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5 Things That Are Hurting Your Partner And Killing Your Relationship. by JARUSHUB: 11:38am On Jul 24, 2017
Relationships aren’t supposed to be selfish, while considering yourself it is important and only fair that you take a step back and also consider your partner – consider how you might be hurting your partner and things you might be doing to turn your partner off. Jumia Travel shares 5 things you do that hurt your partner and kill your relationship in the process.

Living Outside What the Two of You Can Afford

It is important to live within what the two of you can afford. Once you’ve decided to be in a relationship with someone, you have to learn to respect what the person is earning per time and adjust your expenses to align with it. Avoid belittling and insulting your partner for the inability to meet your expenses, rather learn to love and appreciate while adjusting your expenses to align, or work hard, alongside your partner, to increase earnings to be able to accommodate these expenses.

Constant Negativity

In relationships, you should learn to choose your battles. Even if your partner is doing something wrong, it’s not every wrong thing that you comment on, complain about or intend to change. Choose your battles. There are somethings you should just let go off completely or let go off in the mean-time to address later. You have to be wise about it. Negativity is draining and constant complaints are irritating, therefore it is important to learn to encourage, celebrate and appreciate your partner more.

Putting Everything Else First

Everyone likes to feel special and when in a relationship, it should be a priority to make your partner feel special as often and as much as you can. Your partner should always be your first priority. Even if you have to deal with something else before your partner, be courteous and let your partner know either before or after you’ve taken care of whatever it is. Remember, no one likes to feel unimportant, including you.

Forcing Your Partner to Conform To Your Ideals

Remember, your partner is not your doppelganger. As much as you two might have a lot in common, you can’t have everything in common. Therefore, there are certain things you will allow your partner do or believe out of respect for who they are, to make them feel comfortable and to make them feel loved. It might not make you feel comfortable at all, but if it matters to them or they are unable to change it (no matter how hard they have tried), you don’t force them, you learn to accept and accommodate them that way.

Being Unkind

Be kind to your partner in your words, in your thoughts, in your actions and in your deeds. Be kind. Always ask yourself before you do or say something to your partner, ‘Is this kind?’, ‘Can he or she bear this without falling apart?’. Kindness is simply the quality of being friendly, generous and considerate. Remember to be kind.


source: http://www.opinions.ng/hurting-partner-killing-relationship/

cc: lalasticlala mynd44

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Re: 5 Things That Are Hurting Your Partner And Killing Your Relationship. by damilare96(m): 11:47am On Jul 24, 2017
Noted..those are good points

Someone told me before you marry a person, you should first make them use a computer with slow Internet service to see who they really are.
Well I'm ftc..expecting my reward
#reopen-lautech

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Re: 5 Things That Are Hurting Your Partner And Killing Your Relationship. by Leonbonapart(m): 11:47am On Jul 24, 2017
Is that all?
Re: 5 Things That Are Hurting Your Partner And Killing Your Relationship. by vizkiz: 11:47am On Jul 24, 2017
I don't think I can have a relationship with such a person in the first place.

This is why I don't endorse church courtship because you can't notice these traits in your partner until it is too late.

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Re: 5 Things That Are Hurting Your Partner And Killing Your Relationship. by tonbratom(m): 11:48am On Jul 24, 2017
Cool
Re: 5 Things That Are Hurting Your Partner And Killing Your Relationship. by SLYinSKY: 11:48am On Jul 24, 2017
hmmmm
Re: 5 Things That Are Hurting Your Partner And Killing Your Relationship. by Dollipsejay(m): 11:48am On Jul 24, 2017
ok. noted....... next
Re: 5 Things That Are Hurting Your Partner And Killing Your Relationship. by leksmedia: 11:49am On Jul 24, 2017
Cool
Re: 5 Things That Are Hurting Your Partner And Killing Your Relationship. by Candybob(m): 11:49am On Jul 24, 2017
Lying unnecessary lies is the greatest killer of relationships

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Re: 5 Things That Are Hurting Your Partner And Killing Your Relationship. by Rick9(m): 11:49am On Jul 24, 2017
This is not what I need right now. Cos am single and am planning to be richer than Dangote and Otedola combined.

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Re: 5 Things That Are Hurting Your Partner And Killing Your Relationship. by Dottore: 11:50am On Jul 24, 2017
Well said op but I keep wondering why today, there are countless religious and non religious programmes, seminars, workshops, summits, synods, tips and tricks. Social media messages, multimedia viral slides and all what nots with all kinds of captions and themes targeted at strenghtening relationships and marriages yet there's very high worrisome rate of marital and relationship failures.

Our parents never had such rules but they are still very married till tomorrow.
What's really happening

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Re: 5 Things That Are Hurting Your Partner And Killing Your Relationship. by dajan03: 11:53am On Jul 24, 2017
Relationship stinks

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Re: 5 Things That Are Hurting Your Partner And Killing Your Relationship. by Limitless72(m): 11:55am On Jul 24, 2017
Aiit... We don hear
Re: 5 Things That Are Hurting Your Partner And Killing Your Relationship. by Oni83: 12:02pm On Jul 24, 2017
Yeye dey smell
Re: 5 Things That Are Hurting Your Partner And Killing Your Relationship. by Hexzyz(m): 12:02pm On Jul 24, 2017
Really!!!
Do all the rules, someone that is not yours is not yours.
Even if you don marry self, person wen go misbehave go misbehave.

