Ndewo nu o!

How was the days hustle? No worry, no matter how condition dey, we go dey alright.

So over the weekend, after Arsenal wasted my hard earned N70bux and time. I got home bored, nothing to do, i so decided to see one of those movies my BFF had always told me about, The Perfect Guy with my bottle of chilled Heinkein.
If Whenever I see a movie, I try to pick one or two things from it and ponder on them. I did just that when I watched "The Perfect Guy”

It is a good watch and I think everyone in a relationship should see the movie. It addresses violence in relationship and a host of other things.

Things I learnt…
1. For you to embrace the future with open hands, you have to address your past.

Going into the future with the baggage from the past will eventually ruin it. Leave the past where it belong

2. Define your relationship from the beginning.

You have to be on the same page with your partner. If you want to settle down in a year frame and you dating a man who wants to settle down in ten years time, you are courting with consistent cries and heartbreak. You want kids, he doesn’t
You want a career, he believes women should stay home and be a full time mom’ Clashing interests may likely not change in the long run or vice versa.

3. If he/she is violent to those around you, they are likely never to treat you well.

You cant watch your man beat up a random stranger to the point of death and think he loves you so much, he wont do that to you. He will lie about it being his first- it is always their first when caught in the act.
To get you back, he will try every means. He will lie if he has to, he will go through your friends, he will do everything in his power to get you back. Bottom line, if he treats others around you like shi.t, he will treat you the same. If he is physically violent to others around you, he will be to you

4. Rebound relationship
is deadly.

It can be wild, intoxicating, dangerously intoxicating. Take time to reflect on your past relationship before you jump into a new one. Take time to heal and nurse your vulnerability. Rebounds can cause more harm than good in the long run

5. Sometimes, we need to fight our battles ourselves

6. We don’t know what we are capable of doing till push gets to shove.

We are all capable of murder when it comes to self preservation.

7. There is no Perfect guy/woman anywhere.

Those seemingly boring people, all because they are not the life of a party doesn’t make them a bad idea. There is no such thing as a “perfect”being. He might be the perfect gentleman or lady, treats you well, faithful, God fearing, tall, handsome, beautiful, submissive, honest, hardworking, has a good job, clean your home, f.ucks you well plus the styles join. Perfect beings are only seen on the pages of a romantic novel, bellanaija or instagram pages. You will never find a perfect guy or lady. Just like you, everyone has their flaws.

Have you seen this movie, what did you learnt?

Emotions have overpowered you.

That movie is really full of lessons. To all 'we' gals looking for the most romantic and sweet guy. He might just be a time bomb waiting to explode

Issorait

I dey sh1t i'll comment when i clean my yansh

Will advice ladies to get that movie and learn a thing or two there