edoziebobbyyahoocom:
The most important thing is that God & ur hubby knows the truth, every other thing is inconsequential. It's healthy to have haters, its a sign you're going somewhere!

Kaira333:
Hi Nairalanders this is my story and pls I need sincere advise.


I don't like seeking advices from people very close to me because they may use it against me later on. I prefer where no body know me.

When I left naija to join my hubby here, I met 5 boys serving him. One is almost due for settlement. I accepted all of them like my siblings. I begged them to pls cooperate with me dat am not here to be wicked to anybody rather am here to help anyone dat needed my help. Two of them are grown up like 24-26 yrs old. D 2nd person to d manager was so rude and spoilt. Due to the fact dat hubby always travel gave them d opportunity to act anyhow especially him. Dis guy is very rude and arrogant even to my hubby. He speaks anyhow to my hubby even in my presence. I couldn't take dat I warned him seriously Neva to try such or he will face my music.
Nb Although they respect me and I know I deserve a very big respect from them but I don't demand that because they are not my children in as much as I love them all but they are not mine and I don't think I have d time to start ddisturbing myself abt some certain things they do.

Fast forward to why am here, this 2nd one is Hubby's cousin and he is related to my mother in law, since d day I started going to our office with them he became so uncomfortable because even when hubby goes out am there. Dis guy will supply goods in my presence without telling me where the goods are going if I ask him he will say madam is because u don't know d place etc I keep on ignoring all those things for d sake of peace. One day customer came to office and was showing me d pictures he took on our wedding day. I collected d fone from d guy and i was suprised, Almost half of d pictures i saw there was dat boys pictures he took from different eateries and hotels i was dumpfolded thank God hubby was by my side I gave him the fone to go 2ru d pics. To cut d whole story short hubby called d guy to correct him to give him advise to stop all those things since he is related to him. Do u know dat dis guy told my hubby even in my presence dat he sleeps with prostitutes dat he is a man dat he will be very happy dat he is going home because of that rather than he stole his money. Honestly I was weak in spirit. D guy was braging as if he was our Oga simply because he has stolen enough money thinking dat such money can be useful. Hubby got angry and made his papers sharply and sent him back home.


Dis guy went home and was telling everybody dat I am d one dat sent him home and d whole world believed him accept my hubby and some other boys dat are leaving with us. He even call some of his friends here and was telling them dat I was d cause dat he has be leaving with hubby 4 4 yrs dat immediately I came in I told my hubby to sent him home. A friend of mine came to see her hubby last week and was telling me dat d news is everywhere dat I sent a poor boy dat is fatherless home even mil, friends here, hubby family believed dat. Today one girl dat hubby wanted to marry b4 was mocking him on whatsapp based on dat. As am typing this it pains me greatly knowing fully well dat i neva intended doing dat not to talk of exhibiting it. Pls what will i do at least for anybody( who cares to know) believe dat am innocent. Hubby keep on telling me not to mind them dat people must talk in whatever someone do, his advice and encouragement has being keeping me all this while but please I want to be vindicated.

RadicallyBlunt:
Ur hubby wasn't supposed to send him home immediately. If he had been enduring them for 4yrs, he shd have endured some months more after ur arrival and not sending him home as soon as u arrived, family members are not treated that way. He shdnt have complained at all after ur arrival so that the boy won't say u are d one poisoning ur hubby's mind against him.

He shd just have collected those pics thru blutooth into his own device and keep an eye on him in those places he is going taking further pictures and videos. Then he (ur hubby) would just call his ppl at home and cmplain to them abt his acts with pictures of places he goes with stolen money. The boy was supposed to hear 1st from his ppl back home with adequate info of the places he goes to. He'll be shocked that he's been closely monitored and he didn't knw. Well ur hubby shd note that 4 d sake of the other boys.

Evidence and witnesses answers it all. Now he can call d customer whose phone had those pics, explain what happened to him so he can get those pics and videos each with their old dates. So that whenever he comes home (mind you he has to come home alone 1st without you) with enough evidence to clear the spread rumour abt u on this matter his proof would have weight. The other boys who knw ure innocent shdnt be too involved cus they may start feeling like d saving messiahs for you and increase their misbehaviors. Ur in-laws may even say so ur hubby now believes other boys against his own cousin

Your hubby shd keep a close eye on the movements of the other boys too and call their ppl when necessary esp when they're caught doing something totally unacceptable.

cococandy:
First of all you have to understand that the woman gets blamed whenever there's an issue in the family involving extended family members. So what the surprise there?

Also this boy is not a child 26 or 24 you say? I don't know but it sounds like taking his phone and going through it wasn't the right thing to do. As long as he was complaint to his Oga (your husband's) work policies, he's free to do what he wants to do in his free time. (except it involves criminal activity). I see that part of your story as portraying too much control over him because he works for you guys. You and your husband had no right to do that. even though you didn't exactly send him home, let's face it He would probably still be there if you hadn't started looking into his private life which in turn led to this. Like you said, he's not your child.

Anyway let people talk. What can you really do about it?

