We are not in the position to say it is right or wrong to visit your prophets. But when clients visited for advice or guide, we don't hold back our professional views and prowess.

Here, in this article, we shall discuss why you might be disappointed even though you've only visited your pastor for his blessings and to seek for guides on your relationship.

1. IF YOU ARE LAZY AND CAN'T SEEK GOD'S FACE ON YOUR OWN
The first reason why you might likely regret asking your pastor to pray over your relationship is your laziness. Most often than not, people who have sought their pastors' decision on their relationships come with disappointment, this we gathered in the experience of our work.

When you visit the man of God premeditated, what you'd get is likely going to be different form what you actually expected. That's disappointment. A situation that's avoidable, if only you've been able to go down on your kneels and make your findings by yourself from your creator.

Being lazy in determining the right person isn't restricted to prayer alone. Simple act of attending relationship seminars, reading of relationship books and articles like this are part of what many fail to invest in, therefore, ending at the mercy of whoever is suggested to them by their family or friends as experts in choosing the right partner.

We can't begin to give the statistical data of how many have been given positive responses to their prayers' requests on their relationships and just few years down the lane in marriage, they came back crying of being misled by their men of God.

2. IF HE'S CONFUSED
Oh, we can't wait to let this out. This happens most of the time and our clients only told us the truth, when they realised they couldn't hide the truth again.

This is a situation where someone visits his her prophet or pastor with 4, 5 or 6 partners' name. To the extent of giving the man of God the list of a mixture of names that didn't exist. Some people are mean!

Remember, we are talking about men of God here. We aren't talking about God. God isn't confused but men can be. You have already set the man up for failure or confused replies, if you do this.

This is one of the reasons we also recommend that all the Church of God have marriage counselling team set up in their church to help people. This would have been very helpful before capping it with prayers.

3. IF YOU ARE ALREADY HAVING SEX
This is a bit spiritual and psychological. We found out that people actually go out to pray about some of their partners after they've been engaging in sex together.

Many do come back disappointed because the man of God couldn't profer an answer to their requests. And atimes, the man God couldn't give a direct answer to the obvious and the seeker would be let down.

Quoting one of our clients, "The prophet said if we have been having sex he wouldn't be able to give me an accurate answer. I just wondered what it had to do with it."

This is a prophet this client trusted with his life. The man is "tested and trusted" according to our client.

In another incident, a lady chose to go for the only man she had had sex with and she was backed by her pastor. They were wrong and the marriage was ended in short time. We have many stories to support our views on this.

4. IF YOUR PARENTS DON'T WANT IT TO HAPPEN
If your parents aren't in support of your relationship, don't go too far, it's not likely you would be favoured by your pastor or prophets. Parents are a great influence on their children relationship final decision in this part of the world.

It's not as if men of God were instruments to putting asunder to what the Lord has put together. But men of God know the place of parents as the ones their children must respect so much. Especially when the aftermath of whatever their children decisions are will eventually fall on the parents in quest.

While speaking in the counsel room, we usually count the number of times people mention their parents, especially, mothers, in their explanation. The attachment is so real that the men of God don't find it easy to go against the parents in their final submissions to the seekers.

5. SEEKING DIFFERENT OPINIONS
Some people are good in going from one place to another to finding solution to an already solved matter.

If you talk to Prophet A and later in the day move to Pastor B and Alfa C in the night, looking for answers, you are already confused and you would do more harm to yourself than good.

Just like someone said, there is no better way to get confused in your relationships than going around hearing contradictory messages.

In all this, we advised, praying on your path of life, reading relationship books, articles, attending seminars and talking to professionals, if you must do well and have a healthy relationship.

Source: www.olulinks.com