from other ladies outside. I urgently need advice from married nairalanders... Is the situation d same or similar in ur marriage, and how do I resolve this differences. Am really disturbed

Joy1706:

Yeah! Ur a really smart guy. Your wife suspects you of cheating and she will open her legs 24 hrs for you even when she doesn't know where ur preek has been. Clap 4 urself. Very smart idea. Makes me wonder why the woman who stabbed her husband in the neck didn't open her legs wider when she found out the husband had been unfaithful

Joy1706:

Yeah! Ur a really smart guy. Your wife suspects you of cheating and she will open her legs 24 hrs for you even when she doesn't know where ur preek has been. Clap 4 urself. Very smart idea. Makes me wonder why the woman who stabbed her husband in the neck didn't open her legs wider when she found out the husband had been unfaithful

kola1930:
U seem to understand the issue very well... If u don't make d move, then me ready to be starved for a year, cos they will not. So annoying

watchindelta:
I feel u. if she meet person like me, wit that her arrogant body go time her. she no advice d but wan show she sabi talk!

No just mind the eeediot jawe

Onegai:


Dude, you sound so.....gosh, what's the word...selfish. Yes. Selfish.

Plus you're most going to throw your marriage, peace of mind and happiness away, hurt your child irrevocably, scare your wife away in the near future. All the best, there are a lot of unhappy divorced naija man out there (i used to think they were all balling but strangely they all hate being single).

Seriously.

You didn't bother communicating with her, most likely didn't put any effort into romancing your woman, you're now sulking mentally and decided the best way to "punish" her is by cheating?

She doesn't want to sleep with you because she already is taking care of one small baby, she didn't realise she married another immature baby.

So something has cropped up in your marriage and instead of you to look for a good way to fix it, make your union strong, make society be impressed by your principled stand to keep to your vows and earn your wife's love and loyalty forever, you wrote this??

Mstchewwww.

You better go and get someone to come and carry that baby for a few hours. Then take your wife to a guesthouse and let her sleep for a bit, get your lust satisfied and THEN speak up about how you understand it's exhausting being a new mum and you're here for her but you didn't like being ignored whilst she lost herself in her role because you need her too and will always be willing to support and carry your weight around the house.

Or you can do whatever you want...

GogobiriLalas:
l knew one yeye gal will come here to start talking crap and giving advice on matters she can't begin to even grasp the depth of...you bera gerouta here

Ahmed0336:
were her eyes closed when he married her?

pet4ril:
If you are very sure you haven't done anything wrong to offend her, put her in prayers it may be spiritual husband stuff or better of, you people should visit a man of God for counseling

deen11:
I feel u man! Just keep understudying her,and sure you would get her weakness...

Surprise her with many things...vis-a-vis
Looking good and smelling nice
Assisting with house chores as far as u could
Buying her gifts
Taking her out to whr she hasn't been before
Engaging her with sensational talks and so on
.......the list is endless man.

Don't be discouraged and I hope one will work out except if she is no longer interested in the union. Best of luck!!!!!

Ahmed0336:
were her eyes closed when he married her?

AfroKnight:


My bet is that she knows how frustrating it is for him but she cannot be bothered to pacify him with words. She is allowing the anger settle in because it affords her the peace and privacy she wants. Nonsense.

kola1930:
We've been married for a year now and blessed with a pretty daughter. My wife feels little or no urge to be intimate. Its been more than a month now since I had s*x. Reason being that, am angry inside of me that she is always not in the mood, so I decided to hold myself and see when she'll realize it that am angry about it and do the needful. But it seems like am just suffering my self because she seems not to realize she needs to do something fast. I am feeling like cheating on her as a way to punish her maybe she'll realize it that she needs to satisfy her husband to keep him away from other ladies outside. I urgently need advice from married nairalanders... Is the situation d same or similar in ur marriage, and how do I resolve this differences. Am really disturbed

Pidggin:
Are you physically attractive?

empress101:
op.. cheating Wil only mak tins worse...try talking to her.. find out wat d problem is.... cos I dnt think itz normal for a wife to deny her hubby of sex...

kola1930:
We've been married for a year now and blessed with a pretty daughter. My wife feels little or no urge to be intimate. Its been more than a month now since I had s*x. Reason being that, am angry inside of me that she is always not in the mood, so I decided to hold myself and see when she'll realize it that am angry about it and do the needful. But it seems like am just suffering my self because she seems not to realize she needs to do something fast. I am feeling like cheating on her as a way to punish her maybe she'll realize it that she needs to satisfy her husband to keep him away from other ladies outside. I urgently need advice from married nairalanders... Is the situation d same or similar in ur marriage, and how do I resolve this differences. Am really disturbed

Bro you no fit hold yourself hahaha. Sex is not everything in marriage oo, try and understand your wife and your marriage bro, it's a life time course/studies. Though a few women taking family planning contraceptive pills/injection hardly have orgasm (wet) so sex isn't pleasurable for them, I understood this after 2-years in marriage. She's your wife and you both should share intimate issues, her mood swing might be due to fatigue, stress, or you. Having sex outside to punish her will be very stupid and risky of you cos girls out there contract too many disease nowadays (no go give your wife gono cos to explain that one hard ooo). You just started your marriage, your interest at the moment should be how you will become a good father and not sex abi if you no pana.shook you go die? Here's my advise, talk to her like your baby brother you love so much, ask her if there's any problem, if she refuse to talk leave her alone. Call pizza/food shop and send to her @ home/work during the week, find a weekend to take her out with/without your daughter (like me I dey give my wife shark then we discuss intimately then later @ night a different shark in bed), buy her good stuffs she least expect and above all give her surprise gift's, I bet you your wife mood will come back in 1million ways. BRO, ALWAYS MAKE YOUR WIFE FEEL LIKE SHE'S THE GIRL YOU LOVE EVEN AFTER MARRIAGE AND ABOVE ALL SATISFY HER VERY WELL, YOU KNOW WHAT I MEAN .

saasala:


Do all these just 'cos Ii want to fvck my wife?? Commooon!

deen11:
I feel u man! Just keep understudying her,and sure you would get her weakness...

Surprise her with many things...vis-a-vis
Looking good and smelling nice
Assisting with house chores as far as u could
Buying her gifts
Taking her out to whr she hasn't been before
Engaging her with sensational talks and so on
.......the list is endless man.

Don't be discouraged and I hope one will work out except if she is no longer interested in the union. Best of luck!!!!!

Tearg1:


How can you restore affection that has never existed. Do you know whether the wife truly loved him before the marriage...


Marriage is a heavenly institution. The only way to fix this issue is to seek intervention from the Lord.

kola1930:
U seem to understand the issue very well... If u don't make d move, then me ready to be starved for a year, cos they will not. So annoying

McCarlito:
Op: it's obvious u're not romantic and don't know how to pillow-talk ur wife into it...
Stop acting like a kid and learn to understand what and how ur wife's sexuality works so u things can fall into place...
Keeping her silent is doing u no good..

Pidggin:
Are you physically attractive?