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Wife Says She Has Retired From Sex. by thorpido(m): 11:59am On Jul 22, 2016
I had a client today at work who came for some treatment.One thing led to the other and I asked him about his sexual life.He said, well that aspect has issues.I asked him how and he said his wife no longer sleeps with him.
One day the wife said she was no longer having sex,that she is retired.She says she's a grandmother now and sees no reason to still,'raise her legs up'.He told me it was a serious issue that he reported to the church elders and she was summoned.Right in their midst,she still insisted she was no longer interested and he was free to find a way to take care of himself.

So guys(well men don't retire,i would have asked the ladies),what happens if someday,your wife says she's done with sex?

*by the way the couple are in their early 50s.

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Re: Wife Says She Has Retired From Sex. by PresVA: 12:04pm On Jul 22, 2016
"She says she's a grandmother now and sees no reason to still,'raise her legs up' "

^^^^^^ grin grin grin grin grin grin

He knows what the woman loves, he can do those to entice her and she may come around. .

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Re: Wife Says She Has Retired From Sex. by oluwafreshkid(m): 12:49pm On Jul 22, 2016
It's a simple sumtin nau...
When a player retires, the club simply sings a new and younger player as replacement! Or take the player on loan.

If he can't permanently remarry a new damsel, he should just have one unilag babe outside that will be doing the sumtin for him.
Case closed! Next!

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Re: Wife Says She Has Retired From Sex. by tayo60(f): 1:08pm On Jul 22, 2016
He should get himself a lady dt will do dt for him now. If na to marry her, let him marry her to replace madam.

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Re: Wife Says She Has Retired From Sex. by Nezzel(f): 1:13pm On Jul 22, 2016
Hahaha.. This is funny but it's also quite serious.. Early 50s is not that old. Getting old doesn't mean one should stop being romantic, so tell your client to up his game or do the things his wife loves, maybe, just maybe his wife may change her mind, unless the love is nolonger there..

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Re: Wife Says She Has Retired From Sex. by keepingmum: 2:34pm On Jul 22, 2016
whilst the "men" on this forum are advising and advocating for 2nd wife or sidepiece runs; i hope when the case is reversed and a woman in her 40's & 50's comments that her husband has gone limp/cant keep and erection/has zero libido, you will all rally round to offer her your d$cks for free or atleast give her advise on starting meaningful relationships with men (older/younger)

As for the other male species commenting, be reminded that when you encourage ANY man to step out on his marriage, the person he could choose to cheat with might just your babe/boo/wife/sister/cousin/crush

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Re: Wife Says She Has Retired From Sex. by yvelchstores(f): 2:42pm On Jul 22, 2016
I guess she doesn't enjoy it and after years of same old ...she gave up.

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Re: Wife Says She Has Retired From Sex. by PresVA: 2:51pm On Jul 22, 2016
tayo60:
He should get himself a lady dt will do dt for him now. If na to marry her, let him marry her to replace madam.
nawa oo.... Is the 'pu $$y business' that serious? undecided

Hope you'll gladly offer yourself as his new wife? smiley

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Re: Wife Says She Has Retired From Sex. by 5minsmadness: 2:54pm On Jul 22, 2016

Right in their midst,she still insisted she was no longer interested and he was free to find a way to take care of himself.

shocked


grin grin grin

He should bring out his old hunting boots...

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Re: Wife Says She Has Retired From Sex. by 5minsmadness: 2:56pm On Jul 22, 2016
oluwafreshkid:
It's a simple sumtin nau...
When a player retires, the club simply sings a new and younger player as replacement! Or take the player on loan.

If he can't permanently remarry a new damsel, he should just have one unilag babe outside that will be doing the sumtin for him.
Case closed! Next!

For Papa?
So you haven't been hearing of all those men who lost their lives in hotel during active service? angry
Re: Wife Says She Has Retired From Sex. by 5minsmadness: 3:04pm On Jul 22, 2016
thorpido:
I had a client today at work who came for some treatment.One thing led to the other and I asked him about his sexual life.He said, well that aspect has issues.I asked him how and he said his wife no longer sleeps with him.
One day the wife said she was no longer having sex,that she is retired.She says she's a grandmother now and sees no reason to still,'raise her legs up'.He told me it was a serious issue that he reported to the church elders and she was summoned.Right in their midst,she still insisted she was no longer interested and he was free to find a way to take care of himself.

So guys(well men don't retire,i would have asked the ladies),what happens if someday,your wife says she's done with sex?

*by the way the couple are in their early 50s.

Oga thorpido what was your advice? Did you dismiss them cos thier an elderly couple, or did u ask for hormone assay for the woman? The issue might actually be medical, u know.

Let her do oestrogen /progesterone, ask about hot flushes, give her evening primrose, get a female doctor (who has an open mind o) to talk to her about her sexual health concerns. A depth of treasure could be found if u dig deeper.

