| Re: When Being Loving Becomes Inevitable by GROOOVE(m): 5:00pm On Oct 14, 2016 |
The most difficult time to be in a relationship as a guy is in your early twenties. The period when you are stuck in a limbo, trying to figure out yourself and who you want to be. At this age, you find it a herculean task asking money from your parents, considering your dad will always remind you of how he was self sufficient at your age. So you are always left with "Nkechiyere" anyone that comes from them willingly. To compound your "woes". You have a girlfriend whom you love so muchh, you are 24 and she is 23. And guys being wired to want to take control, you are frustrated at your inability to take care of her like you want to. I mean where is the money?? You are still jobless, still hustling, still finding your feet. Still putting hands intomany things hoping oluwa smiles on you. All of a sudden, she starts acting out and showing attitude. You call, and she takes forever to pick or return your calls. When she finally does pick, the call is like an interview session with those annoying and frustrating one word replies. Yes, no, fine, okay, nothing. Then finally she ends the call with a flimsy excuse like " wait let me close the fridge", i will call you back. And the call never comes back. Then one day she calls you and askes you "where is this relationship heading to?. You dont even know where your own life is heading to, not to talk of a relationship. Then she drops the bombshell. Tells you that she met a guy who wants to marry her. And how age isnt on her side, and you are almost compelled to scream "But you are just 23". Can't you wait 3 more years let me make it. You just hold yourself and play the good guy You ask her if she loves him, she dodges the question and replies you with " He treats me well". Well since she wasn't informing you to take permission, she was simply telling you. You have to be the cool guy and wish her well. One week later, she gives you the traditional wedding card. And then you do the math yourself. She was talking to the guy a long time before now. Then you realise that for every "K" you got on WhatsApp, the guy was getting a long epistle. You have been played. Worse is you cant even blame her, you are just a prospect who no one knows what will become of your life in 4years time. Would you have made it or not? She has gone for the real deal, someone who has already made it. In footballing terms, you are a "Anthony Martial" ( prospect) while the guy is a Messi ( has made it already). I mean you were sending her cards of N200, and the guy was telling her to manage 10k for the weekend. No comparison there. And then you go through that silent heartbreak guys go through, the ones they don't talk about. And unceremoniously you get inducted into the special hall of fame where members are young guys whose childhood loves and friends or girlfriends they thought they would end up with left them to marry someone else. Your heart is broken into smithereens. In this hall of fame, you are all victims. Victims of not having found your path in your early twenties. At the wedding, no sight is more heartbreaking than seeing "the love of your life" say "I do" to this guy she just met 6 months ago. To make matters worse, you get an alert from Diamond bank telling you how N13 have been deducted for bank charges. You are mad. Your N4000, is down to N3987 rendering that N1k useless, you can only withdraw N3k now. And that's your home and abroad. Can life be more unfair at this moment? To make matters worse, she tells you that she wants you to be the god-father to her first son. You are livid, the plan you both made was to be the father, god wasn't there. Why are you involving god now. god-father huh  .. is that a sort of compensation package? You chin it up, suck it, move on and double your hustle. 6 years later. You are 30 now. Congratulations, you finally made it. You are as rich as you hoped you will become. You are one of the happening guys in town. You go to a wedding. With your friends, 7 Likes 5 Shares |
| Re: When Being Loving Becomes Inevitable by GROOOVE(m): 5:02pm On Oct 14, 2016 |
To be continued |
| Re: When Being Loving Becomes Inevitable by sacora(f): 5:09pm On Oct 14, 2016 |
OBTSubtle:
 No be that much film wey her papa Na pastor and the guy na bad boy and the girl make the boy repent??
Chai.. My ex make me watch that film.. E dy annoy am anytime I see am.. I wan break the laptop when I watch the film... Conji dy catch me.. I dy pretend to like the film.. a walk to remember 1 Like |
| Re: When Being Loving Becomes Inevitable by Nobody: 5:09pm On Oct 14, 2016 |
NotNairalandi:
one good advantage of this recession and Buhari's regime for guys is that it is very easy and simple to woo a girl now..no more stress unlike those days wey money full everywhere for country....ladies in the house una understand wetin i mean naa  Loool |
| Re: When Being Loving Becomes Inevitable by firstking01(m): 5:09pm On Oct 14, 2016 |
Richiebill:
Yeah! Little wonder people say Nigerians don't just spend time to read for too long online. And that's cos most of us africans don't know how to captivates the audience mind with their writings |
| Re: When Being Loving Becomes Inevitable by sisisioge: 5:10pm On Oct 14, 2016 |
GROOOVE:
The most difficult time to be in a relationship as a guy is in your early twenties.
