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| 7 Ways To Make Your Man Understand You Completely by DY20: 9:00am On Jul 16, 2016 |
The word "completely" used in the topic is only used to lure you guys here. The secret to make a man understand you completely still remain a secret. And it will remain a secret for a very long time. Even a man do not fully understand himself, not to talk of a woman. Here's some things some women don't understand. Men's life have many facets. At his early stage of life, the only thing he thinks about is school. After he met you, he adds you to his picture. Now that's two facets: Education and You. He spends just 8 hours at school and the rest of the day with YOU (or thinking about you). He has time to go on a date with you. He has time to strategize how to make up to what's lacking in your relationship. At 22, he graduated and started working, started taking responsibilities at home. He got married to you, bear kids, etceteral. These things add to his growing number of the facet of his life and it will continue growing. There will even come a time, maybe about 40 years of age, when he will hardly have time for you. He will only miss what you had together once just once in three months. If that once in three months happen frequently that without postponing it with nagging, you will have your man for the rest of your life. But ladies won't accept that. They want him to miss them six times in a week. It is even irresponsible of you to want that, you have a job, kids, and your own family too. Don't let me bore you with introduction, I will go on with my points now. |
| Re: 7 Ways To Make Your Man Understand You Completely by Topestbilly(m): 9:04am On Jul 16, 2016 |
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| Re: 7 Ways To Make Your Man Understand You Completely by DY20: 9:04am On Jul 16, 2016 |
Note that men are different, and they see different problems in you. These points are meant to make up for the common ones. Also note you can reflect on these points only if your man is "responsible" but having hard time understanding you. If your man is an "irresponsible" type, my best advice is to accept your fate, try not to offend him and concentrate on taking care of your kids. Your kids when they grow up can do better what he can't: making you happy. Let's go:- 1. Give Him Time To Comprehend:- You may have thought about a particular matter for four days and decided how you are going to present it to your partner, this exercise must have taken you about a week. Now, one fine day you go and let it all out in front of him, expecting a response and reaction immediately. You may get a reaction, but not a response – simply because men are slow at processing. Since you have had the time to think and re-think the matter, give him that fair opportunity too. 2. Allow Him To Ask Question:- The universal fact is that women talk more than men! Talking more than your man is fine, but you should allow him to express himself too, because only then will you know whether your actions and efforts are being heard by the opposite person! What most of them even talk about are things they demand from him. While you are chatting away, try to encourage him to ask you questions about your life, your work, and your relationship – you need to talk less and get him to talk more. So guide your conversations in a way that make ask you questions and give him an opportunity to put out something on the table too. 3. Don't Shout; Don't Nag, Just Smile:- Shouting, fighting and nagging – all these are going to show you a dead-end! We all know that men do not react well to tantrums, let alone nagging him for hours together! And what are you going to achieve by shouting on top of your voice? Stress and high blood pressure and a silent, blank looking partner! All the shouting and nagging will only push him towards the negative more and you will never get your point across. Instead, try talking to him in a neutral tone with a gentle smile and of course, keeping it short! For instance, don’t complain that using his cell phone continuously irritates you and that’s going to be the reason for your failed relationship, but smile and tell him that when you are with each other, try to avoid any distractions. |
| Re: 7 Ways To Make Your Man Understand You Completely by DY20: 9:10am On Jul 16, 2016 |
4. Give Hints About Your Nature:- You will think that he should make an effort to study your personality and know your likes and dislikes. He may think he knows you, but you don’t think it is enough. So stop the blame game and take the reins in your hand! Share tales about your childhood, if you need his attention, tell him how feel when your childhood friends stay away for too long. If you need space, tell him how you fought with a friend for staying at your place for too long. If you need something from him but don't know how to ask, make up a story of how you missed a school excursion just because you are shy of asking the fee from your dad – all these stories will help him understand you as a person and before you know it, he will start connecting with you on a level you always wished for. 5. Communicate When He Is Free:- If you are talking to him when he’s working on the laptop, while he is watching TV or playing video game, you need to know that nothing is going to sink into his mind. So save your breath for a time when his attention is not diverted. In stead, serve him a cup of tea when he's working or recommend eye glasses for him. While watching TV, sit beside him, put your head on his shoulder and watch it with him. When he is playing game, play it with him. If you don't know how, you will bore him. In stead, be a cheerleader, cheer him when he's winning. When his mind is free, he will be able to rationalize better, think better and most importantly, respond in a better way! 6. Respect Him:- Your man does not have to earn your respect; he deserves it just like you do! By assuming that all his actions have to be about pleasing you and impressing you – you are highly mistaken! He is a human being with emotions too. He needs to be real, talk about reality. Your relationship is not a simulation game where he try to impress you just to make points. Let him treat you like his sister - Scold you and spoil you as well. When you show him some gratitude, his actions and emotions will become warmer and he will respond to your needs and wants positively. |
| Re: 7 Ways To Make Your Man Understand You Completely by DY20: 9:12am On Jul 16, 2016 |
7. Practice What You Preach:- Put your moral science education to use! If you want to be treated in a particular way, you should treat him in the same manner! If you want a gift from him, how many times have you offered him one? If you want him to call him every night, how many times have you called him at night too? If you want him to spoil you with surprises him, have you ever attempted one? Talk to him politely and he will reply in the same tone; show respect in public and you’ll get that in return; be positive about your relationship and you’ll receive double the amount of positivity back. So if you wish for him to understand you, you need to start understanding him first! You can refer to this points, but remember that these tips will not show overnight results. Be patient and committed because men are a piece of work and they think the same about women! All you need to do is be consistent and be in love and all the efforts will be worth it! So be rational, communicate wisely and believe that change is possible. |
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