You see a guy you have a crush on, he doesn't feel the same way yet but you ask him out maybe he can feel the same way with you. Is there anything wrong with that?

No, it's very healthy to ask a guy out. It shows you know what you want, and set to go for it.


It shows you are:

1. Not particularly invested in traditional gender roles

2. Comfortable with direct, open communication

3. Willing to express your affection and commitment

4. Happy to take the initiative

5. Confident that your partner loves you even without a grand gesture.

And if he is a real man, he'll take you very seriously because you're one of a kind.

Hadez:
You see a guy you have a crush on, he doesn't feel the same way yet but you ask him out maybe he can feel the same way with you. Is there anything wrong with that?

No

Question: If all men are the same,why do women take long to choose them?

Hadez:
You see a guy you have a crush on, he doesn't feel the same way yet but you ask him out maybe he can feel the same way with you. Is there anything wrong with that?

It's mature but such ladies are rare.

alariwo:
No, it's very healthy to ask a guy out. It shows you know what you want, and set to go for it.


It shows you are:

1. Not particularly invested in traditional gender roles

2. Comfortable with direct, open communication

3. Willing to express your affection and commitment

4. Happy to take the initiative

5. Confident that your partner loves you even without a grand gesture.

And if he is a real man, he'll take you very seriously because you're one of a kind.

I love the part where you said if he is a real man. Most men in Nigeria can be categorised as boys because they will definitely take you for granted

shamsuRana:


No

Question: If all men are the same,why do women take long to choose them?

I don't understand your question? And this thread doesn't have anything to do with it

tripplephi:

It's mature but such ladies are rare.

They are not rare, Infact all ladies can do it, they are just scared of rejection

Op its a lie oo..... Please tell me you haven't asked him out yet!!....

Tat sh!t will hunt you later in your relationship oo....


Its not maturity to Nigerian men... Ts stupidity n desperation!!...

If he screws up in the future you'll hear something like
"After all na you ask me out... I wasn't interested in the first place..."

I nor know the epistle wey tat commenter dey yarn o

slyIsaac:
Op its a lie oo..... Please tell me you haven't asked him out yet!!....

Tat sh!t will hunt you later in your relationship oo....


Its not maturity to Nigerian men... Ts stupidity n desperation!!...

If he screws up in the future you'll hear something like
"After all na you ask me out... I wasn't interested in the first place..."

I nor know the epistle wey tat commenter dey yarn o

Yeah, depends on the guy though. You don't see a lady saying "you were the one that asked me out"
That is why I can't date an immature guy

If you don't fukcing care about the view of and comments of others when they accidentally know about what happened, oh why not?

Hadez:


Yeah, depends on the guy though. You don't see a lady saying "you were the one that asked me out"
That is why I can't date an immature guy

Ease up on the romance movies you watch... Tis is africa.. A woman can't tell a man "are you not the one tat asked me out...."
Because tats how it should be ... Tats how the almighty made it to be.... Goodluck with your "mature" guy ....

No on nairaland

Yes in real life. You risk being seen as LovePeddler.

Stupedinluv:
No on nairaland

Yes in real life. You risk being seen as LovePeddler.

Whole because I asked a I like guy out? It is not like that to the whites. They are more civilized ND mature than we are

Hadez:

They are not rare, Infact all ladies can do it, they are just scared of rejection

Well I wish they would be bolder and none would be rejected. Men do not reject o cos it's women that does o

Hadez:


Whole because I asked a I like guy out? It is not like that to the whites. They are more civilized ND mature than we are

You must suffer from inferiority complex to bring white people into this and also equate civility with stupidity. No hard feeling

Stupedinluv:
You must suffer from inferiority complex to bring white people into this and also equate civility with stupidity. No hard feeling

Inferiority complex? So whites are not human? Are you a racist?

Hadez:


Inferiority complex? So whites are not human? Are you a racist?

No. Are you white? or mixed

Stupedinluv:
No. Are you white? or mixed

None and there is nothing stupid about asking a guy out don't bring sentiments or culture into this

Hadez:


None

Why bring white "civility" here then?

