Straight to the point.

Been in a relationship for over 18 months. My girlfriend comes around once in a while. Most times I ensure meal is prepared so she eats. The strange thing is that after eating the meal dished for her, she would take her dish to the kitchen and wash hers alone leaving other dishes there in the kitchen zinc. If there are 3 plates there, she'll wash her's alone and leave others there.

I have seen this happen more than 5 times. I can't seem to make any sense from this. perhaps she has a message she's trying to pass which i can't decode.

Ladies in the house, kindly help me. What is she trying to communicate?

Ask her.

my brother there is nothing wrong in what she did.......she's the type that doesn't do what high service........next time tell her to assist with the dishes.

Maybe those plates were not properly used.

You know some used plates can be very irritating, especially when you used it to eat beans...

But seriously, sit her down and know why she's acting like that

If she's not older than you, then it's a sign of selfishness.

Cholls:
my brother there is nothing wrong in what she did.......she's the type that doesn't do what high service........next time tell her to assist with the dishes.

High service ke, abi she doesn't know what is courtesy.

blueseacats:
If she's not older than you, then it's a sign of selfishness.

Nothing like selfishness, she's just lazy period.

Iolite:
Ask her.

How do i start such conversation without sounding authoritative or commanding? Ladies sometimes would have this 'I'm i your slave' look on their faces when asked such.

As a lady, how do i tell you such in a not-offensive manner? I love my woman so much and I don't want any misunderstanding.

blueseacats:
If she's not older than you, then it's a sign of selfishness.

I'm 4 years older than her. Selfishness? I can't say!

doctimi:


How do i start such conversation without sounding authoritative or commanding? Ladies sometimes would have this 'I'm i your slave' look on their faces when asked such.

As a lady, how do i tell you such in a not-offensive manner? I love my woman so much and I don't want any misunderstanding.

When she does it again, camly ask her why is she always doing that? Simple.

She simply doesn't see a future with u

Maybe cus she ain't really serious with u or she already has someone else which she sees doing those tins as her responsibility

Either way she ain't ready

U no ur woman. Talk to her wen u feel she's happy. Ask y she does dat and tell her ur not ok wif it. Den keep observing her if dere will b any change. Plz dnt jump into conclusions of her being selfish or not ready. Her attitude might b from home because I no of a home wif 8 children who eat and wash dere used plates. I.E every child in d hauz wash d particular plate dai use in eating in other To reduce d 1st daughters job. because d oda siblings will not want to help out in d chores. And wen diz is done, one can be use to doing such, so It might or might not b her own case. Not saying she's right though buf u can find out.

klenton:
She simply doesn't see a future with u

Maybe cus she ain't really serious with u or she already has someone else which she sees doing those tins as her responsibility

Either way she ain't ready

Please don't break my heart with this.

Tell me more

am confuse just like u can't make sense out of it maybe there it's a spiritual issue no one can tell

Put her to test in such a way that you will be right in her presence...standing next to her and obviously watching her without uttering a word about the plates but just watch her.
Note her reaction.
Never ask her why she does that.

If she washes the plates, note her facial expression. it will tell you more.
If she doesn't still wash it, then, you will have one heck of a married life.





On a second thought,
Tell her...maybe in her happy moments or while walking or watching TV...about a friend of yours or a friend's wife, sister etc who doesn't wash other peoples stuff including clothes and plates etc...and your friend doesn't like it neither do you.



You know how to go about the rest.
Don't be scared and don't appear to serious.
Make it seem like a by the way issue .

I would prefer the former...it works most