I have never had the urge to start a relationship or whatsoever with a girl nt that i don't like girls but just that i don't want distractions from my studies. Now i have gotten what i have been pursuing but i still don't knw how to kick off a relationship with a girl i lyk. I'm good at gisting with them but i just don't knw how to relate my fillings to the ones i lyk. Sometimes i regret not starting in my undergraduate level not minding that i studied my dream course. I want to get married b4 31 years and i need to start engaging my self in a relationship now to achieve that fit. Was it a mistake my not dating in my university days cos i think it would ve been easier for me now? I'm dark, intelligent n look good so it is nt a problem of ugliness. Initially i thought dat with my course i can easily get a girl after i graduate bt i ve graduated to discover that i was wrong cos i still lack dat confidence. LADIES N NIGGAS IN THE HOUSE, HOW DO I BOOST MY CONFIDENCE?

You have tried. Your determination worked well as u studied a course of ur choice. If u have such a great ambition, I'll advice u go get an educated wife from ur village and prepare ur mind for some little hrtbrk here and there bcus u aren't experienced.

Don't try city girls oh, they are responsible for the ruined future of most promising men. A word is enough for the wise.

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To answer ur topic question,no itsnt a bad thing at 25,but u can start now...Just woo ladies u find attractive,most guys have suceeded withou advice from anyone..

Na wa

RadicallyBlunt:
You have tried. Your determination worked well as u studied a course of ur choice. If u have such a great ambition, I'll advice u go get an educated wife from ur village and prepare ur mind for some little hrtbrk here and there bcus u aren't experienced.

Don't try city girls oh, they are responsible for the ruined future of most promising men. A word is enough for the wise.

I welcome ur advice but u knw d ones in the village who are educated behave more or less like d so called city girls. Besides, i hardly knw any girl in my village cos i visit it ones in a year(during xmas). This is y i need to start getting use to the city ones around me.

ivyT:
To answer ur topic question,no itsnt a bad thing at 25,but u can start now...Just woo ladies u find attractive,most guys have suceeded withou advice from anyone..

Na wa

I'm nw ready for girls but I'm nt finding it easy to keep coversation in the respect (woeing) flowing. When i discuss other things lyk education n fashion with them they tend to enjoy it.

For me it's not about the confidence as I can get any girl I want but I'm just not interested in anything called dating or relationship. Women are known for too much drama and I hate things that bother me especially things like regular phone calls and texts. I get flings once in a while though but I doubt if I will ever get married.

tosyne2much:
I also belong to the category with the OP... Let's wait for those who can help us out with good advice

who doesn't knw u on nairaland?

george93:

I'm nw ready for girls but I'm nt finding it easy to keep coversation in the respect (woeing) flowing. When i discuss other things lyk education n fashion with them they tend to enjoy it.

dat one pass me o,lets wait for the elders

This is exactly what happens when guys continuously hide under the shade of

1) I don't want anything to keep me from studying
2) Anything to distract me from serving God

3)Love is not what I need right now

All these flimsy excuses are a constructed strategy to conceal that inner "Timid, Liver-less, Ball-less" personality

Some guys are in their 30s and have never been in a relationship. There is nothing bad about it.

If the offline way doesn't work for you, go online.

george93:
who doesn't knw u on nairaland?

No be by that one bro

I think you first have to look around you, like your residential area, church, work or just anywhere you go frequently, there's definitely a girl at least who checks you out but due to you being absorbed in your 'illustrious' career, you didn't take notice. I think you should read the signs to know the ones 'into' you, if you like her too, just go for the kill.
My opinion tho.

tosyne2much:
I also belong to the same category with the OP... Let's wait for those who can help us out with good advice

KimBerlyie:

What nah?

george93:

I welcome ur advice but u knw d ones in the village who are educated behave more or less like d so called city girls. Besides, i hardly knw any girl in my village cos i visit it ones in a year(during xmas). This is y i need to start getting use to the city ones around me.

Ok God is ur muscle

Your case is as good as mine but am not afraid of telling a girl I love her..
My problem is that along the line after showing some interest they will always withdraw or start doing shakara
Am a graduate and working looking for a gf but could not get..
NB..the ones showing me interest I don't like them

Catalyst4real:
This is exactly what happens when guys continuously hide under the shade of

1) I don't want anything to keep me from studying
2) Anything to distract me from serving God

3)Love is not what I need right now

All these flimsy excuses are a constructed strategy to conceal that inner "Timid, Liver-less, Ball-less" personality

Well said.

Most people commenting don't get the OP's point, it's not that he doesn't see them but he's a sissy in regards to expressing his feelings to them.

Moral of the story: Begin with the end in mind, stop forming book worm or brother righteous & insulate yourself from having a worthwhile interaction with the opposite sex, you need every experience you can get in this man & woman game.

@OP You can start by confiding in a matured, trusted female friend(most likely one you don't have romantic feelings for) your lack of confidence, she definitely can give you tips on how to woe ladies you identify to her

No it isn't Bad... In fact it's refreshing

2kurupt:


Well said.

Most people commenting don't get the OP's point, it's not that he doesn't see them but he's a sissy in regards to expressing his feelings to them.

Moral of the story: Begin with the end in mind, stop forming book worm or brother righteous & insulate yourself from having a worthwhile interaction with the opposite sex, you need every experience you can get in this man & woman game.

@OP You can start by confiding in a matured, trusted female friend(most likely one you don't have romantic feelings for) your lack of confidence, she definitely can give you tips on how to woe ladies you identify to her

nice tip from u.

Well, u could go online, make friends, this will enable you to judge if her character fits you n then express your feelings