Ok, I've gat to start from somewhere... Um.. After a horrible breakup two years ago, i dreaded relationships, i wanted to be alone and didn't want to feel vulnerable anymore. I fear break-ups most of all.

So i've been on this or should i say i was #teamsingle for 2years. Not until i met this really cool guy, he is a really nice person, fortunately we have wayyyy soooo much in common (i had to stress that. Lol). He didn't really ask me out, when we became friends. infact, he dreads relationship like i do.. I remember telling him i didnt want to care about him, and he said the feeling was mutual. I wasn't looking forward to a relationship either, in short we weren't looking forward to one. We were just having a feel-good moment. We've been together for 3months now and we've really gotten close and attached to each other. People think we're a couple but we aren't really dating. My friends wonder wat the hell i'm doing, i dont kw either. But Am now at a point where i'm certain i'm ready for a relationship but i'm not sure he is, i feel talking about it with him would force him to enter into a relationship... On the other i feel ''to hell with watever! I should just continue with the flow... I want something definite, but i dont kw if he's on the same page..

I don't know guys, i just felt like sharing this with someone and didn't know who to... ? ?

Adopt the "friends with benefits" style

Thank o5ewa later

Khd95:
Adopt the "friends with benefits" style

Thank o5ewa later

And you think you're making sense?

I've been there.
It's gonna be a long ride.
Welcome to the Friendzone express.

Do you really want a relationship?

Babes,u berra let him knw hw u feel...no go die in silence

Do what u want to. Do it now or later, day will still break tomorrow .

It's hard for a male and female to be 'close' without sex being involved, hence my question,have u guys been having sex by the side or getting cozy in romances,kisses,etc despite not formally being in a relationship? This will define d kinda friendship u guys have been having all along.
So, if u guys have been having sex, I think now asking formally for a relationship might drive the guy away coz he might be just ok with the friends with benefit tn and nothing attached. So u gotta be careful how u spill the relationship thing.
And if u guys have not been having sex or playing silly,den u have more chance of getting a gud response when u talk about the relationship thing coz he might as well be feeling same way.
So,better to make ur feelings known and know ur fate before it's too late.
#just talking from a guy's perspective.

Don't ever make the mistake to ask him about relationship first. Please don't I repeat. If he loves you he'll ask you out. Probably waiting for the right time.

And if you would like to know if he's interested in you. Please discuss with him about some someone else asking you out and you totally said No.
My point here is make him realise other gentle guys are after you.

For me he feels he's the best person in your life right now hence can toy with your feelings.

I'll say when he calls next time don't pick. or don't be the first to ask after him.

And when he ask about your little changes, be truthful to say you're getting too serious with him and don't know if he's the right thing to do. Don't hide your feelings but protect it openly to him and make him know you're not ready for to make mistakes.

Girls been hurding feelings since the time uncountable.

firstking01:
Girls been hurding feelings since the time uncountable.

it's beta to hurd it....cos guys of now a days...

I've been in your shoes before ..
please don't let him know about your feelings yet else he'll distance himself from you and that will be the end of it.

Instead reduce the time you spend with him,and if he complains try and adjust back...its not easy trying to win the heart of the one you love ....
Also reduce the intimacy level. .be there for him when he needs you and also turn him down a few times when he needs the other you...*if you know what I mean*
wish you luck dear..

Jolsnow:
I've been there.
It's gonna be a long ride.
Welcome to the Friendzone express.

"

Jolsnow:
I've been there.
It's gonna be a long ride.
Welcome to the Friendzone express.

"
nigga wit diz,u juz gave op a mini heart attack

Cut off the attention he's getting from you. Stop all intimacy benefit he's getting from you. He's probably using you to pass away time and loneliness if he doesn't really want a relationship .

BE scarce and get busy.....look your best anytime he has the opportunity to see you going out( that will make him think you are having fun somewhere triggering jealousy)

His reaction after this will tell if he really wants you..cos he would come for you plain and clear...and if he doesn't come out plane then it means he doesn't want something serious. just casual.

if u go into a relationship with him, trust me hun! ure gonna care more than he cares ,cos u mite tend to love im more . u already love him enuf dat he gives u a bothered mind . Make him fall for u lyk madt den withdraw and go for him when you know he loves you more. BE DAT BAD GURL THAT GIVES HIS HEART HEADACHE FIRST

Girl, let me tel you d truth u both ar tomentin each other. But still hold on 2 ur self and let things flow the way they want to. Cux as a lady, it woun't favour u to come out straight to takeovertthe ship! Hehehehe no go do something wey u go regr8 later. Control urself. If it is s£x u r missing if you have not don so kindly finger urself by urself and have peace of mind.

JuicyGee:
Ok, I've gat to start from somewhere... Um.. After a horrible breakup two years ago, i dreaded relationships, i wanted to be alone and didn't want to feel vulnerable anymore. I fear break-ups most of all.

So i've been on this or should i say i was #teamsingle for 2years. Not until i met this really cool guy, he is a really nice person, fortunately we have wayyyy soooo much in common (i had to stress that. Lol). He didn't really ask me out, when we became friends. infact, he dreads relationship like i do.. I remember telling him i didnt want to care about him, and he said the feeling was mutual. I wasn't looking forward to a relationship either, in short we weren't looking forward to one. We were just having a feel-good moment. We've been together for 3months now and we've really gotten close and attached to each other. People think we're a couple but we aren't really dating. My friends wonder wat the hell i'm doing, i dont kw either. But Am now at a point where i'm certain i'm ready for a relationship but i'm not sure he is, i feel talking about it with him would force him to enter into a relationship... On the other i feel ''to hell with watever! I should just continue with the flow... I want something definite, but i dont kw if he's on the same page..

I don't know guys, i just felt like sharing this with someone and didn't know who to... ? ?

VaginaTerrorist:
If it is s£x u r missing if you have not don so kindly finger urself by urself and have peace of mind.

hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha......DJ self service in da building

sleekyonyx:
it's beta to hurd it....cos guys of now a days...

Hurding feelings kills you faster than you'd ever imagine.

You defined the "relationship" from the beginning. You wanted fwb and so did he. Most guys fear commitment. We just wanna have fun with no strings attached and you gave that to him. To take it to the next stage, you gotta tell him you love him. You don't have to ask him out or anything. If he doesn't seem interested, reduce the time you spend with him and the attention you give him. We guys love attention too. If he sees that you're available on the open market, he'll do something about making you his.
If you "go with the flow", you're gonna flow till he gets married to another lady and he'll be right to do so.

Thanks alot guys.. I was skeptical about sharing this on NL cos of hw judgemental some NLers can be.. Your advise were totally helpful.. I mean, this was actually relieving to talk about it and get good response.. Thanks henrygale Sexxkillz Smileprince Purpletee

My dear, stick with what u have with him.


Trust me, that definition of terms thing is a killer, once u define what u are having with him, u are bound to be having problems sooner than later.

Unless u re ready and strong enough to fight it

JuicyGee:
Thanks alot guys.. I was skeptical about sharing this on NL cos of hw judgemental some NLers can be.. Your advise were totally helpful.. I mean, this was actually relieving to talk about it and get good response.. Thanks henrygale Sexxkillz Smileprince Purpletee

Thanks dear, glad you took our advise.

And let me add this, please ladies in the house. Whatever relationship you're in. It's important you feel needed, it's the duty of every man to show more of the love. I am not saying you shouldn't show love to your man. But always have a him wanna have you around and spend time with you. Because you people are special beings.

Take care