Please I need ur advice, I met my bf during nysc but never knew he had a gf till she called me because she saw a pix of us kissing on his phone. He begged and took to me to see all nuclear family just to assure me he's for me. He recently proposed and I accepted but I feel bad because I asked him why he broke up with her and he said because he fell in love with me "just that" not that she did anything to him. I feel so bad for her cos they dated for 3yrs before he met me. I asked him before we started dating nd he said there was no body in his life, I never knew he had her and now she feels I caused her this pain. It made me so troubled that my fiance had to call her in my presence,explained everything to her that he's in love with me and apologised, she accepted and wished us well but I still feel bad. I want love but not in the detriment of another person happiness.

No, don't! He'll break your heart too.

Run for your life, in three years he'll do the same to you without reason, a rat doesn't forget its old hole, karma is a b.itch

@ OP, that is life for you. This remind me of one popular saying in Yoruba that simply means " If one person own no spoil another person own no go better " continue with your guy and I wish you blissful alliance.

Happy married life darling..

Give me the number of the former gf lemme console her in my own way u have already done the damage what do u need our advice for bf snatcher

Uhhhmn... go ahead & marry him, breaking up wit anoda lady 4 u showz he luvz u, so jex marry him & pray God takes control...

wat do girls really want self? if he broke up wit u, u wld say guys r heartless. c u can't pls everyone... make ur conscience no dey worry u

that's not a problem, any guy you meet is/was someone's heartbeat .


live your life you owe no one ,it wasn't your fault he fell in love with you .

bros good advice are you now a therapist?

no sir , i'm just doing my social services Serving people and willing to sacrifice time and resources to help those in need

You want me to tell you if you should marry him or not? Really? Did you ask for my opinion before taking a shot of you guys kissing?

My dear life is a survival of the fittest, beside its not your fault. Stop feeling bad except you have option B. Or would you expect him to love and marry her out of pity?

Marry him.. Don't be naive

Just so you know, he isn't a person of integrity.

What happens after you marry him and he sees someone prettier or more attractive?

Men will always see women more beautiful and more appealing than their wives, the trick is to find that one man who doesn't care.

And don't forget, he lied to you.

In marriage it's very possible he will have concubines and lie to you and to them for that matter.

Already you are scared. Always trust your instincts. They are never wrong.

madridguy:
@ OP, that is life for you. This remind me of one popular saying in Yoruba that simply means " If one person own no spoil another person own no go better " continue with your guy and I wish you blissful alliance.

thank you

yesssssss

lemme read the post now

*modified *

She took it in good fate, meaning they were having irreconcilable differences. They perhaps needed a good reason to end it, and you conveniently helped out.
Do not beat up yourself, you have a clear conscience.

However I am more concerned as to why he would have pictures of you guys kissing and making out on his phone.

Ioannes:
Just so you know that he isn't a person of integrity.

What happens after you marry him and he sees someone prettier or more attractive?

A man will always see women more beautiful and more appealing than their wives, the trick is to find that one man who doesn't care.

funny enough she's even prettier. To say the truth

Nice to see a lady who is selfless and cares about other pple's happiness. Ur type is very rare.

mercichoco:
My dear life is a survival of the fittest, beside its not your fault. Stop feeling bad except you have option B. Or would you expect him to love and marry her out of pity?

Alright thanks

sandeiwhite:
funny enough she's even prettier. To say the truth

Yeah, well I modified my earlier post. Read it again.

Cutehector:
Happy married life darling..

Thank you

falconey:
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bros good advice are you now a therapist?

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thx

modestofynest:
Give me the number of the former gf lemme console her in my own way u have already done the damage what do u need our advice for bf snatcher

Snatcher ke Read her post let be sincere the guy is a player...I will advice you to ditch the douche bag the way he did to that poor girl....Cos what goes round comes round

sandeiwhite:
Thank you

good. U knw I mean u should go ahead and marry him. A man knows what he wants and goes for it, dats why he is a man!

Go ahead and marry him cox if he was so much in love with her he wouldn't have come for you

Go ahead with the marriage, but make sure he has truly ended things with the other lady. Not all relationships must end in marriage

He basically broke up with a gal he said he loved b4 and Ws with for 3years just cos he met u? How do u know this guy loves u? Wats his definition of love? Yh I know he's not married so he can always end the relationship with his ex and move on bt it has to be done the right way. He lied he wasn't in a relationship also? Why? Maybe it Ws serious bt hey it Ws a 3year relantionship!!!

Personally for me a persons attitude matters. So I say observe him carefully and don't be in a haste. He might be doing it for sm selfish reasons or benefits he sees or gets from u bt at the end of d day it's u to decide.

Also get to talk with his ex just to know if he ended their relationship with no bad blood. Yes relationships end bt how it ends tells alot about d person. Cheers

Follow your heart!

jaxxy:
He basically broke up with a gal he said he loved b4 and Ws with for 3years just cos he met u? How do u know this guy loves u? Wats his definition of love? Yh I know he's not married so he can always end the relationship with his ex and move on bt it has to be done the right way. He lied he wasn't in a relationship also? Why? Maybe it Ws serious bt hey it Ws a 3year relantionship!!!

Personally for me a persons attitude matters. So I say observe him carefully and don't be in a haste. He might be doing it for sm selfish reasons or benefits he sees or gets from u bt at the end of d day it's u to decide.

Also get to talk with his ex just to know if he ended their relationship with no bad blood. Yes relationships end bt how it ends tells alot about d person. Cheers

hmmm thought provoking. Thx

Ioannes:


Yeah, well I modified my earlier post. Read it again.

ok

joceey:



Snatcher ke Read her post let be sincere the guy is a player...I will advice you to ditch the douche bag the way he did to that poor girl....Cos what goes round comes round

Did u read the part when she said the girl called her and asked her to leave her bf for her?? And what did she do

modestofynest:


Did u read the part when she said the girl called her and asked her to leave her bf for her?? And what did she do

That's why she need to ditch the guy it's the best thing