postmann:
@OP,

From your post you said you've been married for a year and blessed with a beautiful daughter...

Should I take that to mean that your wife is just 3 months into her postnatal?

If that's the the case, you'll need to give her some little more time. It's normal for her to be less responsive to your sexual advances.

You can quicken the process of her sexual recovery by being extra romantic. You should know what used to turn her on before her child birth and work towards that line. Little non-sexual kisses, hugs and touches do great magic overtime. Also do a complete boxers and singlet/t-shirt overhaul. This will definitely catch her attention at her vulnerable moment. Hopefully she'll start having thoughts of intimacy with you.

Creamish:


Exactly.. well except the child was born out of wedlock.. otherwise, give her sometime. Its a recovery process for her. U shuld never try to replace communication with psychology or assumptions. Say it as it is...datz how u address issues.

postmann:


Lots of men don't actually know this. They're ignorant of the changes that take place in a woman after child delivery.

Adedoks:
Most married women are very funny ooo... Am a married man n I know what am saying. Some married women can go a month without sex if their hubby doesnt make a move towards them. N its also sad some married men will cajole n cajole their wife before she has sex... If the man is always the one cajoling one day he will be tired. Same man women outside are ready to grab n their is Wifee acting up. When the man goes outside she will start unnecessary prayers dat she could Av averted. U wont have sex with your man in a month plus n u think all is well. Most married women that do dis are not matured enough as they are still relatively new in marriage... Some learn from bitter experience. Oga Op be patient with her n explain to her as a man ur needs. God bless you for being faithful

kola1930:
U seem to understand the issue very well... If u don't make d move, then me ready to be starved for a year, cos they will not. So annoying

Creamish:


u are one of the few gifted men going by the responses on the thread.. No one considered the hormonal changes as a reason.

postmann:



Make I treat myself to some small laugh.
Heart warming compliment coming from someone like you....

Thank you!

kossyablaze:
Is an odour oozing out from ur mouth and armpit?

Onegai:


Dude, you sound so.....gosh, what's the word...selfish. Yes. Selfish.

Plus you're most going to throw your marriage, peace of mind and happiness away, hurt your child irrevocably, scare your wife away in the near future. All the best, there are a lot of unhappy divorced naija man out there (i used to think they were all balling but strangely they all hate being single).

Seriously.

You didn't bother communicating with her, most likely didn't put any effort into romancing your woman, you're now sulking mentally and decided the best way to "punish" her is by cheating?

She doesn't want to sleep with you because she already is taking care of one small baby, she didn't realise she married another immature baby.

So something has cropped up in your marriage and instead of you to look for a good way to fix it, make your union strong, make society be impressed by your principled stand to keep to your vows and earn your wife's love and loyalty forever, you wrote this??

Mstchewwww.

You better go and get someone to come and carry that baby for a few hours. Then take your wife to a guesthouse and let her sleep for a bit, get your lust satisfied and THEN speak up about how you understand it's exhausting being a new mum and you're here for her but you didn't like being ignored whilst she lost herself in her role because you need her too and will always be willing to support and carry your weight around the house.

Or you can do whatever you want...

kola1930:
U seem to understand the issue very well... If u don't make d move, then me ready to be starved for a year, cos they will not. So annoying

austine4real:
Mayb the load is too much 4her to bear, wash clothes,cook,breastfeed,wash yansh


and u go com bak 4rm work remove ur smelling prik 4rm ur dirty boxers and say baby spread ur legs i want fvck,no intimacy no hw are u? No hw did ur day went


my broda u must b wicked oo aaah u must be D 2nd satan sef


do u communicate things to her,i mean hw u feel?

austine4real:
Mayb the load is too much 4her to bear, wash clothes,cook,breastfeed,wash yansh


and u go com bak 4rm work remove ur smelling prik 4rm ur dirty boxers and say baby spread ur legs i want fvck,no intimacy no hw are u? No hw did ur day went


my broda u must b wicked oo aaah u must be D 2nd satan sef


do u communicate things to her,i mean hw u feel?

Onegai:


Dude, you sound so.....gosh, what's the word...selfish. Yes. Selfish.

Plus you're most going to throw your marriage, peace of mind and happiness away, hurt your child irrevocably, scare your wife away in the near future. All the best, there are a lot of unhappy divorced naija man out there (i used to think they were all balling but strangely they all hate being single).

Seriously.

You didn't bother communicating with her, most likely didn't put any effort into romancing your woman, you're now sulking mentally and decided the best way to "punish" her is by cheating?

She doesn't want to sleep with you because she already is taking care of one small baby, she didn't realise she married another immature baby.

So something has cropped up in your marriage and instead of you to look for a good way to fix it, make your union strong, make society be impressed by your principled stand to keep to your vows and earn your wife's love and loyalty forever, you wrote this??

Mstchewwww.

You better go and get someone to come and carry that baby for a few hours. Then take your wife to a guesthouse and let her sleep for a bit, get your lust satisfied and THEN speak up about how you understand it's exhausting being a new mum and you're here for her but you didn't like being ignored whilst she lost herself in her role because you need her too and will always be willing to support and carry your weight around the house.

Or you can do whatever you want...

Mskrisx:




My friend are u a comedian? Lwkm today

kola1930:
U seem to understand the issue very well... If u don't make d move, then me ready to be starved for a year, cos they will not. So annoying

kola1930:
We've been married for a year now and blessed with a pretty daughter. My wife feels little or no urge to be intimate. Its been more than a month now since I had s*x. Reason being that, am angry inside of me that she is always not in the mood, so I decided to hold myself and see when she'll realize it that am angry about it and do the needful. But it seems like am just suffering my self because she seems not to realize she needs to do something fast. I am feeling like cheating on her as a way to punish her maybe she'll realize it that she needs to satisfy her husband to keep him away from other ladies outside. I urgently need advice from married nairalanders... Is the situation d same or similar in ur marriage, and how do I resolve this differences. Am really disturbed

pet4ril:
If you are very sure you haven't done anything wrong to offend her, put her in prayers it may be spiritual husband stuff or better of, you people should visit a man of God for counseling

kola1930:
We've been married for a year now and blessed with a pretty daughter. My wife feels little or no urge to be intimate. Its been more than a month now since I had s*x. Reason being that, am angry inside of me that she is always not in the mood, so I decided to hold myself and see when she'll realize it that am angry about it and do the needful. But it seems like am just suffering my self because she seems not to realize she needs to do something fast. I am feeling like cheating on her as a way to punish her maybe she'll realize it that she needs to satisfy her husband to keep him away from other ladies outside. I urgently need advice from married nairalanders... Is the situation d same or similar in ur marriage, and how do I resolve this differences. Am really disturbed

deen11:
I feel u man! Just keep understudying her,and sure you would get her weakness...

Surprise her with many things...vis-a-vis
Looking good and smelling nice
Assisting with house chores as far as u could
Buying her gifts
Taking her out to whr she hasn't been before
Engaging her with sensational talks and so on
.......the list is endless man.

Don't be discouraged and I hope one will work out except if she is no longer interested in the union. Best of luck!!!!!