Stats: 3,166,113 members, 7,863,881 topics. Date: Tuesday, 18 June 2024 at 08:21 AM |
Nairaland Forum / Nairaland / General / Romance / He Says His Having Too Much Feelings (1690 Views)
I Am Not Happy With My Sexual Feelings. / How Do Ladies Manage To Hide Their Feelings Successfully? / What Does He Really Mean When He Says:am Missing You? (2) (3) (4)
Re: He Says His Having Too Much Feelings by akym(m): 2:11pm On Sep 14, 2009 |
i will advise u read all d post in here and follow ur mind. |
Re: He Says His Having Too Much Feelings by Yumi(f): 2:21pm On Sep 14, 2009 |
TheSeeker: Well if thats how he feels he should explain the whole situation not say half the story. If he really loves her he should be telling her that oh I am sorry I can't handle when this happens but lets try and see. I am not always the most patient person so you will have to help me sometimes when I misunderstand you. The half story above doesn't say anything and we cannot read minds. You have to communicate everything or the other person will not understand what is going on. Since he has chosen not to communicate everything then it may be that the man is seeing someone else and just doesn't want to hurt her feelings so she should move on. Usually when men do not say the whole story and are hiding something that means there is something really complicated behind it and complicated usually involves other women. ![]() |
Re: He Says His Having Too Much Feelings by Khemmi(f): 3:16pm On Sep 14, 2009 |
Wel,i wud say he led me on cos he kept comunicating n even when i wanted to stop,he begged me n said he was so fond of me.he got me a perfume of $74.everythng showed,bt he prolly found out dat his feelings were getting too strong.he said he wantd to be sure of himslf,dat he wasnt ready4a relatnshp.we were jst friends,but i saw d green light n he said he was interesd in me.maybe at dat time,he dint knw he wasnt ready,until his feelings bcame almost uncontrollable n den we ad to stop comunicating so he cud let it die.i knw am wat he wants,bt gues d timing is nt right.he mite av other reasons,though,i cant read his mind and i really dnt want to try,cos av moved on,there's always a beta person.thanks |
Re: He Says His Having Too Much Feelings by topup: 5:53pm On Sep 14, 2009 |
TheSeeker: Me and my response seem likely feminist?? LOL, is that because I made some assumptions which work against the guy's favour?? I personally think that I made a few assumptions in that post, I did, I admit, I try not be too intense most of the time, but I think maybe this time I didn't have enough information to go on and it could have been too much. It was just the vibe I got from the poster, I recognise with how she is feeling. It was the fact that they were both really getting along, probably flirting, and heading down the road for a relationship, and then now, out of nowhere he wants to stop everything - he's entitled to do so. I know a sensible and mature guy would think deeply before entering into any relationship however, I think this guy is simply doing a u-turn, he didn't think anything was wrong with the way they were acting with each other, until when it became obvious what she was expecting, who knows maybe he's just a flirt. I think this guy is probably harmless, it's good that he at least warned her that he wasn't prepared to go further, so at least she has a choice to back out too. But intentionally or not, he led her on. . Khemmi: Poster, I think the worst thing to do is to put all your hope into someone who is claiming to be confused, if you feel that you are ready to follow this challenge, that's fine, even though you are selling yourself short since you know what you want, but it all depends on how much you like him. I think he's definitely having doubts about entering a relationship with you right now or sometime soon in the future. Seeker, if I turned out to be right, would you say that my senses were correct, or would you still say that I was being feminist. . |
Re: He Says His Having Too Much Feelings by TheSeeker(m): 6:36pm On Sep 14, 2009 |
[Quote author=topup]Me and my response seem likely feminist?? LOL, is that because I made some assumptions which work against the guy's favour?? I personally think that I made a few assumptions in that post, I did, I admit, I try not be too intense most of the time, but I think maybe this time I didn't have enough information to go on and it could have been too much. It was just the vibe I got from the poster, I recognise with how she is feeling. It was the fact that they were both really getting along, probably flirting, and heading down the road for a relationship, and then now, out of nowhere he wants to stop everything - he's entitled to do so. I know a sensible and mature guy would think deeply before entering into any relationship however, I think this guy is simply doing a u-turn, he didn't think anything was wrong with the way they were acting with each other, until when it became obvious what she was expecting, who knows maybe he's just a flirt. I think this guy is probably harmless, it's good that he at least warned her that he wasn't prepared to go further, so at least she has a choice to back out too. But intentionally or not, he led her on. .