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Re: Wife Says She Has Retired From Sex. by oluwafreshkid(m): 3:14pm On Jul 22, 2016
5minsmadness:


For Papa?
So you haven't been hearing of all those men who lost their lives in hotel during active service ? angry

At least, he didn't retire uselessly na

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Re: Wife Says She Has Retired From Sex. by thorpido(m): 3:15pm On Jul 22, 2016
5minsmadness:


Oga thorpido what was your advice? Did you dismiss them cos thier an elderly couple, or did u ask for hormone assay for the woman? The issue might actually be medical, u know.

Let her do oestrogen /progesterone, ask about hot flushes, give her evening primrose, get a female doctor (who has an open mind o) to talk to her about her sexual health concerns. A depth of treasure could be found if u dig deeper.
The woman wasn't present but i asked the husband if she had seen a gynaecologist and he said no.
I suspect it's a combination of having a low sex drive and getting unsatisfactory performance from her husband.
Re: Wife Says She Has Retired From Sex. by 5minsmadness: 3:17pm On Jul 22, 2016
oluwafreshkid:


At least, he didn't retire uselessly na

I'm with u sir. We salute thier sacrifice angry
Re: Wife Says She Has Retired From Sex. by 5minsmadness: 3:19pm On Jul 22, 2016
thorpido:
The woman wasn't present but i asked the husband if she had seen a gynaecologist and he said no.
I suspect it's a combination of having a low sex drive and getting unsatisfactory performance from her husband.

Very true.
You know when these women hit menopause a lot of them experience drying of the vaginal mucosal and hence more lubrication is needed to enjoy sex. If oga is a wham-bam-thankyou ma'm kind of guy, sex will become pain for her instead of pleasure. I think a good sexual therapy session will help in this case.

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Re: Wife Says She Has Retired From Sex. by thorpido(m): 3:25pm On Jul 22, 2016
5minsmadness:


Very true.
You know when these women hit menopause a lot of them experience drying of the vaginal mucosal and hence more lubrication is needed to enjoy sex. If oga is a wham-bam-thankyou ma'm kind of guy, sex will become pain for her instead of pleasure. I think a good sexual therapy session will help in this case.
You're right.If the technique is poor,it can lead to frustration on the part of women.
I've heard quite a number of women who say they help themselves(not cheating).That's why romance machines are getting good sales.
Re: Wife Says She Has Retired From Sex. by 5minsmadness: 3:55pm On Jul 22, 2016
thorpido:
You're right.If the technique is poor,it can lead to frustration on the part of women.
I've heard quite a number of women who say they help themselves(not cheating).That's why romance machines are getting good sales.
Lol@romance machines. They are getting good sales cos women tell them exactly what they want without fear or embarrassment.

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Re: Wife Says She Has Retired From Sex. by crackhaus: 6:21pm On Jul 22, 2016
5minsmadness:



shocked


grin grin grin

He should bring out his old hunting boots...
As in eh...

The moment she gave him permission to re-enter the game, na to pick up phone to start fishing out relevant phone numbers.

No time to waste time. grin

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Re: Wife Says She Has Retired From Sex. by crackhaus: 6:33pm On Jul 22, 2016
Nezzel:
Hahaha.. This is funny but it's also quite serious.. Early 50s is not that old. Getting old doesn't mean one should stop being romantic, so tell your client to up his game or do the things his wife loves, maybe, just maybe his wife may change her mind, unless the love is nolonger there..
She doesn't seem like she's interested in reviving their sex life...why should he bother then?

At early 50, some women are already losing their interest in sex...seems normal to me I guess.

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Re: Wife Says She Has Retired From Sex. by crackhaus: 6:38pm On Jul 22, 2016
To be honest, I don't know how the really old people even do IT. gringrin
It's weird, but I've tried imagining it before and the sight wasn't funny.


The other day, one of our big ogas on the board invited us for his wedding anniversary...he's at least 70, the wife might be in the late 60s.
Seeing them make-out and do all those lovey-dovey things almost made me puke..it was frustrating to watch, kinda like watching Keeping up with the Kardashians.

At least these ones are in their 50s, the man should still have ample strength.

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Re: Wife Says She Has Retired From Sex. by Ishilove: 7:22pm On Jul 22, 2016
Ha, Oga Thorpido, when I saw the heading I bin tink sey na ya madam don retire from the game grin grin

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Re: Wife Says She Has Retired From Sex. by njiasi30(f): 7:34pm On Jul 22, 2016
Toor, it's either she ve a low libido or d hubby is not performing well so she decided to retire grin her kids/grand kids re her priority now. She won't mind if u go out self, provided u don't rub it on her face or bring her in as a sec wife.

