Have you ever seen a male friend push a great woman away?
Some men want a relationship and are usually happier when they are in one...but here is where it gets tricky. They like to love but have you ever noticed they seem afraid of it too
Have a friend with a great job, good looking, incredibly smart but he has a problem and don't know how to solve it...he could be caring, cool, aloof, critical and distant . He eventually pushed his girlfriend away with this attitude. He doesn't like that about himself but can't help it....he just doesn't know why.

why do some men mess things up? what are they scared of

*modified.



Ok I didn't see the "some" in the topic



Well it's not a must for everyone to succeed in a relationship.. relationships are meant to bring out the best in people while pointing out their flaws so dat they could be a better person..


It all boils down to tolerance.. most people do not knw how to tolerate issues in a relationship.


If he/she has got fears, den it's the job of the other partner to make him/her see reasons why they need to rise above such fears

because the fear of love is the beginning of wisdom

Cutehector:
Layla I disagree with u abeg..



Lai lai.

ok, i'm all ears and eyes

Cutehector:
Layla I disagree with u abeg..



Lai lai.

lol, says you right?

layla129:


lol, says you right?

lol I modified. Pls re-read my original comment

Men no dey fear relationship joor
Na commitment we dey fear so

We feel it will prevent us from free pucci

czarr:
Men no dey fear relationship joor Na commitment we dey fear so
We feel it will prevent us from free pucci

Every serious relationship need commitment. So
Free pucci is not that guy's problem...he doesn't even have that time

favourboy1:
bcus u ladies r bad, starting with the op

huh you say?!! and who the hell liked your comment?

Cutehector:
*modified.



Ok I didn't see the "some" in the topic



Well it's not a must for everyone to succeed in a relationship.. relationships are meant to bring out the best in people while pointing out their flaws so dat they could be a better person..


It all boils down to tolerance.. most people do not knw how to tolerate issues in a relationship.


If he/she has got fears, den it's the job of the other partner to make him/her see reasons why they need to rise above such fears

*scoffs* easier said

I 'll be here chilling n reading comments

layla129:


huh you say?!! and who the hell liked your comment?

and who the hell made me check ur pics, r u kissing spirit being, go sell pure wate jor.

Maybe relationships is a drainage pipe of his scarce resources and he's realised the best way to save more is to avoid them? Have you thought of the fact that some guys prioritise money and savings more than relationship especially if most of the women they encounters will some way or the other expect them to take over some of their financial responsibility? Of which they can't afford? Hello?

ronald4lif:
Maybe relationships is a drainage pipe of his scarce resources and he's realised the best way to save more is to avoid them? Have you thought of the fact that some guys prioritise money and savings more than relationship especially if most of the women they encounters will some way or the other expect them to take over some of their financial responsibility? Of which they can't afford? Hello?

lol. maybe true but i doubt it

i can't speak for other guys, as or me i would say TRUST is the major reason why am scared of it.

Mindset.

Some guys are allergic to strafing

layla129:
Have you ever seen a male friend push a great woman away?
Some men want a relationship and are usually happier when they are in one...but here is where it gets tricky. They like to love but have you ever noticed they seem afraid of it too
Have a friend with a great job, good looking, incredibly smart but he has a problem and don't know how to solve it...he could be caring, cool, aloof, critical and distant . He eventually pushed his girlfriend away with this attitude. He doesn't like that about himself but can't help it....he just doesn't know why.

why do some men mess things up? what are they scared of

Hahahaha. Coz women are insincere to themselves now and also stressful.

schumastic:
i can't speak for other guys, as or me i would say TRUST is the major reason why am scared of it.

Why not wait for her to give you a reason to doubt her love instead of acting based on your imaginations?

DeeTus:
Hahahaha. Coz women are insincere to themselves now and also stressful.

indeed

layla129:

indeed

Thanks for acknowledging that!

layla129:


*scoffs* easier said

very well den, marriage isn't for d faint hearted

layla129:
Have you ever seen a male friend push a great woman away?
Some men want a relationship and are usually happier when they are in one...but here is where it gets tricky. They like to love but have you ever noticed they seem afraid of it too
Have a friend with a great job, good looking, incredibly smart but he has a problem and don't know how to solve it...he could be caring, cool, aloof, critical and distant . He eventually pushed his girlfriend away with this attitude. He doesn't like that about himself but can't help it....he just doesn't know why.

why do some men mess things up? what are they scared of

what's the point being a boyfriend and she will keep other men "friends" . Why not just remain a man "friend " to her. Itss more beneficial . U enjoy what the boyfriend enjoys and no obligations

layla129:


Why not wait for her to give you a reason to doubt her love instead of acting based on your imaginations?

is not a thing of imagination cus I tried that before and my doubt was cleared on it..at the end I realized that, is good to trust but is better not to

layla129:


lol. maybe true but i doubt it

You seem to know this guy quite well. Are you the one involve or a friend? Coz most stories here are always about friend even when the posters have deep details of the 'person' involve. How about you give him more green light lol.

ronald4lif:


You seem to know this guy quite well. Are you the one involve or a friend? Coz most stories here are always about friend even when the posters have deep details of the 'person' involve. How about you give him more green light lol.

lool...he's my ex. Ssshhhh!

Just wondering... When is this old enough to know better going to kick in for some people? Or is it boredom?

op....i think its more of a personality mindset kind of thing.
we have emotional guys
we have outspoken extrovets
we have introvets etc.
this guy is probably the kind of guy that takes a generation to understand and even at that you will still be getting to know him. i am sorry to presume here but i assume that u wanted a serious relationship from him and it made him uncomfortable, that made him choose between starting a love life or being single(just a tot, cud be wrong). all the same i can say to 80 percent that its a time factor he just doesnt feel ready yet, that kind of person doesnt just date incessantly but does so with serious intent for marriage. he cud strafe ohhh but a relationship is different to him.

layla129:


lool...he's my ex. Ssshhhh!

u broke up?

layla129:


lol. maybe true but i doubt it

maybe true? u must be joking.
this post is actually referring to me.
i dumped a lady January dis year cos of her uncaring attitude towards me.
i used to giv her money but when i started my building project my cash flow took a downward turn and i started managing myself to the point that to eat very well like b4 became a temporary challenge 4 me.
she knows abt the ongoing building project and she also knows the project is responsible for my recent lack of liquid cash BUT she still request for money from me (AND SHE DEY WORK OH)
I dnt have to explain myself to someone who is blind, deaf, insensitive, unconcerned and uncaring.
I had to dump her mehn.
@28, i too young to get HBP
she nor wise!

pedrilo:
maybe true? u must be joking.
this post is actually referring to me.
i dumped a lady January dis year cos of her uncaring attitude towards me.
i used to giv her money but when i started my building project my cash flow took a downward turn and i started managing myself to the point that to eat very well like b4 became a temporary challenge 4 me.
she knows abt the ongoing building project and she also knows the project is responsible for my recent lack of liquid cash BUT she still request for money from me (AND SHE DEY WORK OH)
I dnt have to explain myself to someone who is blind, deaf, insensitive, unconcerned and uncaring.
I had to dump her mehn.
@28, i too young to get HBP
she nor wise!

My brother, u did the best thing....


What that op dont know is d@t such men are ready to settle down. But they wont understand and start flirting with other guys(even when sex is not involved) thinkin its jus some no string attached freindship. thats how they lose the focused guys and falll in d hands of the ''by the way guys''.