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Re: 5 Things That Are Hurting Your Partner And Killing Your Relationship. by Dat9jakid(m): 12:03pm On Jul 24, 2017
Seriously, I would have really agreed on these your thoughts but most women are more complicated that these things you mentioned might not even be the reason for a failed relationship... undecided

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Re: 5 Things That Are Hurting Your Partner And Killing Your Relationship. by Nobody: 12:05pm On Jul 24, 2017
Everyone is now relationship expert now undecided

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Re: 5 Things That Are Hurting Your Partner And Killing Your Relationship. by MhizzAJ(f): 12:06pm On Jul 24, 2017
Too many talks about relationship

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Re: 5 Things That Are Hurting Your Partner And Killing Your Relationship. by imstrong1: 12:16pm On Jul 24, 2017
Relationship can be a burden atimes

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Re: 5 Things That Are Hurting Your Partner And Killing Your Relationship. by hibee4uall(m): 12:21pm On Jul 24, 2017
PLS CHECK MY SIGNATURE. THANKS FOR DOING SO
Re: 5 Things That Are Hurting Your Partner And Killing Your Relationship. by JARUSHUB: 12:23pm On Jul 24, 2017
for articles like this visit http://www.opinions.ng/

Re: 5 Things That Are Hurting Your Partner And Killing Your Relationship. by Eastatlantaniqqa(m): 12:29pm On Jul 24, 2017
Females hope ur hearing ? Cuz some can be a .........
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Re: 5 Things That Are Hurting Your Partner And Killing Your Relationship. by Ogbaba123: 12:33pm On Jul 24, 2017
Water is wet
Re: 5 Things That Are Hurting Your Partner And Killing Your Relationship. by Jointhemiltons2(m): 12:36pm On Jul 24, 2017
Me dahs in a relationship where my gf is a vigin and dsnt allow me straff and press breast nko. Forcing me to conform to her beliefs. Relationships just tire mi

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Re: 5 Things That Are Hurting Your Partner And Killing Your Relationship. by generaluthman: 12:43pm On Jul 24, 2017
embarassed
Re: 5 Things That Are Hurting Your Partner And Killing Your Relationship. by Truckpusher(m): 1:01pm On Jul 24, 2017
vizkiz:
I don't think I can have a relationship with such a person in the first place.

This is why I don't endorse church courtship because you can't notice these traits in your partner until it is too late.
Exactly and before you know it you're already inside the marriage and divorce is just a stone throw away .

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Re: 5 Things That Are Hurting Your Partner And Killing Your Relationship. by olowobaba10: 1:39pm On Jul 24, 2017
I ALWAYS FIND JUMIA TRAVEL THREADS VAGUE, DRY AND BORING OR IS IT JUST ME ?

Re: 5 Things That Are Hurting Your Partner And Killing Your Relationship. by vizkiz: 2:09pm On Jul 24, 2017
Truckpusher:
Exactly and before you know it you're already inside the marriage and divorce is just a stone throw away .
Reason why I will never get any pastor involved with my relationship until it is time for church wedding.
Re: 5 Things That Are Hurting Your Partner And Killing Your Relationship. by missyadorable(f): 2:26pm On Jul 24, 2017
Number one is OVER FAMILIARITY!
Re: 5 Things That Are Hurting Your Partner And Killing Your Relationship. by Haddasah(f): 3:08pm On Jul 24, 2017
very good point
Re: 5 Things That Are Hurting Your Partner And Killing Your Relationship. by Lyssa(f): 3:56pm On Jul 24, 2017
Who has time to read all these?
Re: 5 Things That Are Hurting Your Partner And Killing Your Relationship. by HARYORBAMZ(m): 3:59pm On Jul 24, 2017
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JARUSHUB:
Relationships aren’t supposed to be selfish, while considering yourself it is important and only fair that you take a step back and also consider your partner – consider how you might be hurting your partner and things you might be doing to turn your partner off. Jumia Travel shares 5 things you do that hurt your partner and kill your relationship in the process.

[b]Living Outside What the Two of You Can Afford


It is important to live within what the two of you can afford. Once you’ve decided to be in a relationship with someone, you have to learn to respect what the person is earning per time and adjust your expenses to align with it. Avoid belittling and insulting your partner for the inability to meet your expenses, rather learn to love and appreciate while adjusting your expenses to align, or work hard, alongside your partner, to increase earnings to be able to accommodate these expenses.

Constant Negativity

In relationships, you should learn to choose your battles. Even if your partner is doing something wrong, it’s not every wrong thing that you comment on, complain about or intend to change. Choose your battles. There are somethings you should just let go off completely or let go off in the mean-time to address later. You have to be wise about it. Negativity is draining and constant complaints are irritating, therefore it is important to learn to encourage, celebrate and appreciate your partner more.

Putting Everything Else First

Everyone likes to feel special and when in a relationship, it should be a priority to make your partner feel special as often and as much as you can. Your partner should always be your first priority. Even if you have to deal with something else before your partner, be courteous and let your partner know either before or after you’ve taken care of whatever it is. Remember, no one likes to feel unimportant, including you.

Forcing Your Partner to Conform To Your Ideals

Remember, your partner is not your doppelganger. As much as you two might have a lot in common, you can’t have everything in common. Therefore, there are certain things you will allow your partner do or believe out of respect for who they are, to make them feel comfortable and to make them feel loved. It might not make you feel comfortable at all, but if it matters to them or they are unable to change it (no matter how hard they have tried), you don’t force them, you learn to accept and accommodate them that way.

Being Unkind

Be kind to your partner in your words, in your thoughts, in your actions and in your deeds. Be kind. Always ask yourself before you do or say something to your partner, ‘Is this kind?’, ‘Can he or she bear this without falling apart?’. Kindness is simply the quality of being friendly, generous and considerate. Remember to be kind.


source: http://www.opinions.ng/hurting-partner-killing-relationship/

cc: lalasticlala mynd44
Nice one

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