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Re: My Wife Spat On My Face This Morning, What Should I Do? by Gwangwadangwa77: 8:13am On Sep 13, 2016 |
Iefosa: listen my brother. I give no room to moral decadence |
Re: My Wife Spat On My Face This Morning, What Should I Do? by NwaGodl1000(m): 8:13am On Sep 13, 2016 |
Man...in order not to continue abusing your life and your woman please separate from her maybe by sending her home like a yr or two but nothing more than that pls so that you too can adjust yourself as can also be at fault sometimes. |
Re: My Wife Spat On My Face This Morning, What Should I Do? by def111(m): 8:14am On Sep 13, 2016 |
how many female support him to beat her. if beating will solve the problem ?... this her attitude will never change, until you take one action. time will come she will understand after you take that action |
Re: My Wife Spat On My Face This Morning, What Should I Do? by nonjebose(m): 8:15am On Sep 13, 2016 |
nameerfhtennek:Guy, sorry about your situation. The first Year of marriage is actually the most challenging for most couple. Take it easy. |
Re: My Wife Spat On My Face This Morning, What Should I Do? by cybriz82(m): 8:15am On Sep 13, 2016 |
a wife beater is better dan a spit spatter. |
Re: My Wife Spat On My Face This Morning, What Should I Do? by vhatpweetygurl(f): 8:16am On Sep 13, 2016 |
Sincerely all your wife needs is attention, you love her fine, how often do you tell nd. Show her the love .please stop the game nd play with her. On behalf of myself,Btruth,mide i. Can't recall,Bnice and other peacemakers on nairaland Weare sorry dnt send her home. She is alone,lonely nd Hot.Shower her with attention. |
Re: My Wife Spat On My Face This Morning, What Should I Do? by Nobody: 8:19am On Sep 13, 2016 |
Blow her mind and give her chronic negligence, shun her for a week or more, don't eat her food or sleep on the same bed, don't even talk to her at allllllll, fear go catch her that she's losing you, and just sit back and watch trying to get your attention. When you see she has really repented fcvk her silly like a mad man, do jungle justice on that kitty, if you have to take viagra or whatever drug just make sure you do this. Thank me later |
Re: My Wife Spat On My Face This Morning, What Should I Do? by chamillitary64(m): 8:20am On Sep 13, 2016 |
Not trying to justify her actions but she needs your attention. It appears you love your FIFA 16 more dan her and she is jealous. Try and resolve the issue and spend more time with her. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Spat On My Face This Morning, What Should I Do? by lebrotin: 8:21am On Sep 13, 2016 |
@OP....We r in the same shoes...send me your contact..i have a word for you..treat as important |
Re: My Wife Spat On My Face This Morning, What Should I Do? by Saorchy(m): 8:24am On Sep 13, 2016 |
Ishilove: Ur comment is quite hilarious yet u made real sense. Ur advice is key 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Spat On My Face This Morning, What Should I Do? by nonjebose(m): 8:25am On Sep 13, 2016 |
mizlovette:Your last statement may not be true. They are only married for a year. Many couples pass through this phase of adjustment. He did well by walking away, as this has a way softening and reducing the anger and tension |
Re: My Wife Spat On My Face This Morning, What Should I Do? by VNOS(m): 8:25am On Sep 13, 2016 |
femlex: Let me ask you question sir. During the first few years of you and your wife always quarreling, did she at least SOMETIMES realize her mistake and come back to you showing genuine remorse for her actions and apologize?? Please answer. I'm definitely not in support of beating her, but I think the most disappointing thing here is her lack of remorse after such despicable act by her. She's even still looking for another fight after that, showing that, she's even ready to do more... that's just sad. I know he has his own faults too and maybe shouldn't ve ignored her in the first place (note that with the bad attitude & intent to quarrel with which she came asking, some might argue he was justified) or even drag the remote with her but that notwithstanding, she crossed a big line there. Well, I don't know if I have the right advice to give him but something drastic needs to happen on both parties. Please answer my question sir. Thanks |
Re: My Wife Spat On My Face This Morning, What Should I Do? by Rohzay(m): 8:26am On Sep 13, 2016 |
so sendin sum1 back to NIG is nw a way of pusnishin sum1? soo naija has gone dis bad? chai.... u no folo her go shoppin,u no reply wen she ask abt d internet gadget n u want her to b hpy?,,,,small tin de make women flare up... bro hw kwanu u go de play fifa forget say u get wife for house?... ur wife overreacted bt I envy ur temper,if na me??....Make I no talk! ignore her for 16days n u wil see she wil beg! ...try it n tnk me leta! |
Re: My Wife Spat On My Face This Morning, What Should I Do? by MizTyna(f): 8:29am On Sep 13, 2016 |
chuksbogus2001: Yes you just advocated women battery. Because your dad beat your mum now you're going to continue the trend. This is why fathers should be role models to their children. If your mother changed,believe me it wasn't due to the beating. Nameerfhtennek,please do not listen to anybody asking you to beat or leave your wife. Truth is she messed up royally. You also said mean things to her. Any sincere person will tell you the first few years of marriage is a pain in the ass. Dating is very different from actually living together,pls don't have her go back. Talk to her,tell her about your hopes,fears and dreams for the marriage. And why all what happened must never happen again. There's nothing scary in what happened to you,if you talk to any married person they'll just laugh it off. Talk about it. Communicate better. I wish you all the best! |
