furiban:




As far as I am concerned the ship has sailed, my question is what is wrong with our girls once they come abroad they think they can do and undo, yes if the man treated you unfirly that will be understandable but when you are greedy and within six months of coming abroad you want the guy to use all his savings to buy car for you, buy this buy that, put you to school even if he has to take loan, I cannot say all but just let GO be the judge, I don't know but I still thank God because He is the one that saved me from this girl, I hoepto remarry soon anyway, cheers!

candylips:

@topic

i weak for you o but i like how you handled the situation

skfa1:

I guess weap right?

debest1:

sad story, wat can i say, what brought the 2 of u together in the 1st place? was it love? or the need for companionship during winter in UK? cos it sounds like someone didnt do his homework very well

tpia.:

na today?

sandas:

the problem with nigerian men in abraod is that they think girls in nigeria are beter than the ones in abroad but that is a very big mistake.how can u talk to girl as a man that stays in abroad and she will not agree to marry or date u, all in the name that she want to come to abroad or answer that her husband stays abroad most of this girl dont even love the guys but they see coming to abroad as an opptunity to step up.some are even more rotten than nigerian girl in abroad  and too demading, if any man wants to marry a girl in  nigeria, i will advice she bears 2 children or 1 child in nigeria then bring her over to abroad then at least u will know your effort for flying her over is not in vain.men does not have to go to nigeria to marry ,there are decents girls in abroad also, she even understand the situation in abroad more than girls in nigeria that abroad is bed of roses.

Thank you my dear sister, you are talking absolute truth.  You see those abroad who goes home to find a wife are those who wants to marry virgins. But, these days who is looking for virgins and submissive wives if not controlling men who still thinks girls back home are innocent virgins whose eyes are not open, only to discover the opposite.  Look, it doesn't matter from where you bring them to UK, America, France, Germany or Spain, they will definitely OPEN EYES and develop just like you did, like it or not. No one would say they hadn't developed since they came to the WEST, swear?? Therefore, the home wife you brought over will surely open eyes and develop and knowing Nigerian men, that will hurt!!! For those in the UK, I give them 2 weeks of arriving here and watch British tv/Satellite broadcasting, read the Newspapers and magazine at least, their eyes go bigin open. Then, when she touch the church/workplace and make friends - forget about it.  And then, when she hit schools, college and University don't even bother.

In fact, my advise is, before they leap off to Africa to bring these innocent looking virgins over please, re-watch Eddie Murphy's 'Coming to America'. Perhaps, you might learn a thing or two from that. Eddie Murphy set off to Africa to find a suitable, well behaved and submissive wife only to discover that his God given wife is actually next door, right there in America and not in Africa. This is a big lesson for every Black man considering marriage back home to learn. The women you're all looking for are right under your noses here in the West - no need going home, you hear pleeeeeaaaaase!  Sandas is really saying the truth - the girls here understands the situation here than those back home who thinks abroad is a bed of roses and you and I knows, it is not. 

This experience happened to my own cousin twice. He lives in New York and has now gone through 2 marriages  (in the past 7 years) to home wives. You see, men can't cope with loneliness!!!  He was lucky the first wife left him with 1 child after 3 years of marriage. Not long he remarried, very expensive wedding yet, she left him for a White man after only 2 years and without a child.  Now, he'd sworn never to marry again and play the field because of what girls are doing. It seems this is now, the trend/culture in black communities in the West and even back home, too bad really, too bad!!

furiban:

Yes I have moved on and I'm dating someone here.

furiban:

Thanks to you all, but guess no one in right frame of mind goes into marriage with intention of failure,       , these things do happen and you never know whom, when or where,        , it is pretty easy to point accusing fingers,      fair enough    but then again divorce is almost, always messy               regardless your situation always seek a legal advice and leave nothing to chance        there is a lot of misguided people (both male and female) out there         but a lifetime mistake like this takes a toll      though things have pretty much returned to normal for me         I wonder what will become of the other party          just out of sheer sympathy anyway        wish everyone the very best

Stop making ridiculous statements for common sense' sake! You're saying that picking a stranger for a wife is the same as courting and eventually getting married? Nonsense!

I wonder why you found someone close to your ass this time. Thought you were nonchalant about who and where. The other party will be just as fine. She's probably worried about your sanity too