How old are you? You sound like a pre-teen

Do you know what civilisation is?

Do you know civil people respect the culture/general behaviour of others?

Do you know asking a man out here is stup1d and whorish?

Do you know morality is on a downward spiral. Worst in "white" people's country?

Stupedinluv:


Why bring white "civility" here then?

How old are you? You sound like a pre-teen

Do you know what civilisation is?

Do you know civil people respect the culture/general behaviour of others?

Do you know asking a man out here is stup1d and a whorish?

Do you know morality is on a downward spiral. Worst in "white" people's country?

Seeing what you typed here, you sound like an infant. Stop living in the shadows and grow up. Oh I just checked your profile. Alright bye

Stupedinluv:


Why bring white "civility" here then?

How old are you? You sound like a pre-teen

Do you know what civilisation is?

Do you know civil people respect the culture/general behaviour of others?

Do you know asking a man out here is stup1d and whorish?

Do you know morality is on a downward spiral. Worst in "white" people's country?

This one izz still a virgin living in her parent house so if a girl taste me it means she is stupidd. Olodo

Hadez:


Seeing what you typed here, you sound like an infant. Stop living in the shadows and grow up. Oh I just checked your profile. Alright bye

You are one of those who think they know. Sweetheart there is no harm in being respectful to people's culture. Thats one of the major ingredients of civility
Dont be a fool

Shamstiel:


This one izz still a virgin living in her parent house so if a girl taste me it means she is stupidd. Olodo

English pls

Stupedinluv:
You are one of those who think they know. Sweetheart there is no harm in being respectful to people's culture. Thats one of the major ingredients of civility
Dont be a fool

Your opinion, your headache, your Virgina, your life... Bye

Hadez:
You see a guy you have a crush on, he doesn't feel the same way yet but you ask him out maybe he can feel the same way with you. Is there anything wrong with that?

In this part of the world its an abomination

Africans generally see it as a taboo-though I disagree

I think you should go after what makes you happy as an individual-Follow your inner voice.The opinions of people shouldn't really matter

But what do I know sef

Dimejidude:


In this part of the world its an abomination

Africans generally see it as a taboo-though I disagree

I think you should go after what makes you happy as an individual-Follow your inner voice.The opinions of people shouldn't really matter

But what do I know sef

Please tell the underaged girl arguing with me oh

Yes

E be like some some girls wan fight here (Hadez vs Stupedinluv)... Make I dey watch.

@Stupedinluv you cant condemn someone's point of view cos it is her thought but as for my own point of view hadez is right cos I don't see any bad in that,you follow your mind and what makes you happy and to see a lady doing that she is a rare gem and not stupid.don't see everyone as yourself

Hadez:
You see a guy you have a crush on, he doesn't feel the same way yet but you ask him out maybe he can feel the same way with you. Is there anything wrong with that?

Sweetheart there's nothing wrong with it...this shows you got guts.and believe me, NO GUTS NO GLORY!!!

Its not really a taboo but strange to our culture. Africans believe that a woman dignity must be respected and reserved. Woman doesnt marry man here, a man does. Therefore, first attraction should be drawn by a man. Though,a lady can appreciate a man first, toasting him can erode her value. give him apparent signs but dont toast him pls.

Dimejidude:


In this part of the world its an abomination

Africans generally see it as a taboo-though I disagree

I think you should go after what makes you happy as an individual-Follow your inner voice.The opinions of people shouldn't really matter

But what do I know sef

Hadez:

Please tell the underaged girl arguing with me oh

U knw dere's no age limit ere on NL, u won't get ur desired arguments especially on d oppositn. To me I see nothin wrong in it bt d issue is d maturity on d guy's part and also his mentality in stuffs like ds.

Dimejidude:


In this part of the world its an abomination

Africans generally see it as a taboo-though I disagree

I think you should go after what makes you happy as an individual-Follow your inner voice.The opinions of people shouldn't really matter

But what do I know sef

Do not say Africans its jst Nigeria only.. Cuz even other African countries aren't as Hypocritic as we are