ElDeeVee:


No warning sign jor, at least not this small issue.

ElDeeVee:


I totally disagree with you on this Ferdy. Come on man, these things happen.

MRBrownJ:
what best way there is to make a gal understand that they are just friends, than by saying:" i am gonna drop my GIRLFRIEND off in Ikeja?
this is not about explaining himself to her, this is about putting value into what/who you are.
if he cant even acknowledge what you guys have/are, then there is a red flag here. is he ashamed of you or your r/ship?

MRBrownJ:


you have to let him know how you expect to be treated, how you wanna be viewed/described etc since you have some insecurity/jealousy issues. tell him that this is what you need in order to feel comfortable in this union, and dont forget to ask him what he THINKS you are to him.

dont settle for BS because he thinks you are troublesome, tell him you are a woman that demand RESPECT, that demands that her man be fully open and transparent about what you guys have, and if he has a problem with that then he should wait until he is ready to be in a r/ship (with someone like you).

this is what YOU need, dont be afraid to demand for it, and if he cant deliver then move on instead of staying in a r/ship where you dont feel comfortable in.

staples:
I'm not scared of loosing him. I just don't like it when a guy sees me as a jealous and possessive gf, that's why i was just being careful, but I don't think I can continue with the pretence. We have been together for a month and few days now..Thanks

Jamean:


I believe these are warning signs. Some men are fond of trying to be smart with issues like this in the name of they don't want to hurt the other girl while they end up hurting their girlfriend.

If he really has severed relationship with the other girl then he should be straight with it. He doesn't need to sooth words about his location or whereabouts.

@ Vinshu I think he should have said he was with his girlfriend. In this context I consider the use of "someone" vague and inappropriate. Just like you're with your parent and a friend like this calls, will you say you're with someone to your parents hearing and understanding

If he was in her shoes will he be fine with it?

Ferdyboss:


Oh oooo....ElDeeVee why u just disrupt my dream na.
Only a "cheating guy" allows "these things to happen". This is my own opinion tho. Oya Na sleep sure pass for me now. Catch ya

tolutweety:


I quite agree with LDV on this .

@bolded: These things happen , and it's definitely not only a cheating guy involved.
Is having a gf now an achievement that all a guy has to start thinking of is how to tell the difference between interchanging 'someone' with 'gf'.# candid opinion

Communication and Trust are both essential here.

Good night ,ferdy.

Jamean:


Tolu! let it down.

skarlett:
bae learn to use parargraphs then maybe we can help


But even your boo get a boo

staples:
I swore never to get jealous over anything or complain. My bf has been acting gud,and he has been quite sincere to me.today he received a call while we were chilling and i was about going home,he had plans of dropping me at home at ikeja. The gal asked him where he was "he said i'm home,but I'm going to ikeja to see someone " I didn't say anything, I got pissed in my mind cos i was tagged as "someone ". I felt bad immediately, I don't suspect him,I get jealous easily but i swore never to get jealous or complain about any gal stuff. I said I'll be in this relationship and enjoy every not without nagging, i'll believe what he tells me. But now I'm changing.
I asked him about it, he said he couldn't start explaining himself to her and he wanted her to just get off the phone,he later told me she used to like him before ,but he has made it clear to her that there is no relationship. He said they're just friends nothing more,or cant he havr friends because we are dating,i told him he can have friends. I then told him that if he is in a relationship with any gal,he should tell me and not lie,he said he has told me several times,that he is not in any relationship with any other gal.i said ok. So he dropped me and left and said he will call me.now he just chatted me up saying he's going to stop at vi to eat and see a friend before going home ,i just said okk
Now i feel uncomfortable,i think he wants to hangout with the gal. But i decided not to ask him "which friend" cos i dont want arguement or be tagged as troublesome or a nag.
What should i do? How can i stop this jealousy feeling or whatever? Or should i have asked him which friend he wants to see?
What do u guys think? Please advice me

tolutweety:


I quite agree with LDV on this .

@bolded: These things happen , and it's definitely not only a cheating guy involved.
Is having a gf now an achievement that all a guy has to start thinking of,is how to tell the difference between interchanging 'someone' with 'gf'.# candid opinion

Communication and Trust are both essential here.

Good night ,ferdy.

tolutweety:


Someone babe,why you mention me na.

Good night ,ma.

ElDeeVee:

Jamean:


Trust me they are. She needs not capitalize on it but should bear it mind. Some girls are just side attractions waiting to explode. She needs to clear the issue of how she thinks she should be addressed ideally and truthfulness. I can't stand an insincere partner, small lies begat deeper ones.

As far as the relationship is concerned "girlfriend" is her title. So let it be

ElDeeVee:


The moment this very small issue becomes a warning sign, then it's safe to say there's a very big problem.

I mean, what is the essence of being in a relationship with 'someone' if a small thing like this is a 'warning sign'.