Well today we'll be sharing a few great ideas for our readers who recently broke up and are still finding it a little bit difficult to let go or already let go but you're still hurting terribly deep down!

Before I go on i want to make something a little bit clear!!!

Breakups are bound to happen, doesn't matter if you do all the do's and don'ts in a relationship it will just happen someday and you might be prepared or not. Now the question is "Can you take the heat"


Below are a few steps you can try out, it works all the time i assure you!!

1. Cry all you want. Let the tears flow, it's healthy for you because you could be releasing grief and pain. You may be afraid to start because you're fearful you'll never stop, but you will.


2. Do something everyday to help yourself heal. Exercise, read, watch some self-helpTV/DVD's, learn to meditate and never underestimate the power of positive prayer. Pick things that you know will be fun or beneficial and do them. Don't wait for the mood to come overtake you, take one action and then take another.

3. Find emotional support. There are so many ways you can get emotional support; from your friends yeah and when I say friends I mean your real hommies, don't make the mistake of breaking up and then starting another relationship just yet all because you want to make the pain go away and feel okay again No! That's not how things work! You just got out of a relationship so you need a lot time, calm down and ponder about your last relationship, where things went wrong and probably you might learn one or two lessons from there!!

For the ladies, don't be easily brainwashed into another relationship, it might just end the same way the previous one did and the next thing you start the tag "all men are the same" no they are not, never been and will never be!

4. Don't be a doormat. If your soon-to-be-ex continues to call you or simply won't go away (or move out) tell them you can't heal with them around and ask them to keep their distance. If they are harassing or threatening you it is best to call law enforcement for information and advice.

5. Keep busy. If you wake up early take a walk, go out to breakfast or do something around the house. Try a little "retail therapy" (go shopping) or enjoy the decadence of going to a movie in the middle of the day. Many businesses allow their staff to take "mentalhealth days" if needed. If you can't sleep do the crossword puzzle, read or watch TV. Don't sit in your room and ruminate, you have to free your mind so your heart can heal.

6. Don't try to mask your pain by trying to find a replacement. We all know the term "rebound relationship" these happen when we (unconsciously) use another person to fill the gap that's been created by the ending of a relationship. These transitional connections can feel healing in the short term, but if you don't process your pain appropriately you will not be able to be in a fully committed partnership.

7. Don't spend too much time alone. Hang out with friends or make new ones, go to coffee with someone you can talk to, volunteer in your community. You will need time alone, but if you isolate yourself you won't be able to fully process your feelings or get the support you need to heal.

8. Trust your feelings. Even if you were taken by surprise by the breakup, your inner voice is telling you something. Listen carefully and you will hear that it will all be OK. You just have to let your feelings guide you.

9. Take your time. Don't rush out and buy a new car or move to a new home or another town. Major changes like those are merely a way of avoiding your feelings. Believe that with a little time, patience and support you will feel better and find love again.

10. Research. Find out what others, who have not just survived but thrived after their relationships ended did to achieve peace of mind. There are some great books on surviving a breakup, my favorite is "How to Survive the Loss of a Love" by Peter McWilliams. This little gem will give you insight, exercises and some sage advice for dealing with this heart wrenching issue.

With love!

Famenaija NG

Source: http://www.famenaija.info/2016/06/just-broke-up-take-these-10-great-ideas.html?m=1

Broke up on Saturday..



I think I find number 4, very useful....

Person need lessons on how to survive break up again? Are we getting duller?