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Re: A Bitter True Story Of My Child's Delivery by Dandy1(m): 5:58am On Sep 14, 2016 |
motivator4: Yeah, last week Monday I asked her to tell the doctors to induce the delivery. I forgot the excuse they gave. I actually never want it to go past 37 weeks |
Re: A Bitter True Story Of My Child's Delivery by endowednicky(f): 6:01am On Sep 14, 2016 |
Be very thankful to God sir...my neighbour lost the child she carried for 9month..A boy. first child . but all the same she's alive...and strong ..keep calm.God knows about it.. |
Re: A Bitter True Story Of My Child's Delivery by Dandy1(m): 6:06am On Sep 14, 2016 |
cococandy:No me and my wife are totally liberal. We are are only as religious as one can be for conformity I think. But I am not an atheist though. But I hate what stupid things religion can make people do. I actually never wanted her to go past thirtyseven weeks. But she fears CS. I asked her to tell them to induce the delivery last week Monday. I've forgotten the excuse she said the doctor gave |
Re: A Bitter True Story Of My Child's Delivery by dont8(m): 7:09am On Sep 14, 2016 |
surgecom:Thanks bro, I'm really suck at writing yoruba I guess. |
Re: A Bitter True Story Of My Child's Delivery by dont8(m): 7:10am On Sep 14, 2016 |
femi4:Don't beat him, I take responsibilty Thanks for the correction. |
Re: A Bitter True Story Of My Child's Delivery by cococandy(f): 7:22am On Sep 14, 2016 |
Dandy1:okay. Well sorry about your loss. |
Re: A Bitter True Story Of My Child's Delivery by ColtPython(m): 7:25am On Sep 14, 2016 |
Your friend (my colleague at work) told me about it. I'm really sorry for your loss. Pls take heart and console yourself with the healthy wellbeing of the mother and the twin. |
Re: A Bitter True Story Of My Child's Delivery by poppop: 8:03am On Sep 14, 2016 |
It is okay Dandy1, please cosole d Mrs, do no weep. God in his mercies knows all. On my way to work in a rickety bus n I'm sending you prayers and Gods comfort. Jesus knows. Big hugs 2 Likes |
Re: A Bitter True Story Of My Child's Delivery by poppop: 8:09am On Sep 14, 2016 |
Dandy1: M glad u brot this up yourself. Nine months n over just hanging on with a case of multiple birth was maybe... Oh well who knows d end from d beginning? God. It is well |
Re: A Bitter True Story Of My Child's Delivery by Huston1: 8:12am On Sep 14, 2016 |
I kniw how you feel. Yet , I will say congrats. The good Lord knows it all. |
Re: A Bitter True Story Of My Child's Delivery by SirVintageCock: 8:26am On Sep 14, 2016 |
How can she agree to the CS when the chants of deliver like the Hebrew women is all you will hear from all this dem prayers. If dem doctors and nurses talk about C-section people will accuse them of being after money I just dey feel for your wife bro, caused she go dey blame herself for not heeding to their calls for the CS. Console her and man up, it is an expensive lesson but you have come out stronger and wiser and a little bit scathed. Next pregnancy,tell her to reduce her attendance to all dem C-Section demonization prayers and " deliver like Hebrew women chants", to enable her recondition her thinking ability and her ability to make sound and safe decisions. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: A Bitter True Story Of My Child's Delivery by helovesme(f): 9:22am On Sep 14, 2016 |
SirVintageCock: You are right. The "Hebrew woman" slogan does my head in. I came across a post two days ago where a guy was bragging about how his wife gave birth the "Hebrew woman way" and how she is a "strong Hebrew woman". You can imagine the guy bragging to friends and family? How does he think those that have experienced c-section births will feel? Those without children already have it ingrained in them thanks to his comments that "their wives must do it the Hebrew way" and "God forbid c-section". I sat down and thought - so what about the women that gave birth via c-section? Are they "Jamaican women" or "Galilean women"? Are such women "weaklings"? It's this "shaming" of c-section mums that makes many women shun this option even after professional advice from their doctors. C-section mums are judged as "less prayerful", "lazy", "too posh to push", "less spritual" and "they must be paying for their sins" or "facing spritual attack" to have undergone this method of delivery. This attitude and perception just has to stop. Nigerians can sometimes be too judgemental. I'm yet to see any child's birth certificate where the method of delivery has been stated. So why the fixation on "Hebrew woman style"? I really commend the OP for honestly sharing his experience. I'm sure a lot of people have learnt from it. God will wipe away his tears and bless/compensate his wife in ways she never expected. Amen. 7 Likes |
Re: A Bitter True Story Of My Child's Delivery by girlhaley(f): 9:28am On Sep 14, 2016 |
Take heart sir.... May d Almighty God provide another boo boo for you Be strong for ur wife and d Lil boo Congrats |
Re: A Bitter True Story Of My Child's Delivery by southernbelle(f): 9:29am On Sep 14, 2016 |
Congratulations!!! It wasn't a bitter-sweet day, it was a sweet day. God knows best |
Re: A Bitter True Story Of My Child's Delivery by Dandy1(m): 9:30am On Sep 14, 2016 |