The period when you are stuck in a limbo, trying to figure out yourself and who you want to be.
At this age, you find it a herculean task asking money from your parents, considering your dad will always remind you of how he was self sufficient at your age.
So you are always left with "Nkechiyere" anyone that comes from them willingly.
To compound your "woes". You have a girlfriend whom you love so muchh, you are 24 and she is 23.
And guys being wired to want to take control, you are frustrated at your inability to take care of her like you want to.
I mean where is the money??
You are still jobless, still hustling, still finding your feet.
Still putting hands intomany things hoping oluwa smiles on you.
All of a sudden, she starts acting out and showing attitude.
You call, and she takes forever to pick or return your calls.
When she finally does pick, the call is like an interview session with those annoying and frustrating one word replies.
Yes, no, fine, okay, nothing.
Then finally she ends the call with a flimsy excuse like " wait let me close the fridge", i will call you back. And the call never comes back.
Then one day she calls you and askes you "where is this relationship heading to?.
You dont even know where your own life is heading to, not to talk of a relationship.
Then she drops the bombshell. Tells you that she met a guy who wants to marry her.
And how age isnt on her side, and you are almost compelled to scream "But you are just 23". Can't you wait 3 more years let me make it.
You just hold yourself and play the good guy
You ask her if she loves him, she dodges the question and replies you with " He treats me well".
Well since she wasn't informing you to take permission, she was simply telling you.
You have to be the cool guy and wish her well.
One week later, she gives you the traditional wedding card. And then you do the math yourself.
She was talking to the guy a long time before now.
Then you realise that for every "K" you got on WhatsApp, the guy was getting a long epistle.
You have been played.
Worse is you cant even blame her, you are just a prospect who no one knows what will become of your life in 4years time.
Would you have made it or not?
She has gone for the real deal, someone who has already made it.
In footballing terms, you are a "Anthony Martial" ( prospect) while the guy is a Messi ( has made it already).
I mean you were sending her cards of N200, and the guy was telling her to manage 10k for the weekend.
No comparison there.
And then you go through that silent heartbreak guys go through, the ones they don't talk about.
And unceremoniously you get inducted into the special hall of fame where members are young guys whose childhood loves and friends or girlfriends they thought they would end up with left them to marry someone else.
Your heart is broken into smithereens.
In this hall of fame, you are all victims. Victims of not having found your path in your early twenties.
At the wedding, no sight is more heartbreaking than seeing "the love of your life" say "I do" to this guy she just met 6 months ago.
To make matters worse, you get an alert from Diamond bank telling you how N13 have been deducted for bank charges. You are mad.
Your N4000, is down to N3987 rendering that N1k useless, you can only withdraw N3k now.
And that's your home and abroad.
Can life be more unfair at this moment?
To make matters worse, she tells you that she wants you to be the god-father to her first son.
You are livid, the plan you both made was to be the father, god wasn't there. Why are you involving god now.
god-father huh.. is that a sort of compensation package?
You chin it up, suck it, move on and double your hustle.
6 years later. You are 30 now. Congratulations, you finally made it. You are as rich as you hoped you will become.
You are one of the happening guys in town.
You go to a wedding. With your friends, Groovy! You got it nailed! Pls keep it coming...let it all out buddy. There...you are getting there  |
| Re: When Being Loving Becomes Inevitable by Nobody: 5:14pm On Oct 14, 2016 |
GROOOVE:
The most difficult time to be in a relationship as a guy is in your early twenties.
The period when you are stuck in a limbo, trying to figure out yourself and who you want to be.
At this age, you find it a herculean task asking money from your parents, considering your dad will always remind you of how he was self sufficient at your age.
So you are always left with "Nkechiyere" anyone that comes from them willingly.
To compound your "woes". You have a girlfriend whom you love so muchh, you are 24 and she is 23.
And guys being wired to want to take control, you are frustrated at your inability to take care of her like you want to.
I mean where is the money??
You are still jobless, still hustling, still finding your feet.
