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Re: Advice Needed. How Do I Move On? by Nobody: 9:54am On Sep 06, 2016 |
You are useless and worthless.....end of story I won't tell you to move on on your own. You obviously can't. You need professional help. You are damaged!!! |
Re: Advice Needed. How Do I Move On? by Nobody: 10:00am On Sep 06, 2016 |
Are you okay? Chrisjane: |
Re: Advice Needed. How Do I Move On? by Chrisjane(f): 10:10am On Sep 06, 2016 |
daretodiffer:As in? |
Re: Advice Needed. How Do I Move On? by Nobody: 10:17am On Sep 06, 2016 |
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Re: Advice Needed. How Do I Move On? by crackhaus: 11:08am On Sep 06, 2016 |
Mindfulness:Well nothing, I guess biological make-up is something that can't be helped. |
Re: Advice Needed. How Do I Move On? by crackhaus: 11:15am On Sep 06, 2016 |
Ishilove:As in eh, at least I'm not the only one with reservations on this story. I just didn't want to dwell on dissecting it totally, to avoid a situation where readers would assume I was making excuses for the guy & diverting attention from the fact that she was sexually assaulted. |
Re: Advice Needed. How Do I Move On? by joseph1832(m): 11:16am On Sep 06, 2016 |
daretodiffer:Typical example of kettle calling pot black. 1 Like |
Re: Advice Needed. How Do I Move On? by Chrisjane(f): 12:12pm On Sep 06, 2016 |
daretodiffer:No. But methinks you do judging from your previous rants for attention! l know 'worthless and useless" Which is synonymous to daretodiffer will quote me after this to prove me right and tell us who she really is. Sanctimonious fool who thinks she knows it all! 1 Like |
Re: Advice Needed. How Do I Move On? by inemani: 12:47pm On Sep 06, 2016 |
Firstfirst, why would a boy and a girl cohabit in da name of being 'FRIENDS'? Friends indeed, nonsense! And the advisers at the beginning of this thread were advocating begging for forgiveness, say who die? Come macarena, do your parents know you're living with a young man with hot blood running in his veins? For your info, he doesn't like nor love you; you are just a tool, shikena! Get up, dust your buttocks, pick your long-forgotten bible and ask God for mercy and grace to focus in your academics! Finally, throw the dude out of your apartment and life! |
Re: Advice Needed. How Do I Move On? by Nobody: 12:54pm On Sep 06, 2016 |
I would rather be an attention seeker than a worthless and useless thing ..... But then I am no attention seeker and you are You really help because it seems like your self esteem is minus 100. No self-respecting human with even a digit IQ would ask another human to beg an abusive friend cum rapist. Youe existence is an apo...... Chrisjane: |
Re: Advice Needed. How Do I Move On? by Nobody: 2:11pm On Sep 06, 2016 |
Re: Advice Needed. How Do I Move On? by Nobody: 2:16pm On Sep 06, 2016 |
5minsmadness: You can actually only speak for yourself, not all men. The basic instinct for any human being male or female, or even any living being is self-preservation Sex is overrated. 1 Like |
Re: Advice Needed. How Do I Move On? by 5minsmadness: 2:58pm On Sep 06, 2016 |
Ioannes: Coming from a guy, this sounds more like a defeatist statement garnered through many years of disappointing encounters 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Advice Needed. How Do I Move On? by 5minsmadness: 3:07pm On Sep 06, 2016 |
crackhaus: I was actually the first person to like ishilove's post. I had my reservations as well but the whole sexual assault thing draws out sympathy and one doesnt want to appear insensitive. Then there's the sudden new post about fingering and rubbing her face with sperm.... sudden self realization in her own strengths and moving on... I'm not saying its not true o, but something is definitely fishy. Nyway. The thread is filled with righteous rampage. All is well with the world. 2 Likes |
Re: Advice Needed. How Do I Move On? by Nobody: 3:10pm On Sep 06, 2016 |
crackhaus: How does OP's story represent biological make-up? And if so, can we also conclude that all men are ra.pists? 1 Like |
Re: Advice Needed. How Do I Move On? by Nobody: 3:12pm On Sep 06, 2016 |
Ioannes: I share your views but didn't want to speak out for being accused of not knowing how men tick. It's actually funny that some people assume that all me are busy fighting their li.ido on a daily basis like some super Hot, se.x starved creatures. 2 Likes |
Re: Advice Needed. How Do I Move On? by Nobody: 3:13pm On Sep 06, 2016 |
5minsmadness: Lol, you can't be more mistaken. It isn't a defeatist statement. I'd like to think it's a statement of someone who has seen it all. There's definitely more to life than sex. When you get there you'll understand. 2 Likes |
Re: Advice Needed. How Do I Move On? by Nobody: 3:21pm On Sep 06, 2016 |
Mindfulness: God bless you there. 2 Likes |
Re: Advice Needed. How Do I Move On? by 5minsmadness: 3:29pm On Sep 06, 2016 |
Ioannes:Oh, i know there's definitely more to life than sex. But saying sex is not at the very least an important part of men's lives is just self deciet. Have u gone outside today? Are you saying since today began you havent met or seen at least one lady that you had sexual thoughts about, even if you immediately pushed it out of your mind? Go on. Disappoint me by telling the truth 1 Like |
