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Guys, Here Are 5 Reasons Why You Should Be A Baby Daddy. by ShaqFu: 12:02pm On Jul 03, 2016 |
Wait, wait and wait. Before you go all religious and self righteous, just hear me out a bit, and if you choose to, please do so with an open mind, devoid of any religious or self conflicting moral code or self righteousness. 4 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Guys, Here Are 5 Reasons Why You Should Be A Baby Daddy. by Cutehector(m): 12:08pm On Jul 03, 2016 |
Wat sort of arrant fuckery is this 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Guys, Here Are 5 Reasons Why You Should Be A Baby Daddy. by Nobody: 12:12pm On Jul 03, 2016 |
Don't be án asshole. How does this benefit the baby or the mum? 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Guys, Here Are 5 Reasons Why You Should Be A Baby Daddy. by ShaqFu: 12:12pm On Jul 03, 2016 |
Cutehector:Its basically the kind of fuckery people like you, who are too self righteous to understand, won't have the scud to understand. 2 Likes |
Re: Guys, Here Are 5 Reasons Why You Should Be A Baby Daddy. by Mopricelezz(f): 12:13pm On Jul 03, 2016 |
Baby Daddy huh? |
Re: Guys, Here Are 5 Reasons Why You Should Be A Baby Daddy. by ShaqFu: 12:15pm On Jul 03, 2016 |
Jolsnow:It does benefit the baby, as the baby will have people to carter for him or her, rather than watch people who are suppose to be mamas and papas tear each other apart. |
Re: Guys, Here Are 5 Reasons Why You Should Be A Baby Daddy. by Nobody: 12:15pm On Jul 03, 2016 |
Selfish... 2 Likes |
Re: Guys, Here Are 5 Reasons Why You Should Be A Baby Daddy. by ShaqFu: 12:16pm On Jul 03, 2016 |
Mopricelezz:Yep, baby daddy, you should consider being a baby mama also. |
Re: Guys, Here Are 5 Reasons Why You Should Be A Baby Daddy. by ShaqFu: 12:17pm On Jul 03, 2016 |
mimzy:I believe that's the title of Kim Kardashina's book. But hey, look at the bright side, at least its better than the alternative, which is usually physical abuse or death. |
Re: Guys, Here Are 5 Reasons Why You Should Be A Baby Daddy. by Nobody: 12:20pm On Jul 03, 2016 |
ShaqFu: Nope.. The difference is you didn't even give it a chance at all You killed 'it' before it even had an opportunity to live n survive... 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Guys, Here Are 5 Reasons Why You Should Be A Baby Daddy. by postmann: 12:20pm On Jul 03, 2016 |
This belongs to the gutters, Mr ShaqFu!!! Completely irresponsible and self-seeking. You must have planned every aspect of your life --- your lust, carefree attitude etc quite ahead of the child whom you already planned to give an imbalanced life just to make yourself convenient. A Child deserves a normal home with a loving mom and dad. 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Guys, Here Are 5 Reasons Why You Should Be A Baby Daddy. by Mopricelezz(f): 12:23pm On Jul 03, 2016 |
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Re: Guys, Here Are 5 Reasons Why You Should Be A Baby Daddy. by MrObontami(m): 12:24pm On Jul 03, 2016 |
Inasmuch i will be allowed to fcccl other girls its fcccking ok my me 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Guys, Here Are 5 Reasons Why You Should Be A Baby Daddy. by ShaqFu: 12:28pm On Jul 03, 2016 |
postmann:Yea, a child deserve all that, but what happens when the marriage collapse? Does a child deserve to live in a home where there isn't an atom of happiness? Where there one form of fighting or quarreling almost everyday. We make plans, and sometimes, that plan doesn't work out. And then, what next? 1 Like |
Re: Guys, Here Are 5 Reasons Why You Should Be A Baby Daddy. by ShaqFu: 12:31pm On Jul 03, 2016 |
mimzy:Not really. Most times, giving 'it' a chance usually end with hatred and unhappiness, and both parents keeping malice. There are some things that are D.O.A. Our giving those things 'a chance' only foster more hatred. I tell you, hoping on a dead course is what is making many homes very unhappy these days. |
Re: Guys, Here Are 5 Reasons Why You Should Be A Baby Daddy. by BloodyCrook: 12:37pm On Jul 03, 2016 |
Cutehector:Messt@rdd you hang onto front page like an asthmatic patient hang onto an inhaler but your brain is so filled with sawdust you have nothing reasonable to say always! Cutedullard!!! 1 Like |
Re: Guys, Here Are 5 Reasons Why You Should Be A Baby Daddy. by Nobody: 12:40pm On Jul 03, 2016 |
postmann: Well written... 2 Likes |
Re: Guys, Here Are 5 Reasons Why You Should Be A Baby Daddy. by postmann: 12:40pm On Jul 03, 2016 |