Re: My Wife Spat On My Face This Morning, What Should I Do? by sweetcocoa(f): 8:30am On Sep 13, 2016 |
Iefosa:You are a joker, someone spat on him and you say he should apologise to the person, yea right. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Spat On My Face This Morning, What Should I Do? by codeME: 8:32am On Sep 13, 2016 |
You are a very good man for not torching her and remaining calm please just remain cool and calm down. If you have not sent her packing before you read this please don't do. Please don't be annoyed follow my advice and you will never regret it. So lets start from here! All i can deduce from your story is that you DON'T HAVE ENOUGH TIME WITH YOUR WIFE, and you are not so sensitive to her emotional needs and that is the major reason she is always fighting you. From what you said I can deduce that most of your time at home what you use it for is to play FIFA online if you can play from say 12AM to around 5AM(from your story) before you sleep, I am sure this is not a one time occurrence but what you do from time to time. She needs you by her side when she is sleeping, but all you are doing is playing FIFA. Man wake up. Give her attention and communication that is one of the major thing women need. You are really failing from this. And let me tell you when women hide things in their pants most of the time what they need is s*x, they want to feel that man around them, but you screwed up. You are there twisting her hand when she was expecting you to curdle her so she can feel you.... why will she not spit on you. My man you failed this simple feminine test. You said you love her. please let it continue, you might not find another lady to love like her again. what to do quickly. Apologize to her though what she did is not good, tell her you will change i mean that you will be more sensitive to her emotional needs, tell her to list 3 things she wants you to do that you have not been doing and please do those things if you dont want more troubles. Take her out today eat together, talk chat and laugh together and let everything come and end on the bed!!! Mind you I am married for so many years and have counsel so many regarding marriages. If you dont mind I CAN EVEN CALL YOU if you drop a number we can discus from. Thanks and God bless you. 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Spat On My Face This Morning, What Should I Do? by Martinsedward(m): 8:33am On Sep 13, 2016 |
[quote author=Martinsedward post=49310134]I have been a friend to this website for some years now but I just want you to know that your post made me to fully registered into the website so I can have the opportunity to advice you. I carefully read between the line your worries and trust me I've had something similar to your experience in the past so I totally imagine what you are going through. Forget about immature advice here online. Not until people experience bad marriage , they won't know how damaging it can be for career, emotion and your state of mind. You are lucky they don't sell alcohol where you are, when I was dealing with mine, I turned into a strong addict and started doing things I don't do before. Here is my advice for you, you need to do the needful to avoid her by all means not by sending her back to Nigeria. I live in North America and it got to a point when my ex started acting up by disrespecting me . She did to the point that she stood to my face that I should touch her then see what's gonna happen to me. I immediately got her message that she is setting me up to jail so I avoided that. I left home and rented a basement , after few months , she came back to her senses by realizing the important of husband in a home. With all due respect ladies, you need to be humble in marriage and that's the key. Your happiness is the key and better avoid her now before she will send you to an early grave. Vacate the house for her now and make yourself happy again. Mine wouldn't even cook for me for months despite she doesn't work and I took care of all bills in the house . 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Spat On My Face This Morning, What Should I Do? by Electronzeez(m): 8:34am On Sep 13, 2016 |
Okikiki: I had like to see the face behind this sobriquet , op I am yet to all read all pages of this thread but this is one sacred advise you must listen to . Let me add mine ..... Any decision you take currently now that you are upset is very wrong and would hunt you forever , whatever comes to your mind after returning back to your non turgid state is the right move . |
Re: My Wife Spat On My Face This Morning, What Should I Do? by nonjebose(m): 8:36am On Sep 13, 2016 |
kayzat:Op, listen to this guy. He has said what needs to be said. |
Re: My Wife Spat On My Face This Morning, What Should I Do? by adedayoadeoye(f): 8:40am On Sep 13, 2016 |
sending her back home is not solution to the problem now OK just seek for devine intervention from God den speak right language she will understand to her. pls don't beat her.may the lord see u through 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Spat On My Face This Morning, What Should I Do? by cousinavi(m): 8:42am On Sep 13, 2016 |
The cause of this problem i believe is your attachment to your video game. Your wife needs your attention and she's definitely not getting any. She's frustrated by this and she's taking it out on you. You're consumed by video game addiction such that you ignored her repeatedly when she asked for the internet router. Bruv, reduce your game time or better still switch off the damn console for a month and sort out your marriage. You can thank me later! 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Spat On My Face This Morning, What Should I Do? by Skmoda360(m): 8:42am On Sep 13, 2016 |