Still putting hands intomany things hoping oluwa smiles on you.
All of a sudden, she starts acting out and showing attitude.
You call, and she takes forever to pick or return your calls.
When she finally does pick, the call is like an interview session with those annoying and frustrating one word replies.
Yes, no, fine, okay, nothing.
Then finally she ends the call with a flimsy excuse like " wait let me close the fridge", i will call you back. And the call never comes back.
Then one day she calls you and askes you "where is this relationship heading to?.
You dont even know where your own life is heading to, not to talk of a relationship.
Then she drops the bombshell. Tells you that she met a guy who wants to marry her.
And how age isnt on her side, and you are almost compelled to scream "But you are just 23". Can't you wait 3 more years let me make it.
You just hold yourself and play the good guy
You ask her if she loves him, she dodges the question and replies you with " He treats me well".
Well since she wasn't informing you to take permission, she was simply telling you.
You have to be the cool guy and wish her well.
One week later, she gives you the traditional wedding card. And then you do the math yourself.
She was talking to the guy a long time before now.
Then you realise that for every "K" you got on WhatsApp, the guy was getting a long epistle.
You have been played.
Worse is you cant even blame her, you are just a prospect who no one knows what will become of your life in 4years time.
Would you have made it or not?
She has gone for the real deal, someone who has already made it.
In footballing terms, you are a "Anthony Martial" ( prospect) while the guy is a Messi ( has made it already).
I mean you were sending her cards of N200, and the guy was telling her to manage 10k for the weekend.
No comparison there.
And then you go through that silent heartbreak guys go through, the ones they don't talk about.
And unceremoniously you get inducted into the special hall of fame where members are young guys whose childhood loves and friends or girlfriends they thought they would end up with left them to marry someone else.
Your heart is broken into smithereens.
In this hall of fame, you are all victims. Victims of not having found your path in your early twenties.
At the wedding, no sight is more heartbreaking than seeing "the love of your life" say "I do" to this guy she just met 6 months ago.
To make matters worse, you get an alert from Diamond bank telling you how N13 have been deducted for bank charges. You are mad.
Your N4000, is down to N3987 rendering that N1k useless, you can only withdraw N3k now.
And that's your home and abroad.
Can life be more unfair at this moment?
To make matters worse, she tells you that she wants you to be the god-father to her first son.
You are livid, the plan you both made was to be the father, god wasn't there. Why are you involving god now.
god-father huh.. is that a sort of compensation package?
You chin it up, suck it, move on and double your hustle.
6 years later. You are 30 now. Congratulations, you finally made it. You are as rich as you hoped you will become.
You are one of the happening guys in town.
You go to a wedding. With your friends, Touché! |
| Re: When Being Loving Becomes Inevitable by Paddy247: 5:24pm On Oct 14, 2016 |
OBTSubtle:
No be that much film wey her papa Na pastor and the guy na bad boy and the girl make the boy repent??
Chai.. My ex make me watch that film.. E dy annoy am anytime I see am.. I wan break the laptop when I watch the film... Conji dy catch me.. I dy pretend to like the film.. A WALK TO REMEMBER.... Seen dt movie too. 1 Like |
| Re: When Being Loving Becomes Inevitable by queenDD(f): 5:25pm On Oct 14, 2016 |
GROOOVE:
The most difficult time to be in a relationship as a guy is in your early twenties.
The period when you are stuck in a limbo, trying to figure out yourself and who you want to be.
At this age, you find it a herculean task asking money from your parents, considering your dad will always remind you of how he was self sufficient at your age.
So you are always left with "Nkechiyere" anyone that comes from them willingly.
To compound your "woes". You have a girlfriend whom you love so muchh, you are 24 and she is 23.
And guys being wired to want to take control, you are frustrated at your inability to take care of her like you want to.
I mean where is the money??
You are still jobless, still hustling, still finding your feet.
Still putting hands intomany things hoping oluwa smiles on you.
All of a sudden, she starts acting out and showing attitude.
You call, and she takes forever to pick or return your calls.
When she finally does pick, the call is like an interview session with those annoying and frustrating one word replies.
Yes, no, fine, okay, nothing.
Then finally she ends the call with a flimsy excuse like " wait let me close the fridge", i will call you back. And the call never comes back.
Then one day she calls you and askes you "where is this relationship heading to?.