ShaqFu: It would be better you had given your marriage the best shot of survival and planned to raise a kid with all the advantages of a happy, balanced home than premeditatedly built a disastrous atmosphere for an innocent child. When that child grows up; you wouldn't get to tell him the flimsy reason his mother wasn't ever around was because of the bull crap of reasons you sited up there. Rather you'd tell him how hard you tried but she didn't stay and what your experiences and failings were in your marriage (just as for illustration; this is not your portion). And he'll pick up from there to be a better husband and father, learning from your mistakes. You can't prepare him to fail just because you want the fruits of marriage without the ploughing and sowing. #GreedyShaqFu 6 Likes |
Re: Guys, Here Are 5 Reasons Why You Should Be A Baby Daddy. by ShaqFu: 12:48pm On Jul 03, 2016 |
postmann:At what expense? The expense of not ever talking to the mother of your child? Or hating her more than you hate the devil? Come on bro, loosen up, no everyone desire to be trapped in the age old contract call 'marriage'. When that child grows up; you wouldn't get to tell him the flimsy reason his mother wasn't ever around was because of the bull crap of reasons you sited up there. Rather you'd tell him how hard you tried but she didn't stay and what your experiences and failings were in your marriage (just as for illustration; this is not your portion). And he'll pick up from there to be a better husband and father, learning from your mistakes.On the contrary, when the child grows up, he'll get to know what it really mean for one to have happiness, devoid of society's expectations and the likes. Remember, I never opined that the child will be left uncared for, or even abandoned, he still have his mother, and hey, he can visit his grand parents and spend time with them, and of course, his father. Remember bro, marriage isn't for everyone. |
Re: Guys, Here Are 5 Reasons Why You Should Be A Baby Daddy. by ShaqFu: 12:51pm On Jul 03, 2016 |
MrObontami:Now which married woman will smile of even allow his husband fuck_ other girls? |
Re: Guys, Here Are 5 Reasons Why You Should Be A Baby Daddy. by MrObontami(m): 1:05pm On Jul 03, 2016 |
ShaqFu: i doubt there is any ?? |
Re: Guys, Here Are 5 Reasons Why You Should Be A Baby Daddy. by mercichoco(f): 1:18pm On Jul 03, 2016 |
Op, its ur level of thinking. Not all family experience domestic violence, i believe when u become an adult and hopefully get married with an enviable family, u will flash back to this and simply laugh at ur naivity. 3 Likes |
Re: Guys, Here Are 5 Reasons Why You Should Be A Baby Daddy. by ShaqFu: 1:18pm On Jul 03, 2016 |
MrObontami:Well there hardly is. Almost all woman are possessive and they hate 'sharing' their men. |
Re: Guys, Here Are 5 Reasons Why You Should Be A Baby Daddy. by postmann: 2:05pm On Jul 03, 2016 |
ShaqFu: Marriage and parenthood are for people who are selfless and highly responsible. People who are sacrificial and devotional. People who can put others' needs ahead of theirs. People who can live for others. Mr ShaqFu, until you attain these attributes, you have no moral right to either father a child or make a woman yours. ShaqFu: You mean when the child grows up, he will get to know it doesn't take a good dose of responsibility and self-sacrifice to become a father. Or if she's a girl, she can actual mother 3 kids from 3 different men in the name of happiness which you couldn't see as selfishness and irresponsibility. ShaqFu:Thanks for once again displaying your acute sense of selfishness and irresponsibility. So you sow your wild oats in the depth of a woman and when it's time for responsibility, you pass the baton to the mother and grandparents while you live foot loose and fancy free!!!! Take a study on the ills of children raised by single parent. 8 Likes |
Re: Guys, Here Are 5 Reasons Why You Should Be A Baby Daddy. by Acidosis(m): 2:35pm On Jul 03, 2016 |
If being a baby daddy will give you peace of mind, go ahead. Wizkid, Olamide, Flavour, Davido, 2face, etc are all baby daddies, yet a large percentage of Nigerian youths adore these folks and make them role models. If you love Wizkid, you should love baby daddy ideology. If you adore Wizkid but condemn baby daddy on Nairaland, you're a grand hypocrite. I do not support baby daddy ideology. You can be one by circumstance though, but I won't encourage or preach such as against a happy marriage. It's sad that we Nigerians only recognize and adore money. We throw away discipline and principles to the dogs once Mr/Dr. Money comes knocking. It is good for Wizkid to birth a boy at 19/20, but wrong for Kunle at your neighbourhood to sleep around with Condom. It is shameless for Bisi to get pregnant outside marriage, but Sophia, and co are celebrities for carrying Davido and Flavour's babies. King (Dr.) MONEY PhD. GCFR, Naija's number one ruler. 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Guys, Here Are 5 Reasons Why You Should Be A Baby Daddy. by Nobody: 2:46pm On Jul 03, 2016 |
Where is TV01 when needed? |
