Anything is possible

poor guy + girl <probably talented, smart, earns good, nice pedigree>= marriage? I DONT THINK SO

wake up and smell the beancake, farm boys , whats potential, potential in 9ija = dough, cheese, kudi, scrrilla, in other words money,

sorry, i didnt make the rules but look around you and see how clingy lottsa gyrls get when the sneak peeps at ur bank books, if u're in blue, they're happy, if its the color of blackgold they love u, if its red? ha!, u on in da jungle playing Survivors with the crocs and all,

its da economy man and the moral fabric of the society that's gone 2 shreds, look around you, man and put your heart on the shelf b4 u step out on that next date with that dame,

as for da ladiees, sorry but no apologies, .just da fact, not too many fools around who still marry 4 "just love"; what's love by da way, whaddaya call it

Its is very possible provided the guy has means of livelihood .though i see a poor man as one who doesnt have ideas and not material things

the term poor is a relative term,what one might consider as rich might be 'poor' to another,if getting married to a poor guy means not being able to give our offspring the quality of education and a relatively comfortable life,then getting married to a poor guy is a definite no no for me, come on havent y'all heard of the cliche' THERES NO ROMANCE WITHOUT FINANCE'? BOTTOM LINE:it would amt to cruelty to ur offspring to marry a man that wont be able to give u d quality of life u probably r used to! CANT MARRY A POOR MAN,ID RATHER BE LABELLED A GOLD DIGGER THAN MARRYING A POOR MAN,NUFF SAID!

Why is everyone talking about the Lady? Guys can you marry a poor lady? i need to know. There has been a lot of scheming going on by guys these days when they want to pick a wife/gal friend its always the ones that are not liabilities the financially stable ones (very common with youruba guys)some of them are not embarrased to collect money from their women. What do you call that? Diamond DIGGING NOT gold DIGGING ABI! It goes to show that nobody wants a poor person (babe/guy). So stop accusing us guys!!!

, hmmm look at their faces. " why wont you marry " a poor guy" ladies.Have you not heard the saying No condition is permanent.Give love a chance jooooo 

There is nothing wrong with getting married to a poor guy, provided he has a lot of potentials, is hard-working, sincere, understanding, respectful & not a layabout. A man who is poor today, can become rich tomorrow. God has a particular destiny for each individual.

The problem is that many poor men who swear undying love to a babe when they are broke, have a tendency of changing their minds, once they become rich.   That is when they know that a babe who was with them when things were rough, has suddenly grown 'old,' or is no longer good enough for them, now that they have some quid in their pocket. Why? They have suddenly discovered that their newly-acquired riches, gives them more options. And they wish to explore those options to the full. That is often where the problem begins. 

A lot of babes now know that guys are prone to change their minds once they hit the big bucks, so many of them are scared of hanging around a poor guy, who would most likely change his mind about them once riches come into play. So some of these girls have opted to go with a guy who has a steady, legit source of income, so that they can at least deduce what kind of character he is, or what antics he has up his sleeves, instead of hanging with a poor guy who will promise them heaven & earth when he is broke, only to change his mind when he becomes rich. Please note: am not saying a rich guy can't change his mind, about a babe.

Money is the true test of a man's character. It is when a guy has money in his pocket, that his innate character begins to unfold. The way a guy handles money, says a lot about the kind of person he is.

But having said all that, riches are inanimate stuff & money has wings, according to the Scriptures. If as a woman, you marry a man who has money today, what happens if he loses his wealth tomorrow? Would you divorce him? Isn't it better to build up your own wealth or resources, so that you have something to fall back on, rather than waiting for a man to provide everything for you?

Why giv urself trouble,
love is not blind oooo!

Yeah its possible 2 marry a 'poor' guy but ladiess if d guy isnt amibitious or mayb does nt av a gud plan 4 his futher then u beta run cos sum guys r jst 2 lazy nd met 2 b poor all their lives, PERIOD!

Why is everyone talking about the Lady? Guys can you marry a poor lady? i need to know.

It's not uncommon to find Rich/fairly well to do men marrying poor women. Some feel they would be more humbling as wives. The same cannot be said for women because women by nature want to be secure (atleast more so compared to men).

Many rich women would not want to marry a poor man because they know for a fact that they'll have a hard time giving him the respect due him as a man - "how can I see this guy as the head of the household when I am making much more money than he is " this is their line of thinking.

It goes to show that nobody wants a poor person (babe/guy). So stop accusing us guys!!!

I think this is a fair statement. But well to do men can be seen marrying poor women than the other way around.

laudate:


The problem is that many poor men who swear undying love to a babe when they are broke, have a tendency of changing their minds, once they become rich.   That is when they know that a babe who was with them when things were rough, has suddenly grown 'old,' or is no longer good enough for them, now that they have some quid in their pocket. Why? They have suddenly discovered that their newly-acquired riches, gives them more options. And they wish to explore those options to the full. That is often where the problem begins. 

This is very true laudate. Good insight.

i can marry a poor guy as long as i love him and he's the right guy.

i believe poverty is a state of the mind
i cannot marry anyone with a poverty mentality because we will not be able to walk together.
men are in sizes as life is in phases.
though your beginning is small your end shall be greatly increased.
that is what i believe.

GLORY 2007:

i believe poverty is a state of the mind
i cannot marry anyone with a poverty mentality because we will not be able to walk together.
men are in sizes as life is in phases.
though your beginning is small your end shall be greatly increased.
that is what i believe.

this is not poetry. This thread is talking 'bout marrying a hungry man. Whats ur answer gal.
Forget this ur mental poverty abi na Poverty mental u call am.

