Words are powerful — more powerful than most people realize, and they also create our reality.
and choosing them carefully will be your greatest friend. When someone throws out a thoughtless comment, the receiving person can easily feel attacked or misunderstood. They feel like they’ve been judged and tried without a jury, and they go into a defensive reaction. They feel the need to state their case and argue down the opposite view. They perceive a strong threat and come out of the corner fighting.
Avoiding or replacing some words can largely avoid a breakdown in communication and a defensive response.
Inspired by Life Hack, Below are 4 words that can destroy a relationship.
1. “Should”
When you say “you should” or “shouldn’t,” what is coming across to the other person is that you think you are superior, an authority, and that you know better than they do. It changes the dynamic from two equal people discussing to a dominant and a submissive relationship.
Try instead: “I would really like it if you could…”
2. “You”
The second you start talking about what you are feeling in sentences that start with “You,” you’re probably going to be in trouble. You might say “You never listen to me!” only wishing to impart that you feel unheard, but what the other person hears is “It’s all your fault!”
“You” comes with an imaginary jabbing finger. It’s accusatory, and if the receiving person is already feeling vulnerable, defensive, or emotional, whatever you say after “you” will be interpreted as an accusation.
Instead, try: “I feel like…” or “When this happens, I feel…”


3. “Must”
Similar to “should,” “must” sets the speaker up as the expert, the more knowledgeable party. It tells the receiving person that you know better and that they should be doing what you say. At some level, the person you are saying this to will feel that you don’t respect their opinion or their logic or their ability to think for themselves.
Try: “I’d love you to…” or “It would really help me if you could…”


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I wonder who takes all these spouse-fight pictures...



If say na Nigerian couple, for the picture u go see d man dey pose like say him wan slap the woman , the woman go tie wrapper pose like say she dey hold him prick.

I can only see three op.

The use of I only shows you are interested only in what you want from the relationship without considering your partner's need