WORDS FROM A FATHER TO A SON ABOUT MARRIAGE


1. My son, if you keep spending on a woman and she never
asked you if you’re saving or investing, and she keeps
enjoying the attention, don’t marry her.

2. My son, a woman could be a good wife to you, some
could be a good mother to your children but if you’ve found
a woman like a mother to you, your children and your
family, please don’t let her go.

3. My son, don’t confine the position of your wife to the
kitchen, where did you get that from? Even in our days, we
had farm-lands where they worked every morning . . . that
was our office.

4. My son, if I tell you that you’re the head of the house,
don’t look at your pocket; look if you will see a smile on your
wife’s face.

5. My son, if you want to have a long life, let your wife be in-
charge of your salary, it will be difficult for her to spend it
when she’s aware of the home needs and bills to pay but if
it’s in your care, she will keep you asking even when all has
been spent.

6. My son, don’t ever beat your woman, the pain in her body
is nothing to be compared to the wound on her heart and
that means you may be in trouble living with a wounded
woman.

7. My son, now that you’re married, if you live a bachelor
kind of life with your wife, you will soon be single again.

8. My son, in our days, we had many wives and many
children because of our large farm-lands and many
harvests, there are hardly any land for farming anymore, so
embrace your woman closely.

9. My son, under the cocoa tree that I did meet your mother
could be your eateries and restaurants of nowadays, but
remember, the closet thing we did there was to embrace
each other.

10. My son, don’t be carried away when you start making
more money, instead of spending on those tiny legs that
never knew how hard you worked to get it, spend it on that
woman that stood by you all along.

11. My son, when I threw little stones or whistled at the
window of your mother father’s house, to call her out, it was
not for sex, it was because I missed her so much.

12. My son, remember, when you say your wife has
changed, there could be something you’ve stopped doing
too.

13. My son, your mother, Asake rode the bicycle with me
before I bought that tortoise car outside there, any woman
that won’t endure with you in your little beginning should
not enjoy your riches.

14. My son, don’t compare your wife to any woman, there
are ways she’s enduring you too and has she ever. compared
you to any man?

15. My son, there is this thing you people call feminism,
well, if a woman claim to have equal right with you in the
house, divide all the bills into two equal parts, take one part
and ask her to start paying the other part.

16. My son, I met your mother a virgin and I took more
yams to her father, if you don’t meet your wife a virgin, don’t
blame her, what I didn’t tell you is that our women had
prestige.

17. My son, I didn’t send your sisters to school because I was
foolish like many to think a female child won’t extend my
family name, please don’t make that mistake, the kind of
female achievers I see nowadays has made the male-gender
an ordinary tag.

18. My son, your mother have once locked up the cloth I was
wearing and almost tore it because she was angry, I did not
raise my hand to beat her because of a day like this, so that
I can be proud to tell you that I never for once beat your
mother.

19. My son, in our days, our women had more of natural
beauty, though I wouldn’t lie to you, some had minor
painting of their appellation mostly on their arms, the ones
you people now call tattoo, but don’t forget that they didn’t
expose any part omf their body like your women of
nowadays.

20. My son, your mother and I are not interested in what
happens in your marriage, try to handle issues without
always coming to us
.
21. My son, remember I bought your mother’s first sewing
machine for her, help your wife achieve her dreams just as
you’re pursuing yours.

22. My son, don’t stop taking care of me and your mother,
it’s a secret of growing old and having children to take care
of you too.

23. My son, pray with your family, there is a tomorrow you
don’t know, talk to God that knows everything, everyday.

Great letter from a true African man to his son.

Most importantly #yoruba father