emmakvsaint:
A LADY SENT THIS....... LETS HELP HER PLS....

I wanna share my story with you but I will like you to counsel me before you post it.
My guy and I have been dating for two years, but before we started, he made me confess to something I did which was sleeping with a married man. its something I'm not proud of, I wasn't even dating the man, he was a friend who wanted sex from and in a moment of weakness, it happened. My guy (we were just friends then) suspected and confronted me. After I admitted, we started a relationship, although I told him we didn't have to if he couldn't get past it but he told me he not to worry. He also made me tell him the number of guys I have been with. At the beginning, it was rough, he brought it up almost all the time, he go angry anytime he saw the man but with time he let go (or thought so)
Now it's been two years, he still brings it up indirectly or directly. Anytime he couldn't reach, he starts calling me names. He always makes me feel like a slutwho had to change because of him. He says things like, I dont have shame or I've started this my lifestyle. He doesn't trust me. I know I did something wrong and I have made mistakes, but I know I am a good person who always fell in the hands of wrong people. I was innocent and naive. I trusted too much, I just wanted to be loved.
Both Families are aware of this relationship and we are talking marriage but I don't want things to continue this way. have talked to him severally. I don't know what to do. I have invested my time and emotion in this relationship, he has got other issues like the way he talks to me atimes, the way he seems not show how much he appreciates me and the way he is so prudent when it comes to spending on me but I don't let this things bother me. I always try to make things work. he is a good man and he doesn't cheat but I don't think I can handle this lack of trust and insecurity. Help me please. I am confused.

Please yo can advice her on the comment section below, I am sure she will see it. Thanks

Vivos:
Hey, I knw it's hard but you have to break it off with him. Number 1 thing needed in a relationship after God is trust, if there is no trust, you just building ur castle on sand,it wont be long he leaves u. I know u have shown remorse 4 ur past actions,many people have ugly past bt dat doesnt mean they are worst sinners. You deserve better,in a relationship mutual respect is always needed,if he doesnt respect ur emotions and how hurt u feel when he say those words,he's not ur missing rib. Real Love will always bring his siblings i.e joy,peace,mutual understanding and happiness e.t.c if all the attributes mentioned above is nt found in any relationship,quit when u still can dear.

franklynsunny:
U made a big mistake for openin up bfor nw n he will leave wit ur past til death if he marrys u n mind u...u can jus only b dere until he get a gud wife...he is so insecure around u

Am sowi to say....ur invested time is a complete way of time. Amen

Men are so only emotional once dey no dere partner pass n face it for real or no dat some1 ve deep it in like him dat nw value u?

We don't want to see d men or guys dat look at us knowin dat dey ve also mack our woman we nw value for marriage?

Ur union will suffer for Eva even if he nw finds u in church 24/7

Standing5:
If he can't handle it why make you reveal this secret? The guy isn't trying

vchykp:
Now i see the real meaning of this saying "Never judge people until you walk a mile in thier shoes".. i can only see few comments, others are just not experienced enough to handle this situation, am a lazy typer and won't want to type much... its not easy for the guy, the girl never made a mistake telling him, and the guy is over matured to handle her past, the issue in such relationship isn't trust, i laugh when people blab about trust, its the ladies character that can make the guy trust her, trust dont just come into relationship like that, its you who can make your partner trust you, the lady in question should be happy because the guy loves her, without the love, he would have walked away since, men dont waste time on relationship this days, especially when he has bleeped the lady severally,madam..! he loves you, but check yourself well, you still have a questionable character @ OP, in one way or the other, you are still flairting, its possible its only him you have in your life, but you still flirt sha, so its your character that is hunting your relationship, change wholely, when your character tells you have changed, he will change too.


my comment is based on personal experience..!

jeffery251:
All this dudes here advising the lady in question to dump d man cos he ain't man enough to handle her revelation,how many of them can leave with the fact that their fiancee was once a free giver?
You hear one side of the story and you are all here judging him.To ladies out there dat sleep around with different men including married men,remember dat karma is a bitch.