obowunmi:
Hi everyone,

I've been on the platform for a while and still tragically single.

I recently started meeting with a therapist who let me know that I have difficulty finding someone because I am yet to forgive my parents.

I grew up in a home where:
My parents were very, very abusive towards each other.
My dad sometimes took on the traits of a sadist when he disciplined us.
My mom is the most passive aggressive human being I know.

No one is perfect but my therapist has helped me to understand that I need to forgive them first before I cam commit myself to finding a loving partner.

Most of my girlfriends, only stay with me for the money and leave me.

How do I go about forgiving my parents? Please help.

RoyalRoy:
Oh really? Obowunmi, you were so serious about looking for a wife back in the days? Interesting!!!

Didn't think u were serious about not getting a woman who can stay the long hull with you.

As your therapist has said, you will need to change your perception about your parents.
You need to let go all the hurt and bad memories.

Choose to start a new life for yourself devoid of their respective shortcomings.

I wish you well in your continuous search.