ivyy:


We are sometimes stingy because some of us by default, have the screwed up mentality that the men should do the caretaking and the providing alone

But as maturity sets in, or marriage kicks in, the sensible ones amongst us will understand better

rosieluv:

oya go bak to ur sender ooo,u v bin stylishly lukin for my twouble

me? Okayz

Mathematical:




your reason please

safarigirl:
direct this question to the men who patronise these girls and give them a reason to go the extra mile. They wouldn't be doing it if they weren't getting the needed reaction. hell, they are the ones you people are marrying

I don't do any of that and nobody dey find me, gather knowledge finish and tomorrow you'll visit bellanaija and see the instagram and twitter girls who just post cute pics getting married.

wetin man go do? na to use the winning formula

braithwaite:






Even if I state my reason..doesn't change the fact that you ladies are sly in nature.. sorry bout that

iykekelvins:
1 What makes you fall for a guy?

2 Would you still stay with a guy you love but his sex game aint strong?

3 How do you think is the best way to satisfy a girl?

Cc:Twaci,Optional1,Laveda safarigirl and others

Cutehector:
I wish to ask a question too..




I'd use a story to explain myself. I hav this female friend, we'v been online friends for years.. way back to the very times 2go came up, up till this day, we'v not yet met ourselves in person. Well dats not the issue. She says she met a guy sometime last year and dis guy in question is the nicest man any girl can wish to have, and dat he even proposed to her.. she told me dat she doesn't love him


I'm so surprised.. like seriously, u hav someone who lavishes u with gifts, is caring, nice, gentle, cute, buh she doesn't feel any love for him.

I duno if u get my point


So my question is this


What is it dat a guy will do dat will make a girl attracted to him.. cuz from what she told me, this dude is 100 percent cool.. buh she just doesn't seem to return the feelings.

It's really hurting me cuz i"v been there.

Twaci:
Good morning dear, I can see the ladies in here have answered your questions. But lemme add few points to what they have said.

1. Well, here's what I think about our 'stingyness'. We can not give what we don't have. This could come in terms of money, affection or action. But there are times when we limit our giving and those times are when we feel there are not appreciated.

2. U are talking about makeup here. Lol. Well personally we do it for fun. We love looking different once in a while. And here's another thing, I feel I look pretty much younger without makeup

3. Attention seeking! Ha! To be honest, we kinda thrive on it. Its like a 'Weldone' to all our efforts of looking good or so....
But hey, I feel everyone enjoys attention as much as we do. You guys don't just make it obvious

RoyalBlak007:


So yu saying

ur perfect....good for yu though

Hisduchess:

I think it depends on d lady in question cos for me if u like spend all ur shiishii on me if u gat no brains I will definitely run away one day.though some kind of rejection sometimes comes from the physical attribute of the guy.cos some girls will be like babe how u come dey date this short engine nah? and u know that short guys knows how to take care of there woman,buh that physical attribute makes it difficult for them to find a cool and nice babe to date.so there is more to why ur friend refuses to date d guy.#my10cents#

Hisduchess:

I think it depends on d lady in question cos for me if u like spend all ur shiishii on me if u gat no brains I will definitely run away one day.though some kind of rejection sometimes comes from the physical attribute of the guy.cos some girls will be like babe how u come dey date this short engine nah? and u know that short guys knows how to take care of there woman,buh that physical attribute makes it difficult for them to find a cool and nice babe to date.so there is more to why ur friend refuses to date d guy.#my10cents#

Cutehector:
lol what den would satisfy a woman in this life

Alezy:
lolz. ..These ladies forget money is secondary.

