Today I really want to write on a very sensitive issue as regards the emotional torture many ladies go through in the hands of guys who use recession or lack of funds as an excuse for not wanting to take the bold step.

Do you know that most times when a guy of marriageable age says "i'm not ready" what he is actually saying is that he is not financially buoyant at the moment to have a grand wedding ceremony and not that he is not ready for marriage proper.
It is quite amazing that many ladies of marriageable ages find it so convenient to be used as unmarried wives by guys in the name of lack of financial readiness and the lady will even support the guy's stands yet he is always ready to do what a husband does to a wife on the lady and she will gladly play along hoping that when the guy is finally ready, he will marry her.

Most ladies tend to realize too late how foolish they have been because in many cases, the guy in question usually dumps them for another lady when "he is finally ready" after doing them in a reckless manner...

So what exactly can be done to remedy the situation expecially during this very difficult times of economy turbulence?

Yes there are some people who have the money to organize very lavish wedding ceremony and this piece is not for those set of people but it is for the majority of ladies out there who dream of a very flamboyant wedding and all the razzmatazz that comes with it yet have a guy who can't afford such flamboyant wedding at the moment.

I can't seem to understand the rationale behind the flambouyant wedding ceremony culture of Nigerians and despite the economy situatiob,many ladies still make it a do or die affair when it comes to having a grand wedding even when citizens of countries with good economy only go for a low key wedding but what many Nigerian ladies should knoew is that most expensive weddings you see in Nigeria are sponsored

Nevertheless it is the dream of most ladies to have a grand wedding and every man owes his woman one but who says you can't have a grand wedding when the funds are available?, must you wait until you have big money for a grand wedding before getting married?, does it not make sense to find a way around an expensive wedding for the time being and settle for a low key one rather than continue to allow a man use you in the name of courtship or lack of readiness?

My point is this; Most guys don't ever think about marriage as long as they are enjoying the benefits of a married man so If you have a man who claims to love and desire you and you also desire him please stop wasting time and stop getting used and do the needful as long as both of you are bringing something to the table and he has a decent apartment of his own.

1.Do a decent introduction
2 Let him pay a decent bride price on you.
3.Go to the registry.
4.Settle down as a couple and start a life together.
5.Build your life and save up for a grand wedding.

You may say I'm blabbing but the truth is that i have heard of many guys who dumped ladies that have waited so long for them and i have also heard of ladies who left a man they desire and who also desires them because there is a guy somewhere who seem to be ready for a grand wedding ceremony. Be with a man you truly desire and who also wants you and understand that true wealth is progressive and not sudden and it is better to have a low key wedding for the time being than allowing one guy to use you as an unmarried wife and probably dump you for another lady whenever he is ready to have a grand wedding ceremony.

I hope this makes sense.

laveda you never sleep?

In a way you made sense today.


Sometimes, the fault is usually from the woman, they wanna do things above their level, they want theirs to be like that of the others forgetting their financial status hence going to lend and do all of that.

If your man has a good house and a source of steady income, there's actually no need setting your eyes on that "high key" wedding, afterall its just a one day thing..

But then, this shouldn't make them rush into marriage if the man says he isn't ready.

Toks2008:
laveda you never sleep?

Lol about to.

Laveda:
In a way you made sense today.


Sometimes, the fault is usually from the woman, they wanna do things above their level, they want theirs to be like that of the others forgetting their financial status hence going to lend and do all of that.

If your man has a good house and a source of steady income, there's actually no need setting your eyes on that "high key" wedding, afterall its just a one day thing..

But then, this shouldn't make them rush into marriage if the man says he isn't ready.

lol! that phrase made sense today got me cracked up..the truth is that I always make sense but it all depends on how you interprete my threads.

Nevertheless as long as the lack of readiness is not hinged on lack of funds no wahala.

Btw you look sweet in that dp.

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Toks2008:


lol! that phrase made sense today got me cracked up..the truth is that I always make sense but it all depends on how you interprete my threads.

Nevertheless as long as the lack of readiness is not hinged on lack of funds no wahala.

Btw you look sweet in that dp.

Lol not all the time.

I'll tell her, good night.

Laveda:


Lol about to.

I had a siesta so I am so awake.

Odaro

Just go to court, pay 40k and you're married. Simple!

ItsQuinn:
Just go to court, pay 40k and you're married. Simple!

Not that simple dude..you need to pay her bride price too to be qualified as truly married according to culture and tradition of the land

Toks2008:


Not that simple dude..you need to pay her bride price too to be qualified as fully married according to culture and tradition of the land

dude? Don't piss me off .....now I get it

ItsQuinn:
dude? Don't piss me off .....now I get it

Wettin dey worry you? Berrer calm down cos today na sunday.

Toks2008:


Wettin dey worry you? Berrer calm down cos today na sunday.

you called me a dude

ItsQuinn:
you called me a dude

Abi nah damsel you be?

Your user ID is not gender specific tho.

Toks2008:


Abi nah damsel you be?

Your user ID is not gender specific tho.

okay my apologies, now you know I'm a female

Ok,noted.

Bro toks what about how to fast-track my fυcking escapades during recession?

ILoveToFuCcK:
Bro toks what about how to fast-track my fυcking escapades during recession?

See user name...God have mercy .

ItsQuinn:
okay my apologies, now you know I'm a female

Not sure yet o.

Toks2008:


Not sure yet o.

but please don't call me dude next time okay, thanks

OK edud

ItsQuinn:
but please don't call me dude next time okay, thanks

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Lalasticlala I believe this is good enough for a wider view.

U're on point bruh!

True

Lol...So true

Ok

so True

Lolz

If you ain't cool with lowkey wedding.....just carry your wahala and go

Op, you are right on point... That's exactly my plans.