A friend (girl) whom I love, motivated me to put these thoughts in writing.
Enjoy...

Do not stress your time to change a man, if his sisters and his beloved mother couldn't change him. No man is born a good husband. Your actions towards his weaknesses determines his reaction towards you. Love exist between two imperfect people. It doesn't happen between angels, because they are perfect and complete on their own. It is me and you needs it.
A man may have secrets, but chose to keep it to himself, it doesn't mean that he can't trust you to keep secrets for him or that he is hiding something from you.
A "hot tempered man" doesn't mean a wife beater.
He drinks doesn't suggest that he is a fool.
He loves sex more than anything else doesn't mean he cheats on you when you aren't around.
He argues with you, doesn't imply that you don't have genuine opinion.
Most times, men do things without any reasons, some out of ego... That doesn't mean that we are insensitive. But that's how we are created.

Don't just love him ..Respect him.
Finally.. Don't expect your man to be everything you desired in a man.

Please, just don't say "that's how we are created." You're talking about determinism and I refuse to believe that any man is determined and cannot be anything other than what he's been programmed to be.

What happened to all the men who are responsible and disciplined and not egotistical? Were they created any differently?

Everyone chooses to be what they want. It's high time people stopped hiding under the umbrella of determinism.

Oliviaarims:
Please, just don't say "that's how we are created." You're talking about determinism and I refuse to believe that any man is determined and cannot be anything other than what he's been programmed to be.

What happened to all the men who are responsible and disciplined and not egotistical? Were they created any differently?

Everyone chooses to be what they want. It's high time people stopped hiding under the umbrella of determinism.

I couldn't agree with you more sugar. Everyone chooses what they want to be. And to the OP,please its not about respecting him. The issue is whether or not he deserves the respect.

Hannysmilez:
I couldn't agree with you more sugar. Everyone chooses what they want to be. And to the OP,please its not about respecting him. The issue is whether or not he deserves the respect.

God bless you for that addition. Respect, like trust is earned... One has to be deserving of it.

Oliviaarims:


God bless you for that addition. Respect, like trust is earned... One has to be deserving of it.

Exactly. Our girls too should learn to marry men that really deserve respect as men and human beings and not just because they're the 'head of the family'.

Hannysmilez:
Exactly. Our girls too should learn to marry men that really deserve respect as men and human beings and not just because they're the 'head of the family'.

Right.