Please i want a sincere answer and no insult please. I have a girlfriend who resides in Lagos while i live in Abuja. We have been dating for 2years now thou she always come around to Abuja and she work in a bank. Anytime i am in Lagos i stayed in her house . Now to my story i was going through her laptop and i saw a sex video which involved her and a top executive director. i quickly copied the video which lasted for 1 hour.(this is thesame girl that told me no sex until marriage) I also notice she has been married before cos i saw her wedding pictures which she has never discussed with me during the 2years we spent together. when she got home i asked her if she is married then she said no. she left the next day and i was still in shock cos i said who on earth will hide the marriage aspect from a man who has proposed to you. Couple of months ago i bought a car for her as a birthday gift at least you will know i care and also paid a year rent. yesterday i got so annoyed that i went on a blog and i captured an headline of her and her so call ED and i pasted it on facebook and sent her a message. she saw it and called she was begging me to forgive thou i removed the story and names leave just the headline. i also asked her about the marriage stuff she said she is no longer with the husband. A lot of things were discussed on the phone but i latter told her that i will not upload her sex video if only she can refund all the money i have spent on her because she has deceived me and i have wasted 2years of life. Based on my calculation even thou i missed a lot of things out i told her to refund N5M atleast that will over 60% of what i have spent on her. She started pleading that I want to blackmail her. please my question is :Is this really blackmail cos all i wanted is my money since i cant even go out with her again.

op sorry but did they mix anything in your food or drink this night cus it is reacting seriously

If it isn't blackmail, please tell me what it is

Just move on dude. Na like that your destiny choose am for u

My lie detector machine just give u a dirty slap

How on earth will u discover ur girlfriend has another man plus also married in the past, and u still proceed to buy her a car




Chai, u too dey lie bro...

Was the video a recent one? Or did she make it before she met you?

If it was while you were dating, that's horrible...

It's a terrible situation, but yes, you are absolutely blackmailing her, especially if you know that she does not have the money... 5M is A LOT OF MONEY. Gifts should be given with a clear heart, and shouldn't be taken back after given.

I know you're angry and feel like she took advantage of you (which she has), but the best you can do is move on and leave her to be miserable.

Can you take the car back and sell it to get some money back? Make her move out of the apartment that you paid for in advance and rent to someone else?

I'm sorry that she was so dishonest with you, some people are terrible.

I dated a guy that was horrible to me, and when I left him, I just took my clothes + makeup, left everything else. The took a year at least, but having a clean break like that where I didn't have to put myself through arguing over items was good. Being able to move on and leave the material things behind let me start to heal much faster than if I spent time trying to make sure everything was "fair".

Kiaful oo because she may kill u as that is the best cure for a blackmail

Also, if the video was before you started dating, then maybe the things she has been through made her want a fresh start, which I don't think can be held against her... Did she outright lie and say she was a virgin, never married? Maybe that time for her was painful and she doesn't want to think about it anymore. Is she a good girlfriend? She seems to be very open with you if she let you use her laptop and stay on her house without checking up or locking you out...

Op i think you are lying. This is 2016 not 1998, people ain't all that gullible.

Belaqua:
Was the video a recent one? Or did she make it before she met you?

If it was while you were dating, that's horrible...

It's a terrible situation, but yes, you are absolutely blackmailing her, especially if you know that she does not have the money... 5M is A LOT OF MONEY. Gifts should be given with a clear heart, and shouldn't be taken back after given.

I know you're angry and feel like she took advantage of you (which she has), but the best you can do is move on and leave her to be miserable.

Can you take the car back and sell it to get some money back? Make her move out of the apartment that you paid for in advance and rent to someone else?

I'm sorry that she was so dishonest with you, some people are terrible.

I dated a guy that was horrible to me, and when I left him, I just took my clothes + makeup, left everything else. The took a year at least, but having a clean break like that where I didn't have to put myself through arguing over items was good. Being able to move on and leave the material things behind let me start to heal much faster than if I spent time trying to make sure everything was "fair".

You sabi talk sha

Shey ya....sorry. temper justice with mercy.

Ask her to refund you at least half of the cash (N2.5m or N3m)

better still, you can tell her to spread the payment in 8 months.

I think that will be a bit easier for her to pay

dollyjoy:
Op i think you are lying. This is 2016 not 1998, people ain't all that gullible.

seconded

Fire on the mountain

Belaqua:
Was the video a recent one? Or did she make it before she met you?

If it was while you were dating, that's horrible...

It's a terrible situation, but yes, you are absolutely blackmailing her, especially if you know that she does not have the money... 5M is A LOT OF MONEY. Gifts should be given with a clear heart, and shouldn't be taken back after given.

I know you're angry and feel like she took advantage of you (which she has), but the best you can do is move on and leave her to be miserable.

Can you take the car back and sell it to get some money back? Make her move out of the apartment that you paid for in advance and rent to someone else?

I'm sorry that she was so dishonest with you, some people are terrible.

I dated a guy that was horrible to me, and when I left him, I just took my clothes + makeup, left everything else. The took a year at least, but having a clean break like that where I didn't have to put myself through arguing over items was good. Being able to move on and leave the material things behind let me start to heal much faster than if I spent time trying to make sure everything was "fair".

Talk true

I don't know how much it cost to kill but with the present economy situation, boys can do it for 1m. Pls forget about the money you've spent. Thank God you haven't spent on the wedding and other future things in your names. Let her be! The freedom you have is enough. Intact, change your keys or apartment cos I see her as a potential killer.

Biko upload the video letz watch

Video was recent the date shows April 2016
lytech1 i bought the car early this year and i got to know about this video just recently

akinsessy:
Video was recent the date shows April 2016
lytech1 i bought the car early this year and i got to know about this video just recently

No, she has to go.

op,u don high on wet weed

Guys be claiming they only give girls toothpick on a date...real men spend millions. Op, this is a cheap blackmail, just move on and forget about her.

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