[/Quote] Sorry if I misunderstood your stand but don't you think your first response to the post was one-sided in favor of the girl when actually the guy was upfront with her? I think it's biased, maybe a little bit, and that's why I said you sounded like a feminist right there (that's uncommon with you). I recognize with the guy from experience as well. There was this girl I was having friendship with. She was very nice, a very intelligent woman any man would be proud to have. At the outset, the feeling was mutual that we would end up being in a relationship. I was looking forward to that, so was she. Somewhere along the line, I saw a few things about her that I couldn't cope with. It stood as at then and still does now that I don't and won't change a woman to my kind of woman. She definitely has to be my kind of woman already or at least somewhat close. Then, these things that ruled her out of my kind of woman were stuffs I didn't know how she'd feel about them. It took me some time before I could tell her but I eventually did. This guy may not have had the courage to tell her (if that was the case), but also, I understand what you mean exactly. Looking at it closely, don't you think the guy could have slept with her if all he wanted to leave her for another girl in that process? He doesn't sound like a user to me or he'd have slept with her and made her feel worse than she already does now. What I see here is she has looked forward too much for the relationship to happen and now she's disappointed it's didn't work out; she likes him, that's for sure, but the guy doesn't sound ready to me and he's honest about it. There are issues laying somewhere around there and that's where his decision had revolved around. I agree too that he may have led her on but unintentionally is what I choose to go with. [Quote author=topup]Seeker, if I turned out to be right, would you say that my senses were correct, or would you still say that I was being feminist. .[/Quote] LOL!! Your senses have always been correct, but I disagree that you're right on this one ![]() |
Re: He Says His Having Too Much Feelings by ebila(m): 7:43pm On Sep 14, 2009 |
@khemi, Truth is u shud be grateful he decided to stay away cos obviously u also have feelings for dis guy n if he had stayed finkin' u pple won't do nofin,u'll just be deceivin' urselves.Feelins ca cause so many fins,trust me dat much i know.Just let fins be d way they r now n they'll work themselves out. |
Re: He Says His Having Too Much Feelings by Khemmi(f): 7:04am On Sep 15, 2009 |
@seeker,he led me on INTENTIONALLY.there were times he asked if the feeling was mutual,when i said no,he was deeply hurt.what u av to undastand is dat he didnt hide his feelings,he told me he had them,bt didnt ask me out directly.so it was intentional.gues it was getting too serious and he realized he wasnt ready.it wasnt very easy for him to stop comunicating,bt he probably had to. |
Re: He Says His Having Too Much Feelings by TheSeeker(m): 7:48am On Sep 15, 2009 |
Khemmi:He had feelings but didn't lead you on. He didn't ask you out. And what's he didn't ask you out directly? What does that mean? He either asked you out or he didn't. I don't see any intent to lead you on here. I know you like him, and I have a feeling he likes/liked you, but you need to understand he isn't ready for a relationship. You also said he was hurt when you said the feeling wasn't mutual, how do you know? Did he tell you he was hurt? How did he ask you out 'indirectly'? What can you infer from the way he likes/liked you? Did you both talk about dating each other at a point in time? Did he specify he was coming to that stage where he'll fall in love and start a relationship with you? How long were you talking for? I saw in one of your earlier posts saying that you know you were his kind of woman? How do you know this? If he told you, what were the things he told you makes you his kind of woman? If he did tell you, can you trace these things up to your traits and find them in your characters? |
Re: He Says His Having Too Much Feelings by Khemmi(f): 11:17pm On Sep 15, 2009 |
@seeker,hw can u be sure,if ur nt him.i was d one in d picture,so i knw exactly wat went on.am no kid,so i shuld knw when a guy likes me and if it shows.we were really close.it was obvious he had feelings 4me,i didnt need him2 say it,though he did indirectly.ur a guy,so u shld knw these things.wen do u tel a gal u cherish her n dat u wud neva want her hurt or unhappy,wen does a gal bcom d first person u talk2in d mornin,n last at nite.wen does she bcom sumone u jst cal cos u wantd2hear her voice,wen do u tel a gal u want2 cum spend d weekend wit her,wen do u ask her out on a dinner date,whr ur suposd2 be d cook,y wud u be hurt,show it n say it whn she says ur feelings r not returned?y wud u want2speak2her every nw n den?y wud u tel ur ex abt her,y wud almost evryone u work wit knw d gal ur always on d phone wit?y wud u wish2stroke her hair n paint her nails.y wud u care if she had her manicure n pedicure on,wat haistyl she ad on,n wat clothes she as on?y wud u say a prayer4 her weneva u said one 4 urself?, y wud u feel insecure wheneva she's on a date?, y wud d woman u want2spend d rest of ur life wit be pretty,intelgent,enterprising,homely, ? |
Re: He Says His Having Too Much Feelings by Yumi(f): 11:31pm On Sep 15, 2009 |
Khemmi: Your right dear he led you on. He was acting like you and him were soul mates. Always communicating with you and you him thats what you do if you really like someone. You like to be close to the person and for them to feel your presence. Rather than talk to twenty people you hardly even know you focus on that one person more and have a deeper connection with them if they mean something to you. |
Re: He Says His Having Too Much Feelings by topup: 2:07am On Sep 16, 2009 |
TheSeeker: |
Re: He Says His Having Too Much Feelings by TOPE20001(f): 2:09am On Sep 16, 2009 |
Khemmi: Move on abeg ![]() |
A Virgin's Agony / Why Do Black Women Alway? / A Small Cute Gift A Guy Can Buy His Girlfwend On Her Birthday <ADVICE NEEDED>
(Go Up)
Sections: politics (1) business autos (1) jobs (1) career education (1) romance computers phones travel sports fashion health religion celebs tv-movies music-radio literature webmasters programming techmarket Links: (1) (2) (3) (4) (5) (6) (7) (8) (9) (10) Nairaland - Copyright © 2005 - 2024 Oluwaseun Osewa. All rights reserved. See How To Advertise. 73 |