Last week, we tried analyzing the difference between Booty Calls and Friends with benefit. I also mentioned the fact that there should be guidelines in place in order to avoid emotional strings, if both parties intend to keep the friendship as sane as possible.

Some people may believe that friends with benefit can work for as long as they want it. The question is for how long do you think you can have sex without emotional strings, you think you can stay so long without that feeling of togetherness and longing?

For me though, my best bet is six months, really. After six months, you should begin to re analyse what you signed up for because bet it with me, it really starts to get confusing.

Most times, I have noticed that women may want to renege from what they signed for to want something more committed, however the guy tries everything to want to be out of total and absolute commitment. He may eventually crumble when he realizes that he is over dependent on the woman. The woman being very smart realizes that over-dependence and she begins to seek a more structured relationship.

At this point, the onus lies on the man to either join the train, hit the road or scram almost immediately. Man, sometimes being a very insatiable human will (most times) go for the ride, because you cannot imagine me having a great sexual union for 6 months and just hop off like that! Mba! It will be highly implausible that the average man would give up.

Now the point here is not to draw into a relationship if you don’t want one. If what you seek is strictly a friendship that is beneficial. Then I would suggest you re-evaluate the togetherness after 6 months.

Certain inside questions need to be asked, Do we discuss other personal issues apart from sex?, Do I miss her more than just having sex? If the answers to these questions are in the affirmative, Ask yourself a final one, if you would like her to be your girlfriend, If the answer to this final is Yes! Oh Boy!, just go ahead and make it official.

If your answers are negative though, cut it off straight away. Be very fast about it, Yoruba people will say ‘Do not attempt to even smell what you do not intend to eat’ Easy does it, aye?

Casual sex, booty calls, friends with benefit are not like relationships. They don’t last forever. Be smart about it, if you don’t want it to elevate to a level where you never intended it to be. Cut it short!

How long have you gone on casual sex with a lady before...How long did you stay on a friends with benefit thingy before it turned into something else! Let's have you speak!

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it all depends on the guidelines and rules that you guys put up for yourselves.... and sticking by them at ALL cost. there is no shame in telling them NO, every time they want to deviate from the rules.

i believe that such r/ship can last forever, so long as both still get that sexual connection, especially if you dont meet as often.

MRBrownJ:
it all depends on the guidelines and rules that you guys put up for yourselves.... and sticking by them at ALL cost. there is no shame in telling them NO, every time they want to deviate from the rules.

i believe that such r/ship can last forever, so long as both still get that sexual connection, especially if you dont meet as often.

I like the fact that you highlighted the 'all' in the cost! Have you thought about the fact that as humans that we are, No matter the 'all' in the cost! The sexual activity sometimes tend to deflate our very sense of objectivity!

That's why I'm saying that, if it were a purely platonic relationship, it will be easier for the 'all' to be enforcible!

deturla:

I like the fact that you highlighted the 'all' in the cost! Have you thought about the fact that as humans that we are, No matter the 'all' in the cost! The sexual activity sometimes tend to deflate our very sense of objectivity!
That's why I'm saying that, if it were a purely platonic relationship, it will be easier for the 'all' to be enforcible!

what you wrote above is the same excuse cheaters use, and sadly i believe that no matter how the r/ship is, your head should keep it within the boundaries set by yourself. so, however you may feel about this person, they are (and must remain) a bootay call/FWB. even if you had a gf/wife and now became single. if you cant even keep a bootay call/FWB as just that, then i am sorry to say that life is just too hard for you, and you are a very weak man.

I never really understood Booty Calls

SirWere:
I never really understood Booty Calls

You can read about it here!

http://deedeesblog.com/2016/04/28/deedees-musings-friends-with-benefit-or-booty-call/

Hmmmmm....

davide470:
Hmmmmm....

Baddo. How far nah?

deturla:


Baddo. How far nah?

Oga mi,

I am gentle. Been seeing your handwork.

Carry On!