Good day everyone.

One of my friend's ( not me biko ) is in a serious mess right now with the girl he his suppose to marry, he is also a NLander, I'm sure he will be reading this thread.

It started out like this, he met his fiancee about 3 years ago after she completed her N.Y.S.C prog, they fell in love quickly and everything has been wonderful between them, they guy comes from a very rich home and the girl comes from a comfortable family, both parents are really happy with the marriage plans because they can see that their children are really in love...

My friend is the quiet, loving, fun of guy who really gets along with people easily and the girl is really nice too. The guy and girl are on a no sex relationship which was intiated by the Guy,because of his religious background.

The problem started when, my friend received a strange call one day from an unknown number, the number had called several times before but he had always ignored it, the day he finally picked the call, he nearly died from heart attack from what the caller was saying.

The caller was one of his fiancee's ex BF's, calling to tell him that, the lady he his about to marry, has aborted 3 times for him and also has a son for him, that he cannot marry his (ex bf) wife, that if he doubts him, they should go for DNA test to confirm. My friend was shocked to his core and confronted his wife to be ,she could not deny it, she started crying pleaded for my friend to forgive her, that she did not know how to tell him all these years, that she truly loves him (my friend).

Right now the innocent boy is really really confused, its affecting all areas of his life..the wedding is suppose to hold later in the year..

Please guys Advice...

Thanks

cc

lalasticlala
dominique

Your friend, You and your entire circle of paddies are not yet ready for marriage.

Oh. I'm speechless.

How he take cosign you?

agitator:
Your friend, You and your entire circle of paddies are not yet ready for marriage.

i agree with the bold..............but you are not in any position to judge people you don't know

IamPatriotic:
How he take cosign you?

k.

ForeverYoung197:
Oh. I'm speechless.

so was i, when i heard the story...... its really sad

MrDojo:


so was i, when i heard the story...... its really sad

Dwamn! She's lucky. She has a love child, aborted 3x still someone was willing to marry her. While me, single.

ForeverYoung197:




Dwamn! She's lucky. She has a love child, aborted 3x still someone was willing to marry her. While me, single.

if he knew initially, i don't think he would have gotten close to her

Though, a serious matter...I would have pleaded for forgiveness of the lady if it were abortion alone (very bad though) but for the child, it will take greater grace to forgive.

But how on earth did the Lady keep such secret for good 3 yes and still want to proceed with the marriage? when was she expecting to tell the guy? I guess in their old age.

Much as I won't kill her for having a baby, but openness would've solved it long ago

I'm in a courtship of 7 months (no sex as well) but know virtually everything about my woman.
Some girls they form smart when indeed the be dulandoo

Dat babe can kill. Hw can she hide such secret for dat long

nnamdi1993:
Dat babe can kill. Hw can she hide such secret for dat long

it blew me away when i heard it oooo

Nemeka:
Though, a serious matter...I would have pleaded for forgiveness of the lady if it were abortion alone (very bad though) but for the child, it will take greater grace to forgive.

But how on earth did the Lady keep such secret for good 3 yes and still want to proceed with the marriage? when was she expecting to tell the guy? I guess in their old age.

Much as I won't kill her for having a baby, but openness would've solved it long ago

I'm in a courtship of 7 months (no sex as well) but know virtually everything about my woman.
Some girls they form smart when indeed the be dulandoo

Abortion is a woman's right.

Lying is no one's right.

So since ur idiot frnd don dey date d gurl........ He neva see her with pikin ba?....... Continue deceivin ur sef.

The guy should forget / cancel the marriage plans and move on with his life... the Girl is a biat*ch

foolinlove:
Abortion is a woman's right.

Lying is no one's right.

I'm against the bold, but that's just my opinion.....

the matter is really weighing down.

rugipp:
The guy should forget / cancel the marriage plans and move on with his life... the Girl is a biat*ch

3yrs wasted mehn, the guy is considering bad bad

YINKS89:
So since ur idiot frnd don dey date d gurl........ He neva see her with pikin ba?....... Continue deceivin ur sef.

And later if they get married and baby refuse to cum...dey'll be blamin the innocent demons in their villa


You no fit help ur frnd do proper research sef....u na just frnd for mouth.....wetin concern me sef Who una epp?

marshalcarter:
And later if they get married and baby refuse to cum...dey'll be blamin the innocent demons in their villa


You no fit help ur frnd do proper research sef....u na just frnd for mouth.....wetin concern me sef Who una epp?

Chairman na wa for you Ooooo.... proper research??!! How person wan tey knw say she get d@ kin secrete

He should let her go. 3 years is nothing compared to a lifetime of sadness. He won't be happy if he marrys her . He should let her go he won't die.

I'm more than confuse... lemme think and come back 2 say something sensible.

Lol, my thought exactly[quote author=IamPatriotic post=47076571]How he take cosign you?

let him dump her already

I believe if a person really loves you, your flaws and past mistakes shouldn't determine their decisions about you, but keeping something as important and serious as having a kid already from your partner is extremely deadly. I wouldn't blame the guy if he call of the wedding.

Its not easy you know....I don't even know what he will do...

okells:
He should let her go. 3 years is nothing compared to a lifetime of sadness. He won't be happy if he marrys her . He should let her go he won't die.

Its not easy for him....I just hope he makes the right decision.....


JOIN/SUPPORT #TEAMDOJO lala is part of us...

Berlyn:
let him dump her already

I don't think anybody would blame him for calling it off....

Lewatolu:
I believe if a person really loves you, your flaws and past mistakes shouldn't determine their decisions about you, but keeping something as important and serious as having a kid already from your partner is extremely deadly. I wouldn't blame the guy if he call of the wedding.

MrDojo:
Its not easy for him....I just hope he makes the right decision.....


JOIN/SUPPORT #TEAMDOJO lala is part of us...

ayaf broken up with lala i can't be in your team since he is a member of your team


I'll be shy to express my self

marshalcarter:
And later if they get married and baby refuse to cum...dey'll be blamin the innocent demons in their villa


You no fit help ur frnd do proper research sef....u na just frnd for mouth.....wetin concern me sef Who una epp?

F uck knows i am praying that baby doesnt Cum

Berlyn:
ayaf broken up with lala i can't be in your team since he is a member of your team


I'll be shy to express my self

Hmmm... Interesting