Ayomide93:
I decided to contribute to this post having seen so many comments.
1. The idea of guys been polygamous is a very wrong notion. Personally I am not polygamous. I am a one man one woman person.
2. The act of guys cheating even when they have all they want in their partner is inevitable. Let me give an example. As christians we all love God but often time we sin, that's us cheating on him. When guys cheat simply it is physical, it might probably be to boost their ego, boost their control over the women folks or probably to boast among their friends so they won't be ridiculed.
3. The issue of money and some guys been scared of their women more comfortable than them. Personally I don't know why some guys think a confident, self assured woman is a turn off. I would always want my woman to elevate me in the positive ways.
4. I decided personally that no matter how rich my partner is when I get committed, I would always pay you a salary for your upkeep, though it might be small but yes I would pay my part. I took you from your parents because I felt I can take care of you, when then should I not play that role. So earn *2 of what I earn, I would still pay you salary.
5. The issue of sex again. Personally I believe in intimacy sex. If you can give me a good Mouth Gig then I should be able to eat you out there so well. I believe a normal penetrative sex shouldn't be more than 5-7minutes. The fore play and the intimacy is the sexual stimulation. That is even enough sexual satisfaction to me.
6. As for guys being nice or doing a lot of calling when asking a lady out. I do that often personally because I believe communication is key but I learnt my lesson the hard way because I pushed my one true love away due to that. It became stalking at a time. Sometimes in relationship I believe we need space, space to do our own thinking without our partner interfering.
7. Personally I don't like excessive. I don't love the busty and big yanshed woman. Just me moderate and above all be very intelligent. Your intelligence is what I need, not you cooking my food or doing styles in bed. And the idea of you washing my cloth is a no no for me. You are not my slave.
For any relationship to work, communication and time is key and money is very very important. I say again important, if not now later, responsibilities needs money and as a man it is my duty to provide for my partner and my family, that's what makes me a man. Thank you.

Omotayor123:

Of course, Love comes naturally and it cost Nothing.
But money is important oooo, the love will be boring

Cutehector:
lol what den would satisfy a woman in this life

Mathematical:



wasn't that the reason this thread was create to ask anything you see confusing about we ladies and the general shrewdness?

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you stubborn ooh..

OK lemme ask you this this..I dated a girl for almost a year and half..trust me, I see love in her eyes..couldn't explain that in details.. were so tight up even her granny knows me . To cut it short, comes the night before she travels out..that night hav never witness someone crying like she does,didn't know when tears roll down mi eyes..I encourage, advice her and all .and we discussed on communication.. which is vital if wer to keep the relationship steady.. first two days after she left,we talk and chat almost every time.. then al of a sudden she change.i message her the fourth day she didn't reply my text nor pick up her Skype call..give her days maybe something came up..weeks goneby I was curious what's happening, I'd to call up her mum..her mum pick the call and her mum was about giving her the phone when I overheard her lamenting that she don't want to talk to me..her mum ad to convince her,thn she recieve the call ,her tone was not encouragin,asked her why she's bn acting weird lately.. no cogent reason..she's just muttering.. ad to hang up the call with annoyance and text her.tell her am sorry if I'd wronged her in any way...no reply.. almost every other day,I text and call no sign of her..and I don't want to ruin my ego.i'd to call it quit with her..

So ma'am explain this scenery


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Ayomide93:
I decided to contribute to this post having seen so many comments.
1. The idea of guys been polygamous is a very wrong notion. Personally I am not polygamous. I am a one man one woman person.
2. The act of guys cheating even when they have all they want in their partner is inevitable. Let me give an example. As christians we all love God but often time we sin, that's us cheating on him. When guys cheat simply it is physical, it might probably be to boost their ego, boost their control over the women folks or probably to boast among their friends so they won't be ridiculed.
3. The issue of money and some guys been scared of their women more comfortable than them. Personally I don't know why some guys think a confident, self assured woman is a turn off. I would always want my woman to elevate me in the positive ways.
4. I decided personally that no matter how rich my partner is when I get committed, I would always pay you a salary for your upkeep, though it might be small but yes I would pay my part. I took you from your parents because I felt I can take care of you, when then should I not play that role. So earn *2 of what I earn, I would still pay you salary.
5. The issue of sex again. Personally I believe in intimacy sex. If you can give me a good Mouth Gig then I should be able to eat you out there so well. I believe a normal penetrative sex shouldn't be more than 5-7minutes. The fore play and the intimacy is the sexual stimulation. That is even enough sexual satisfaction to me.
6. As for guys being nice or doing a lot of calling when asking a lady out. I do that often personally because I believe communication is key but I learnt my lesson the hard way because I pushed my one true love away due to that. It became stalking at a time. Sometimes in relationship I believe we need space, space to do our own thinking without our partner interfering.
7. Personally I don't like excessive. I don't love the busty and big yanshed woman. Just me moderate and above all be very intelligent. Your intelligence is what I need, not you cooking my food or doing styles in bed. And the idea of you washing my cloth is a no no for me. You are not my slave.
For any relationship to work, communication and time is key and money is very very important. I say again important, if not now later, responsibilities needs money and as a man it is my duty to provide for my partner and my family, that's what makes me a man. Thank you.

kaboninc:


The things ladies say in hush tones about guys....