ColtPython: That would be Victor right? Small world |
Re: A Bitter True Story Of My Child's Delivery by SirVintageCock: 10:06am On Sep 14, 2016 |
Nigerian pastors are tackfully riding on gullible and ignorant Nigerians using their ingenious religious brainwashing to rake in money for their posh lifestyles. If you believe in God then why is it hard to believe that he also made medical science to make life easier for his people. In fact, I don't understand sha, but I refuse to be ignorant and clueless. Just some days ago, a doctor needed to have friend's son transfused with at least a pint of whole blood but this guy rather than hustling for the money opted to have his pastor invoked some sort of Jesus blood for his son to drink or something. Had to tell him that if this boy dies here amma tell the whole world that he use him for rituals. This had his brain reformatted and necessary arrangement was made, boy was transfused, 24 hours later we were home chilling with a bottle of wine and some nice stuffed chicken praising God. You've got brilliant people with half of their brain wired to their pastors . helovesme: |
Re: A Bitter True Story Of My Child's Delivery by Victorakats(m): 10:14am On Sep 14, 2016 |
Dandy1: No word will ever be able to heal you and your wife of your pains, especially knowing that it could have been averted. But one truth is that your wife is a living testimony and God will bless you and your wife with another twins in your marriage. Hold unto his words and be strong for boo! God bless both of you! My warm regards to your wife and family! www.amaraofficial.com |
Re: A Bitter True Story Of My Child's Delivery by tical(m): 10:16am On Sep 14, 2016 |
congrats on the new born! sorry for the loss..if God made it possible for her to conceive twins once..it will still happen again bro.. cheer up. |
Re: A Bitter True Story Of My Child's Delivery by pheesayor(m): 11:01am On Sep 14, 2016 |
My condolences, please take care of the living baby, God will surely send a replacement. Cheers Dandy1: |
Re: A Bitter True Story Of My Child's Delivery by Xynthialuvy(f): 11:04am On Sep 14, 2016 |
Congratulation. Thank God boo is alive. May God be with the family. |
Re: A Bitter True Story Of My Child's Delivery by Onegai(f): 11:12am On Sep 14, 2016 |
Dandy1: Abeg let your baby stay for 40 weeks. The West that started the practise of inducing before 40 weeks are now begging Mothers to carry their babies full term because they have seen the implications of not doing so. Nigerian Medical council will wait until later to revert back. You guys stayed 40 weeks plus 3 weeks extra, that's where the wahala came in, any good doctor who knows you are having twins will call you in at 40 weeks max and induce you. The doctor should have insisted on it. What hospital did you use, because I know several doctors who would have wheeled your wife, kicking and screaming, to the Operating Room. Abeg next time, tell your wife to join Health section, there are 2 thread there for Pregnancy and for Newborns, had you or she come there to mention she was even 40 weeks and some days with twins, we would have used screams to chase you to hospital that night. Pele 5 Likes |
Re: A Bitter True Story Of My Child's Delivery by abisolaarshow(f): 12:04pm On Sep 14, 2016 |
You are really lucky some people would do anything to get pregnant talk more of having a successful delivery. Boo is your blessing and miracle please enjoy fatherhood and expect to be called daddy soon. Congratulations |
Re: A Bitter True Story Of My Child's Delivery by nan1: 12:21pm On Sep 14, 2016 |
congratulations and so sory about the loss but u should have opted for a cs since its a multiple delivery its not easy to have twin through normal delivery and complications like this abound. but just take heart it is well 1 Like |
Re: A Bitter True Story Of My Child's Delivery by sharpman1(m): 1:07pm On Sep 14, 2016 |
Dandy1: Thank God for your baby and wife. God will continue to keep them. For the rest of us, always listen to the doctor, it can save lives. 1 Like |
Re: A Bitter True Story Of My Child's Delivery by odsniper2(m): 2:15pm On Sep 14, 2016 |
You have a lot to be grateful for, you should grieve for the lost Boo but not too much because you gonna need the strength to take care of your bae and Boo......God will replenish your lost |
Re: A Bitter True Story Of My Child's Delivery by Nobody: 2:54pm On Sep 14, 2016 |
odsniper2: Replenish his loss? Dat one na curse now! Abeg check up the dictionary meaning of "replenish" and modify your post ASAP. @ OP, I reject that for you in JESUS name. Na your fortunes GOD go replenish, no be loss. Congratulations once again. |
Re: A Bitter True Story Of My Child's Delivery by ubiR(f): 3:41pm On Sep 14, 2016 |