Nobody is poor in life unless he/she decides to be poor. What happened to your head, hands, feet, eyes and ears they are meant to gather information, breed potentials, harness those potentials and turn them into something meaningful and there and then things begins to work out for that individual. U are poor because you're okay with the situation but if it happens the other way round,

Marry becos U believe and have strong faith in the guy knowing that he is such a hardworking, God fearing and devoted man whose priority is to see U happy. And riches can go to hell as far as I am concern

i think the post shd define what he means by poor
what i do know is that ladies would not typically consider a struggling young man when there are men who have houses in vgc, lekki, have three posh cars and just want to women to give them a legacy. other alternatives are the europeans who are based here in naija
unfortunately these options are few and far between
also the women are also becoming quite empowered in the workplace thus you see disparities in the level of women and potential mates,
i think this is a personal decision considering the woman herself. some marry the 'rich' guy now who ends up being broke, some the poor guy who ends up being very rich and some the poor guy who still stays poor.


everywoman has a chance at some point in her life i think she just needs the grace of God to know

ALL DEPENDS ON UR DEFINITION OF POOR.

TO ME A POOR GUY IS AN NFA. NO FUTURE AMBITION, DOES NOT HAVE THE DESIRE TO MOVE TO A BETTER LEVEL. NO VISION AND DETERMINATION.
SO, NO, I CAN NEVER MARRY A POOR MAN.

A MAN MIGHT NOT VE ANYTHING NOW, BUT WITH A GOOD VISION AND PERSISTENCE THRU GOD'S GRACE, HE CAN BE SMTG IN THE NEAREST FUTURE. THAT KIND OF MAN, I CAN MARRY

With God all things are possible

i will marry a poor man when pigs start flying!

This question begs the answer,
yes it is possible if im a vegetable!

poor as in poor in foresight,wisdom,vision,future,goals infact a liability no way ooh i wont be caught in the trap.

@jah God go bless u if true true you be female. You go marry better man wey hollo and go still love you on top. All this clowns posting that they will marry poor people are not real. Maybe they dont have oportuinity to date rich people. Poverty is a sin and must not be accepted in any form thats why nations strive to eliminate it so that everyone will be okay. You think if all this clowns have not looted naija people go dey suffer like this. Also been poor is a relative term, (how poor is the issue) Y all that post from locations in usa and germany can marry poor people over there because what you call poor over there is better than comfortable over here. a young banker who earns lets say N80,000 per month is poor because he can only afford the basics. he cannt even take his girlfriend out to a nice restaurant talk less of taking her to a nice boutique. To a lot of nigerians this banker in question is okay. Do you want to tell me that you will marry a man who cannot feed you, is living with his mother (not my sisters, it will never be our portion). You must be a sex addict who is hooked to his big pri**k or you are mentally retarded and needs psychiatric help to claim to marry the poor. What we confess comes to us thats why there is so much power in the word we issue out. this is why every morning i tell myself i am rich, i am healthy, and i will marry the most beautiful faithful woman on earth and till date i am on track. Dont get me wrong A man that does not have cash is not really poor if he has prospects. Is that the kind of poor u talking about. if it is then you are with a rich man because Poverty is a hopeless state of mind. Infact i dont even want to type it. I dont need to be reading the letters p o o r cos i aint got business with this word.

That a man does not have money now,does not make him a poor man.

I married one fortunately when i had a choice(younger age) and its been fantastic now

cita:

That a man does not have money now,does not make him a poor man.

Very true.

money is relative.
some are happy with a guy who can put food on the table ,some want men who can buy them a car and some want men that own half the town.
But reality is also this.Go make your own money then look for money to marry.
This is why lots of men in nigeria cheat on their women.Trust me i seen and know what men talk about before the marriage and ladies trust me you will not like to know .
You hear things like "after i don spend on this girl make she try misbehave " or "i don buy am now make e sit for house breastfeed the pikin while i find younger stuff play with".
Men are not stupid too they know when you are after money or marrying into security and then you become property whether you want to believe it or not because they know you have a slim chance of ever walking away from the security.
It is possible but with Nigerians love for money a poor man will most likely marry a poorer woman.

Yes!  I did and no regrets. I was also poor.

His heart is goooooooooooooooooooood! We built together! Not rich, not poor.  Just plain silly and happy! Having a dannnnn good time ALWAYS!!! Money can't buy those feelings of satisfaction.

Not the materialistic kind anyway.

When it is possible to marry a Fish, it will be possible to marry a Poor guy.

Im not poor, so the poor should marry themselves

Gamine:

When it is possible to marry a Fish, it will be possible to marry a Poor guy.

I'm not poor, so the poor should marry themselves

crap ! absolute crap

I think the "politically correct" answer is probably "YES"  

The reality is, as some previous posters have said, it depends on your definition of "poor".  If it means someone with no ambition, drive or sustainable dreams, then for me, it will probably mean NO.  I am all for supporting someone with ambition etc, but that will not pay the mortgage, school fees or utilities!  It also depends on the woman's socio-economic class and what she is used to (either because she comes from a wealthy family, or has a high standard of living) when she meets the guy.  This topic is close to my heart because I used to be the kind of woman who said it didn't matter what the guy earns.  But previous relationship experience made me wake up and understand that it DOES, and also that love is NOT everything.  Having worked, earned my own money and being able to afford a good standard of living for myself (before marriage), once I am married, I want to stay at home and raise my children for a few years after they are born.  I can't do that if my husband is not earning enough to sustain that way/standard of life.  Clearly, however (with reference to 'spermdrops' post), there are several other factors which make for a healthy and happy marriage.

In addition, I think it has to do with gender/genetics/culture/society - house husbands is a new concept but growing in countries like the UK and USA

It is probably less of an issue in the reverse (man marrying poor lady) 

Even if it's possible for him to get a job after we get married, I'd still say no

wat of the guy later money in future and start dating other girls