Re: Guys, Here Are 5 Reasons Why You Should Be A Baby Daddy. by Nobody: 3:09pm On Jul 03, 2016 |
Well, I don't share OP's views but I also wonder where you got your views from. postmann: I diasgree. For a marriage to be successful each partner has to selfishly care about him- and herself IN THE FIRST PLACE. Selfish, in this context, does not mean that you disregard or disrespect your partner but that you make sure that you are so abundant, in emotional and pragmatic sense, that giving is a pleasure and not sacrifice. A happy marriage does not feel like hard work and sacrifice, it feels easy and it flows (most of the time) and it is enriching and not sacrificial. Mr ShaqFu, until you attain these attributes, you have no moral right to either father a child or make a woman yours. He doesn't want to make a woman his and this is what the thread is actually about. If you want to convince him of the privileges and advantages of marriage, then advertise for it instead of confirming to him the negative reasons why he doesn't want to get married. You mean when the child grows up, he will get to know it doesn't take a good dose of responsibility and selfsacrifice to become a father. Or if she's a girl, she can actual father 3 kids from 3 different men in the name of happiness which you mistook for selfishness and irresponsibility. It doesn't take any responibility and sacrifice to become a father. It takes a few minutes of pleasure. Being a father is a whole different thing. And no, I wouldn't tell my kids that I had to sacrifice anything to be a parent. I would tell them that it took love and that having them made my life more beautiful and not harder. Again, too many people make marriage and parenthood look like it is some sort of experience that you need to have strength for, when all it takes for it to be successful is love, passion and joy. I don't wake up in the morning, saying 'God, give me strength to sacrifice my sleep to make breakfast for my family.' I wake up and I look forward to having my family at one table. I enjoy it. Thanks for once again displaying your acute sense of selfishness and irresponsibility. So you sow your wild oaths in the depth of a woman and when it's time for responsibility, you pass the baton to the mother and grandparents while you live foot lose and fancy free!!!! This is not what he said. He wants kids and not a relationship / marriage and with the way you people talk about marriage, I can understand him. Take a study on the ills of children raised by single parent. What about children raised in high-conflict marriages? Are they better off? Anyway, that's a different topic. 1 Like |
Re: Guys, Here Are 5 Reasons Why You Should Be A Baby Daddy. by postmann: 3:21pm On Jul 03, 2016 |
Mindfulness: I gave you a loud cry like Paris when the Germans were about to run that city over but you stood aloof and watched from a distance. I'll not take time to nitpick your submissions but I'll leave you with this: Love alone doesn't work in marriage or even parenting. Sacrifice does and it goes a long way. Sacrifice comes in different forms and names. And another name for it is "understanding". I think you share alot with the OP. 1 Like |
Re: Guys, Here Are 5 Reasons Why You Should Be A Baby Daddy. by Nobody: 3:27pm On Jul 03, 2016 |
postmann: If you want to live your marriage feeling that you have to sacrifice anything, good luck with that. I will much rather live my marriage feeling that it enriches my life. You can sulk as much as you want. I don't vote for anyone because someone asks me to, you get my vote if I feel that you are worthy of it. Simples! |
Re: Guys, Here Are 5 Reasons Why You Should Be A Baby Daddy. by postmann: 3:37pm On Jul 03, 2016 |
Mindfulness: You might need a good understanding of the word sulk. Anyway, to the topic: You're a woman, I expect denial to be a good part of your psyche. Sacrifice is part of marriage and apart from understanding another name for it is tolerance. Now dream on! |
Re: Guys, Here Are 5 Reasons Why You Should Be A Baby Daddy. by Nobody: 3:41pm On Jul 03, 2016 |
postmann: And someone like you expects women to respect him. You can't get it without being able to lead by example. And you should be ashamed of making this kind of generalizations. I would understand it if you had no education at all but my tolerance of this nonsense is limited to people who have never seen a school from the inside. Sacrifice is part of marriage and apart from understanding another name for it is tolerance. Part of whose marriage? Yours? Now dream on! I will without you telling me to. 1 Like |
Re: Guys, Here Are 5 Reasons Why You Should Be A Baby Daddy. by postmann: 3:45pm On Jul 03, 2016 |
Mindfulness: You miss me obviously. But I don't have time for you today. |
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