When dey decide to go out, dey will b looking 4 under sixteen dat will break dere waist or lead him to an early grave. He should beg d wife 4 dem 2 see a sex therapy, dere re so many ways to kill a rat Na cheesy or accept her retirement grin and take whatever dat will come out... lipsrsealed

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Re: Wife Says She Has Retired From Sex. by thorpido(m): 7:34pm On Jul 22, 2016
Ishilove:
Ha, Oga Thorpido, when I saw the heading I bin tink sey na ya madam don retire from the game grin grin
Hahaha.My madam just dey enter peak period o.She no fit retire now.
Re: Wife Says She Has Retired From Sex. by WHOcarex: 8:03pm On Jul 22, 2016
If she don tire to raise her legs, make she drop the legs do am.

Na menopause cos am. The thing nor dey sweet am again.

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Re: Wife Says She Has Retired From Sex. by Ishilove: 8:33pm On Jul 22, 2016
thorpido:
Hahaha.My madam just dey enter peak period o.She no fit retire now.
Twale! cheesy

To the topic, I have no idea. I'm still young and virile so the concept of 'retiring' is strange. undecided
Re: Wife Says She Has Retired From Sex. by smart024(m): 8:56pm On Jul 22, 2016
If oga no sabi do the kerewa dance up till now, na madam no groom am well o...
And no be at this age she go begin dey try to bend a dry stick abeg...
If na to "raise leg" be her problem, no be only one style dem dey carry do the kerewa dance nah...
Make she no just push that man go look for kpomo outside because it comes with many things...
If one "sweet 16" grab that man, she no necessarily need to hold daddy to the dance but to just rub him belle well and scatter him dada properly go make papa no ever look her side again o...

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Re: Wife Says She Has Retired From Sex. by greatgod2012(f): 8:57pm On Jul 22, 2016
The problem is either one or more of these.....


1. Menopausal hormones at work.

2. The man is no longer romantic on bed, hence, the woman's frustration about the whole thing.

3. The woman's libido is low and getting lower.


4. Mythological believe that once you become grandma, you're automatically old enough to retire from sexual practices and that you need to leave the rest for your children.


5. Untreated or persistent medical problem she didn't disclose to her husband.

In any of the case, sexual therapy is recommended for both of them at the same time. They need to see a sexual counselor and therapist together.

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Re: Wife Says She Has Retired From Sex. by Adesiji77: 10:06pm On Jul 22, 2016
This is serious! cheesy
Re: Wife Says She Has Retired From Sex. by KevinDein: 5:01am On Jul 23, 2016
keepingmum:
whilst the "men" on this forum are advising and advocating for 2nd wife or sidepiece runs; i hope when the case is reversed and a woman in her 40's & 50's comments that her husband has gone limp/cant keep and erection/has zero libido, you will all rally round to offer her your d$cks for free or atleast give her advise on starting meaningful relationships with men (older/younger)

As for the other male species commenting, be reminded that when you encourage ANY man to step out on his marriage, the person he could choose to cheat with might just your babe/boo/wife/sister/cousin/crush
who will wanna get down with a 50 year old woman? Must be the lowest of the lows
Re: Wife Says She Has Retired From Sex. by cococandy(f): 5:50am On Jul 23, 2016
Their hypocrisy won't let them. cheesy
keepingmum:
whilst the "men" on this forum are advising and advocating for 2nd wife or sidepiece runs; i hope when the case is reversed and a woman in her 40's & 50's comments that her husband has gone limp/cant keep and erection/has zero libido, you will all rally round to offer her your d$cks for free or atleast give her advise on starting meaningful relationships with men (older/younger)

As for the other male species commenting, be reminded that when you encourage ANY man to step out on his marriage, the person he could choose to cheat with might just your babe/boo/wife/sister/cousin/crush

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Re: Wife Says She Has Retired From Sex. by cococandy(f): 5:54am On Jul 23, 2016
@topic, the condition is that of an open marriage now. Since the wife has told him to go outside if he wants to, it's basically an open marriage. So it's left for him to take that option or not.

If he's not the kind of man to sleep with someone who's not his wife, he can broach the topic of another wife to her.
And if he's not the type to practice polygamy or extramarital affairs, then it's bye bye to the wife.

So in summary he has 3 options.

1) keep a mistress
2) marry a second wife
3) divorce her, get and stay married to only one wife.

Since the wife is suggesting option 1 for him, I have a feeling that's what he will go for. I wish them the best.

Oh I forgot the popular advice given to women when their men can't perform. GET A ROMANCE MACHINE. Oga try a 'romance machine' in seun's type of English.

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Re: Wife Says She Has Retired From Sex. by Ishilove: 6:23am On Jul 23, 2016
cococandy:

Oh I forgot the popular advice given to women when their men can't perform. GET A ROMANCE MACHINE. Oga try a 'romance machine' in seun's type of English.
Like a plastic puzzay/inflatable doll kinda toy? Do we even have those in Nigeria?

I doubt the man will go for that option. The warmth of living flesh cannot be compared to cold, artificial rubber

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