And With the rest of the workers, let them be. If they don't flout your husband's work rules, that should be enough. don't go looking for anything in their personal lives that you don't like. They are adults and should be treated as such.

lilmax:
respect yourself, it seems you force respect out of people..... everything was going good until you arrived...... next time whenever you are new to a place don't try to change people by force

Vikky014:
people can only say those things at ur back. i understand spoiling sme1's name is bad. jst be a good wiffy and prove dem wrong. bt since ur hubby is there for u dnt be worried. bt ur hubby shld desist frm chatting wt dt mumu ex dt is mockn him. she is jst pained dt ur hubby didnt marry her. she shld face her own husband. rubbish!!!!

cc kaira333

Kaira333:

Fast forward to why am here, this 2nd one is Hubby's cousin and he is related to my mother in law, since d day I started going to our office with them he became so uncomfortable because even when hubby goes out am there. Dis guy will supply goods in my presence without telling me where the goods are going if I ask him he will say madam is because u don't know d place etc I keep on ignoring all those things for d sake of peace. One day customer came to office and was showing me d pictures he took on our wedding day. I collected d fone from d guy and i was suprised, Almost half of d pictures i saw there was dat boys pictures he took from different eateries and hotels i was dumpfolded thank God hubby was by my side I gave him the fone to go 2ru d pics. To cut d whole story short hubby called d guy to correct him to give him advise to stop all those things since he is related to him. Do u know dat dis guy told my hubby even in my presence dat he sleeps with prostitutes dat he is a man dat he will be very happy dat he is going home because of that rather than he stole his money. Honestly I was weak in spirit. D guy was braging as if he was our Oga simply because he has stolen enough money thinking dat such money can be useful. Hubby got angry and made his papers sharply and sent him back home.

crackhaus:

His disregard and disrespect for you aside...so you saw pics of the guy in eateries and hotels, then you assumed the only way he can patronize those places is with money he must have stolen from the business TRUE OR FALSE?

How is it possible that neither you nor your husband noticed that money was getting missing from the business until after going through his phone?

Kaira333:
Lolxxxxx. D other guy confirmed dat he supplied some goods and he told them not to write it down in his presence and he couldn't deny it. Bros nobi everything I fit write here nah because they are many. After the guy went home someone told hubby dat one guy like dat always come to our place to carry him every Sunday. But I told hubby to ignore d person because he didn't tell him dat when d guy was around. To be Frank with u I was intending asking hubby to allow him come back as in let it just be suspension but when he went home and started telling them lies I was so disappointed. Right now I hate him so much sorry to use d word "Hate"

crackhaus:

I understand and believe all you revealed.

I'm just asking...was it after the incident of going through his phone that you found out every other shady thing he has been doing?

Kaira333:
His rude and arrogant nature was from day one. There was a day he challenged my hubby in d presence of his friend. D friend was very annoyed with him and even wanted to beat d guy but hubby told him to leave him dat he will handle dat his own way. Due to pleadings from his auntys and mum. He just endured dat and d rest. Even b4 I came people complained to hubby dat d guy was molesting young girls d other place they were staying b4 hubby asked him to come and be staying with him. Honestly bad stories abt d guy plenty although some came out when he left.its well I have decided to keep everything behind me. No matter what they say "Clear conscience...... although its very painful but its well

Kaira333:
His rude and arrogant nature was from day one. There was a day he challenged my hubby in d presence of his friend. D friend was very annoyed with him and even wanted to beat d guy but hubby told him to leave him dat he will handle dat his own way. Due to pleadings from his auntys and mum. He just endured dat and d rest. Even b4 I came people complained to hubby dat d guy was molesting young girls d other place they were staying b4 hubby asked him to come and be staying with him. Honestly bad stories abt d guy pleout when he left.its well I have decided to keep everything behind me. No matter what they say "Clear conscience...... although its very painful but its well

Kaira333:
I didn't say I went 2ru his fone. What am I doing with it kwanu? Pls read what I typed well b4 blaming me. Those ones are living with us, we are accountable for anything dat happens to them 4 d moment they will stay with us until they are settled. We are they ones dat invited them here ok? People dat are paid monthly we don't have anything doing with d way they behave after work hour.

Kaira333:
Lolxxxxx. D other guy confirmed dat he supplied some goods and he told them not to write it down in his presence and he couldn't deny it. Bros nobi everything I fit write here nah because they are many. After the guy went home someone told hubby dat one guy like dat always come to our place to carry him every Sunday. But I told hubby to ignore d person because he didn't tell him dat when d guy was around. To be Frank with u I was intending asking hubby to allow him come back as in let it just be suspension but when he went home and started telling them lies I was so disappointed. Right now I hate him so much sorry to use d word "Hate"

freecocoa:
You were intending but you were the one that showed your hubby the pictures that sent him home, still you were intending. Is your hubby a f00l not to have known his money was missing all these years or what exactly? Messiah, you got there and saved the situation and I hope you people settled that boy for all his work o, you hate him, like he doesn't hate you more, mschew.