He could be a short engine, but still doesn't make him a powerful engine.

kaboninc:


Lol...you poured out your heart in this post. Its cool.

However, for the sections I highlighted, I think with time, you will change your thoughts and perceptions.

braithwaite:



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you stubborn ooh..

OK lemme ask you this this..I dated a girl for almost a year and half..trust me, I see love in her eyes..couldn't explain that in details.. were so tight up even her granny knows me . To cut it short, comes the night before she travels out..that night hav never witness someone crying like she does,didn't know when tears roll down mi eyes..I encourage, advice her and all .and we discussed on communication.. which is vital if wer to keep the relationship steady.. first two days after she left,we talk and chat almost every time.. then al of a sudden she change.i message her the fourth day she didn't reply my text nor pick up her Skype call..give her days maybe something came up..weeks goneby I was curious what's happening, I'd to call up her mum..her mum pick the call and her mum was about giving her the phone when I overheard her lamenting that she don't want to talk to me..her mum ad to convince her,thn she recieve the call ,her tone was not encouragin,asked her why she's bn acting weird lately.. no cogent reason..she's just muttering.. ad to hang up the call with annoyance and text her.tell her am sorry if I'd wronged her in any way...no reply.. almost every other day,I text and call no sign of her..and I don't want to ruin my ego.i'd to call it quit with her..

So ma'am explain this scenery


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ah.. ..oh sorry mate.
Dunno if this your story is geniune.''geniune '' I mean maybe you didn't pour it out all what happen..if we ask her she'll tell her own side of the story..
But if it checks out that your right and that's exactly she did, then she act immature for not telling you the main reason of her new attitude towards you.well we are al different.

Hisduchess:


bros u yaff killed me ooo.God bless u for this write up.u are truely a man with a lot of intelligence. kudos

Hisduchess:


bros no be lie ooo. what we discuss behind u pples back chai! nah die ooo.I still remembered when one guy was following me upandan to marry him,when I showed my friend d guy she was like babe no gree ooo.see his head ooo how are u gonna push out his kids cos they go get big head like their papa.u want ur thing to tear reach ur chest abi. so we ladies we get plenty wahala so make una just understand us bikonu

safarigirl:
people are different.

You misinterpreted that, conveniently skipping my first statement and the last one. I mentioned looks as a second option to 'time'

You don't have to look better than the next male, a woman would date Mr Ibu if he's a constant in her life even if her husband looks like Idris Elba, it's not about looks for most women finally.

It turns out the man travels for periods of four months, which means the woman doesn't get to spend time with him as much as the driver. He's not around her like the driver is.

Like I said, women are different, while many women can live through that, some simply find solace in the closest person.

No be me get wife so I can't go about calling her names, it's disrespectful to her husband

Ayomide93:
Well, I have seen a lot bro and I use my brother's marriage and parents marriage to judge. I have friends who are hopelessly in love also and they hardly don't show it. I can tell you that this things won't change. I have made up my mind, I only pray that God should give me the strength to be a good husband, father and stay committed to my family and that God should increase me in every way and bless me with money to take care of all of my family needs without me complaining.

wizard007:


True, but in the long run sha most women do @ the bolded, leaves me wondering why people tag the male folk promiscuous mostly, I've been in a situation where an engaged lady was rooting for me, I did the do anyway but sat down one day and thought about the whole issue, I couldn't phantom what I had on the guy (her husband to be)

In actual fact the lady in question is even richer than I was and the fiancée? He could buy me, the day I met him he was just too cool, good looking well behaved, and ready to kill a lion for the girl. The lady is not even promiscuous because I was close to her, she spent virtually all of her free time with me and I know how she handles other guys pestering her, this scenario alone left a bad perception in my heart till date about women. Can we just satisfy una?

Mehn you people are just complicated, she's married to the guy now and I can't categorically say she won't so it again, but why is the question, why cheat on the dude while you were engaged and you've got no stain on him.

Love is overrated I believe, its a charade according to the general definition.

Women: the most confusing/confused set of God's creation.

kaboninc:

See what am saying? No be woman born that man with 'big' head?
Hmmmmm