This may not be the best time for me to write on
this because of
misinterpretations, but I can no longer resist the
push.
"Husband Scarcity" has become one of the
challenges faced by many young girls today. If
you go to prayer houses, majority of the
intentions are prayer for a life partner. And this
calls for concern.
Casting our minds back to the time of our
mothers and grandmothers, was there really
much of a "Husband Scarcity" problem? Or,
maybe there
were more men than women then, or there was
an adequate
corresponding numbers of both genders. I don't
think so. Maybe
then, the women had values and were prepared
to build a home and not pack into a built home.
Then, once a young man comes of age and can,
at least, feed himself and his wife, he goes out in
search of a wife and the woman really
appreciates him and helps him to build a future.
What am I really trying to say? We created what
we now see
as "Husband Scarcity" for ourselves. Today, the
reverse is the case.
Ask an average girl to define her dream husband;
you get things like "he has to be tall, handsome,
fair, rich, own a house at least,
and be presentable" and then she adds "God
fearing" in order not to sound so worldly. Then,
check the number of girls around you and the
number of men that meet that standard, and you
will see the problem.
You hear girls say, "I cannot suffer in my father's
house
and then go and start suffering with a man."
What a wonderful
dream! What if from the beginning, you have
everything you want and there is no suffering,
and later in the marriage, the table turns around,
then comes suffering? Will you run away? No one
prays for
suffering, but it is good to start small and end
big, than start big
and end small.
The problem is that the description majority of
girls give of their ideal man is virtually the same.
When 50 girls want the
same kind of man and the man that fits what
they want is just one man, and the man can only
pick one. Then, what becomes of 49 others?
They simply start lamenting of "Husband
Scarcity".
Another irony of our time is that it is hard, due to
the face of our economy, to find a man who is
of marriage age who possesses all those things
these ladies want, legally (except those involved
in Internet fraud); even the number of those in
Internet fraud is not enough to match all those
searching for already made husbands. If you look
around,
majority of the ladies of substance, of good
value and virtue, who are ready to build a home
with a man who has prospects, are married and
not complaining of husband scarcity.
The easiest way to find a husband now, is to
change your view of who a husband is.
A husband is that man God made and then saw
that it may be hard
for him to really actualize his purpose for making
him, without a help mate and then made the
woman and gave to him, and he felt complete
and fulfilled.
MARRIAGE IS NOT A POVERTY ALLEVIATION
PROGRAM. It is a mission of building the family
of God here on earth. For those who see
marriage as a way out of poverty, it is a way into
bondage. Women are HOME BUILDERS, not
HOME WARMERS... DON'T CONFUSE A MAN'S
PATH WITH HIS DESTINY.
Where he is today, may only be a route to where
God has destined
him to be tomorrow. Another truth is that YOU
MAY BE THE ONLY FAST MEANS TO THAT HIS
DESTINATION.
Join in alleviating "husband scarcity". PICK UP
THE RIGHT VALUES. I am not saying
that you should pick anyone that comes your
way and talks of
marriage; not all men are husband materials.
What I am saying is that you should stop setting
your standard on material acquisitions or
physical appearances. Look beyond the physical.
WHAT MAKES A MAN WHO HE IS, IS NOT WHAT
HE OWNS OR HOW HE LOOKS, IT
IS WHAT HE IS MADE UP OF. And that which he
is made of is, most times, not seen with the
physical eyes, only its effects can be seen.
Marriage is a permanent thing. Whatever is seen
is temporal and
that which is not seen is permanent.
Let us all help in making the society a much
better place.

culled from Facebook.

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Truth but let the feminists catch you.

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op, u made some point especially pertaining to std set by girls, another one is that naturally, d female population re higher than the male, and the little male population are also threatened by war(they die most in war, either as an army or rebel fighter) ,crime (cultism, armed robbery, drug etc).
Meanwhile if I try to think rationally, it seems nature prefers polygamy to monogamy which we practice @ d South due to our religion(christianity),civilization & economy, unlike in the Moslem North, u rarely see a single lady above 25.
Bc yrs back when our grandfathers practised polygamy, u hardly see a young widow that is single, not to talk of young maidens.
The painful truth is that many ladies will not get married not that they are not beautiful or well behaved but bc of civilization n other factors I hv mentioned above .

zeribe4real:
op, u made some point especially pertaining to std set by girls, another one is that naturally, d female population re higher than the male, and the little male population are also threatened by war(they die most in war, either as an army or rebel fighter) ,crime (cultism, armed robbery, drug etc).
Meanwhile if I try to think rationally, it seems nature prefers polygamy to monogamy which we practice @ d South due to our religion(christianity),civilization & economy, unlike in the Moslem North, u rarely see a single lady above 25.
Bc yrs back when our grandfathers practised polygamy, u hardly see a young widow that is single, not to talk of young maidens.
The painful truth is that many ladies will not get married not that they are not beautiful or well behaved but bc of civilization n other factors I hv mentioned above .

Very good points here - I wish the target audience will read and more importantly LISTEN

[quote author=zeribe4real post=49840223]op, u made some point especially pertaining to std set by girls, another one is that naturally, d female population re higher than the male, and the little male population are also threatened by war(they die most in war, either as an army or rebel fighter) ,crime (cultism, armed robbery, drug etc).
Meanwhile if I try to think rationally, it seems nature prefers polygamy to monogamy which we practice @ d South due to our religion(christianity),civilization & economy, unlike in the Moslem North, u rarely see a single lady above 25.
Bc yrs back when our grandfathers practised polygamy, u hardly see a young widow that is single, not to talk of young maidens.
The painful truth is that many ladies will not get married not that they are not beautiful or well behaved but bc of civilization n other factors I hv mentioned above .[