Dandy1:Dear OP, I totally feel your pain as I also passed through same dilemma 5months although mine was one baby with non to go home with, some Dr needs to be jailed for causing ones lose. I was made to believe that government hospitals aren't trustworthy when it comes to lives and hubby and I decided to register in a private hospital when I took in. After 4months of ante natal we had to relocate and the need for a change of hospital came up, although before that the hospital mis diagnosed my blood group. I am B- and I knew I was to take Rhogam injection after delivery. The hospital carried out the test twice and told me I am B+ but I never accepted it. When we changed to the new private hospital at Okota, that was the first test they ran and my blood group was confirmed to be B- and when we looked around, they had all the facilities so we decided to settle for them Fast forward to 3months later, I was 7months gone and I started showing signs of infection, I asked to be treated and the Dr who said he had 17 years medical experience asked me to buy Skineal and apply. I asked if he could give m drug he said it wasn't necessary. A month later the infection became worse and hubby had to go with me to request for treatment and that was when he gave me anti biotics and am insertion tablet and he asked me to come the next day for swab test. I got prepared and went, unknown to me, the nurse wanted to use am unsterilized instrument on me, it was the Dr who came and stopped the procedure and asked me to go home and the swab was cancelled saying they weren't ready. This was in my 36weeks, then we thought of changing hospital but to us we felt it was too late as they were the only ones with my medical history. Well with all that happened I ended up losing my daughter at 39weeks during delivery. She was active before birth, the main Dr had travelled and his assistant was left to take the delivery. Him and the two nurses left me during labour after checking me and realised I had dilated to 4cm. After 5hours of labour my daughter came out weak and the Dr told us she had cord around her neck which caused her death of which we didn't believe till date. She was our first issue and above all the stitching wasn't properly done, I had to go to another hospital for that. Am glad i took the Rhogam and hopefully another will come.Till date the Dr never visited to show he cares ,kept giving excuses for not coming and I asked him not to bother coming after 6weeks. Its almost two months now and we have moved on. I wrote this to help others especially women please no matter how much it will cost u look for the best,although people ask why we didn't register in a government hospital, we still know its cos of the bad stories we hear daily. May the Lord deliver us from bad Drs that will cost us our lives. Thank God are expecting again. OP be grateful to God u have one left, what if it were the two? 3 Likes |
Re: A Bitter True Story Of My Child's Delivery by Megilicious(f): 3:58pm On Sep 14, 2016 |
congrats to u sir, and d arrival of ur baby boo, may she bring nothing more dan joy, peace, wealth, good news and blessing into ur family IJN. evry disappointment is a blessing, n may u neva cry ovaany child IJN, all ur sorrows r gone foreva. happiness is ur portion, pls dnt b sad any more, bt treat dis beautiful gift frm God with so much love, and affection, for God taketh n he giveth. |
Re: A Bitter True Story Of My Child's Delivery by ColtPython(m): 4:07pm On Sep 14, 2016 |
Dandy1: Yes. Victor. |
Re: A Bitter True Story Of My Child's Delivery by eyinjuege: 8:33am On Sep 15, 2016 |
helovesme: The question you should ask is was she offered a CS or not? Did she accept or reject the offer? Did labour set in before the scheduled CS? You really cannot force your decisions on patients. You can only let then know the risks involved, and let them make up their minds. You as a health personnelle will just document your discussions. Nigeria is a country that has so many strong cultural and religious beliefs regarding pregnancy, labour and child birth. It's hard for some people to part from such beliefs. 1 Like |
Re: A Bitter True Story Of My Child's Delivery by eyinjuege: 9:04am On Sep 15, 2016 |
SirVintageCock: CS seems to be alien to us. I have seen several educated young people who have opted to go the traditional route to turn their breech baby in order to avoid CS and it has always ended badly. There's some sort of mistrust our people seem to have towards modern medicine. In some cultures, women that birth through CS are not seen as real women, but this even has nothing to do with the Hebrew woman chant, but rather a cultural thing. In some cultures, if you dare cry out in pain during labour, you are not seen as a true woman and will not be given a cow. So many customs attached to pregnancy, labour. Even blood transfusion seem to be such a big deal to some, and they would rather explore other options like drinking ugwu leaves with malt and milk to build the blood for someone that needs blood immediately. When it comes to the issue of children/sick people and health care, the parent/carer may not always act in the best interest of the child/sick. Some out of ignorance, some stupidity and some out of confusion. |
Re: A Bitter True Story Of My Child's Delivery by anullihappie: 10:01am On Sep 15, 2016 |
Mr man pls be grateful, much as it is not easy take a grip on yourself for the family. I don't know how much I envy you and your wife. I have been married for almost five years now, without pregnancy, no labour, no push and no delivery....worse yet I have no hope of having a child, not because I'm faithless, but because I have lost hope in faith itself. All I can say is be thankful, its a faithful situation. |
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