Re: Advice Needed. How Do I Move On? by 5minsmadness: 3:35pm On Sep 06, 2016 |
Ioannes: P. S @bolded, by saying this you admit there ws a time where u thought everything was about sex 1 Like |
Re: Advice Needed. How Do I Move On? by TV01(m): 3:39pm On Sep 06, 2016 |
macarena:You are most welcome. And apologies for being somewhat blunt. The trauma wearies one atimes. You said you were in church? Nowadays that can mean many things, including the opposite of what it implies. However, if you truly believe, I would advise you head for Christ and the cross in the heart of things. I don't mean increased religious activity. Give your self to prayer and to scripture. Understand who you are in Christ, and what he has done for you. Keep your self, and ensure your conduct aligns with scripture. If there is an older, mature, female christian you can fellowship with for pointers, please find one. But be very discerning in who you choose and what you share. the closer to home she is the better. Grace and mercy will bring about your healing - it's all grace and mercy really, God is good - and in time, you will be over this. The vision you had of "how it would be" will surely come to pass. When you meet the one, share all with him, not necessarily a detailed, but like at first here. Then honestly answer any questions. He will be one with the shoulders and heart to love you despite, and even more so, because of what you went through. That will be the final step - perhaps almost imperceptible - in your restoration. Ditch worldly therapeutic notions like self-esteem. Christs develop real spirituality and character, that is robust and speak to anything you will face. Take any practical measures to avoid the person in question. If you have to see him, just be polite and aloof. If the conversation is forced, let him know you want nothing to do with him and ask that he respect that. Get an older person involved if you feel legitimately threatened. I will remember you, may The Good Lord lift up His countenance upon you and give you His peace. TV ...not sure what psycho I am, but it's not "ologist" . It is well and will be better. God bless 1 Like |
Re: Advice Needed. How Do I Move On? by Nobody: 3:42pm On Sep 06, 2016 |
5minsmadness: Lol. I think we're talking about different things entirely. Sex is an integral part of the human makeup no doubt, and yes the male tends to think more about sex than the female, which has been scientifically proven anyway. Is it every time you think about sex that you actually have sex? If this is so then you might need some help. All I'm saying is, man's first instinct isn't sex, it's self preservation. You're in your room at night with your babe, all n@ked and ready to go. Suddenly you hear the unmistakable sound of a rapid gun fire close to your window. What are you going to do? Now let's not derail this thread OK? |
Re: Advice Needed. How Do I Move On? by Nobody: 3:44pm On Sep 06, 2016 |
5minsmadness: I plead the fourth here. Thank you. 1 Like |
Re: Advice Needed. How Do I Move On? by Nobody: 5:54pm On Sep 06, 2016 |
Ioannes: And you! 1 Like |
Re: Advice Needed. How Do I Move On? by crackhaus: 6:48pm On Sep 06, 2016 |
5minsmadness:Lmao..righteous rampage indeed, that be the true true.. Crushing on him, fantasizing sex with him, getting jealous when he talks of other girls...hehe! And all the while living together. Oh well.. |
Re: Advice Needed. How Do I Move On? by crackhaus: 6:53pm On Sep 06, 2016 |
Mindfulness:Drunk in love. Women crave security—your own words baby girl.. Problem is some of y'all stay put in such situations hoping there will be a change...probably due to fear of the unknown and starting all over again building that security from scratch, no? |
Re: Advice Needed. How Do I Move On? by Chartey(m): 7:17pm On Sep 06, 2016 |
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Re: Advice Needed. How Do I Move On? by Nobody: 8:26pm On Sep 06, 2016 |
crackhaus: It's Beyonce's best video clip ever and a great song too. Women crave security—your own words baby girl.. Did the relationship she described feel secure to her? I don't think so. The 'funny' thing about women is that they seem to crave security but Problem is some of y'all stay put in such situations hoping there will be a change...probably due to fear of the unknown and starting all over again building that security from scratch, no? Until they learn that they deserve better, everyone does. |
Re: Advice Needed. How Do I Move On? by Nobody: 10:50am On Sep 07, 2016 |
TV01:Thank you oh so much. Pls may I send pm? Just want to ask about something. Kinda afraid of the jabs I might receive if I drop it here. |
Re: Advice Needed. How Do I Move On? by crackhaus: 4:31pm On Sep 07, 2016 |
Mindfulness:You're looking at it from your perspective on the outside, why don't you ask her if she felt the relationship was secure....and if it wasn't, ask her why she didn't remove herself from it but instead they kept staying together. |
Re: Advice Needed. How Do I Move On? by Nobody: 4:58pm On Sep 07, 2016 |
crackhaus: @macarena Did you feel secure in the relationship with that guy? Excuse my curiosity please. |
Re: Advice Needed. How Do I Move On? by crackhaus: 5:14pm On Sep 07, 2016 |
Mindfulness:Edited |
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