Iefosa:well said bro. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Spat On My Face This Morning, What Should I Do? by Nobody: 8:43am On Sep 13, 2016 |
sllay: Seems like you specialize in ranting. With your rancorous words and overbearing manner, your words do not pass anything across except an odious "feminist" who would rather blame the man for everything and find excuses for women; no matter how implausible they are. I understand the need for you to lash out. You have been INdoctrinated to believe the man is responsible for all violence; that men are brutes always. No doubt you've watched "movies" and concluded that the Man is always at fault. You're probably the type that advocates for women to be treated as equal creatures, yet when they Bleep up you run back to the excuse "They're woman naa....". Keep drowning in effulgent pool of pseudo-equality whilst shouting the vapid slogans you indoctrinate yourself with. E no concern me. And P.S: My sister would NEVER do something like that. She's well trained; something (no offense OP) the OP's wife doesn't seem to be. PPS : It's Sir Were. I embrace madness. You don't give it to me. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Spat On My Face This Morning, What Should I Do? by Liferace: 8:47am On Sep 13, 2016 |
And let me say am sorry for what happened. Please,remember that all she had now is YOU..Again,that region brought the worse in me out,I used to think I have all figured out until...I dated my husband for 5 years,we never quarrel for 5 minutes until I got to that region...I became a shadow of myself..bitter and all. Let her mix with non Arabs..you might need to change your house to where experts lived more so she get to relate with some women that can understand her more.And yes,what she did was wrong but remember two wrongs don't make a right. I bet when she starts having kids,you will be the one begging for her attention.. Lol God will help you and give you wisdom to deal with it. |
Re: My Wife Spat On My Face This Morning, What Should I Do? by UmmKhalifah(f): 8:50am On Sep 13, 2016 |
Don't touch her, u can send her back nd Pls Dnt make t a suprise and u will see dat she will change make her understand u r sendn her cos she's Nt givin peace n d house. Ma husband get angry easily but wit dat he had never pinch Nt to talk of beatin m. |
Re: My Wife Spat On My Face This Morning, What Should I Do? by Nobody: 8:51am On Sep 13, 2016 |
You guys need counselling and very fast too before this marriage becomes unsalvageable I see a very disrespectful & uncouth woman and I see a man who is on the tether of exploding and doing something stuppidd if care is not taken. Then I see 2 people who don't know how to deal with small issues before they escalate into big ones & 2 people who lack communication skills. I guess its easy for me to say all this because ive been married for some time, but in truth before you get to a stage of peace you both have to sacrifice; and that sacrifice includes your time, effort, and doing things that you wouldn't normally do and stop doing things that you normally would like to do. Most importantly you have to both respect each other & Both hands have to wash each other to be clean and one hand cannot do it all. This all started when she wanted to go shopping and you were unable to tell her in a way that she wouldn't feel bad. Outcomes usually depend on how you put things across. Gra gra and bone face mostly doesn't work and when you pet a woman, she is more amiable to whatever you are proposing. The problem though which I do understand is that some women are just to harsh, such that even if the man wants to pet and be pleasant, he is unable to do so. Women also need attention. Very important. Your playing computer games when your wife had nothing to do wasn't the right thing bearing in mind you had forgotten her router. You are a married man now and in a place away from home which is probably lonely, so you need to create quality time for your wife. So back to my opening statement which is you guys need to see a marriage counsellor. . .fast! First of all you both need to be taught to be careful what you say to each other in anger, because when the anger subsides, the words are always there. Many marriages have broken down or are irreparable by words that have been spoken to each other in the heat of the moment. I wouldn't advise sending her back to Nigeria. Bro Bellong, Bro Thorpido & Bro TV01 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Spat On My Face This Morning, What Should I Do? by Mom007(f): 8:58am On Sep 13, 2016 |
How do you forgive someone who has shown no repentance and hasn't asked for forgiveness? Even God doesn't do that. For a woman, spitting on your husband is a clear sign you hold him to no regard whatsoever! Can you ever try that to someone else? Much less your husband... How would you feel if someone spat on you? Some women Sha! Bros pls send her home. Let her go and figure out what is important to her. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Spat On My Face This Morning, What Should I Do? by Nobody: 9:02am On Sep 13, 2016 |
I don't knw wat to say in this case sha...but spitting on someone is an abomination. my grandpa told me they only spit on people who commit abominable offence. or those who have been condemned to death. I don't really think that woman loves you, I will advice you to what will only give u inner peace |
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