You dont even know where your own life is heading to, not to talk of a relationship.
Then she drops the bombshell. Tells you that she met a guy who wants to marry her.
And how age isnt on her side, and you are almost compelled to scream "But you are just 23". Can't you wait 3 more years let me make it.
You just hold yourself and play the good guy
You ask her if she loves him, she dodges the question and replies you with " He treats me well".
Well since she wasn't informing you to take permission, she was simply telling you.
You have to be the cool guy and wish her well.
One week later, she gives you the traditional wedding card. And then you do the math yourself.
She was talking to the guy a long time before now.
Then you realise that for every "K" you got on WhatsApp, the guy was getting a long epistle.
You have been played.
Worse is you cant even blame her, you are just a prospect who no one knows what will become of your life in 4years time.
Would you have made it or not?
She has gone for the real deal, someone who has already made it.
In footballing terms, you are a "Anthony Martial" ( prospect) while the guy is a Messi ( has made it already).
I mean you were sending her cards of N200, and the guy was telling her to manage 10k for the weekend.
No comparison there.
And then you go through that silent heartbreak guys go through, the ones they don't talk about.
And unceremoniously you get inducted into the special hall of fame where members are young guys whose childhood loves and friends or girlfriends they thought they would end up with left them to marry someone else.
Your heart is broken into smithereens.
In this hall of fame, you are all victims. Victims of not having found your path in your early twenties.
At the wedding, no sight is more heartbreaking than seeing "the love of your life" say "I do" to this guy she just met 6 months ago.
To make matters worse, you get an alert from Diamond bank telling you how N13 have been deducted for bank charges. You are mad.
Your N4000, is down to N3987 rendering that N1k useless, you can only withdraw N3k now.
And that's your home and abroad.
Can life be more unfair at this moment?
To make matters worse, she tells you that she wants you to be the god-father to her first son.
You are livid, the plan you both made was to be the father, god wasn't there. Why are you involving god now.
god-father huh.. is that a sort of compensation package?
You chin it up, suck it, move on and double your hustle.
6 years later. You are 30 now. Congratulations, you finally made it. You are as rich as you hoped you will become.
You are one of the happening guys in town.
You go to a wedding. With your friends, Nothing but the truth! |
| Re: When Being Loving Becomes Inevitable by Kangol99(m): 5:31pm On Oct 14, 2016 |
K |
| Re: When Being Loving Becomes Inevitable by makabulchi(m): 5:44pm On Oct 14, 2016 |
I swear I no understand 1 tin op talk |
| Re: When Being Loving Becomes Inevitable by bamisepeters(m): 5:45pm On Oct 14, 2016 |
Richiebill:
Yeah! Little wonder people say Nigerians don't just spend time to read for too long online. |
| Re: When Being Loving Becomes Inevitable by agrovick(m): 5:51pm On Oct 14, 2016 |
An emotion capable of turning an individual into a wreck... Let me moonwalk out of the thread |
| Re: When Being Loving Becomes Inevitable by Laveda(f): 5:52pm On Oct 14, 2016 |
GROOOVE:
The most difficult time to be in a relationship as a guy is in your early twenties.
The period when you are stuck in a limbo, trying to figure out yourself and who you want to be.
At this age, you find it a herculean task asking money from your parents, considering your dad will always remind you of how he was self sufficient at your age.
So you are always left with "Nkechiyere" anyone that comes from them willingly.
To compound your "woes". You have a girlfriend whom you love so muchh, you are 24 and she is 23.
And guys being wired to want to take control, you are frustrated at your inability to take care of her like you want to.
I mean where is the money??
You are still jobless, still hustling, still finding your feet.
Still putting hands intomany things hoping oluwa smiles on you.
All of a sudden, she starts acting out and showing attitude.
You call, and she takes forever to pick or return your calls.
When she finally does pick, the call is like an interview session with those annoying and frustrating one word replies.
Yes, no, fine, okay, nothing.
Then finally she ends the call with a flimsy excuse like " wait let me close the fridge", i will call you back. And the call never comes back.
Then one day she calls you and askes you "where is this relationship heading to?.
You dont even know where your own life is heading to, not to talk of a relationship.
Then she drops the bombshell. Tells you that she met a guy who wants to marry her.
And how age isnt on her side, and you are almost compelled to scream "But you are just 23". Can't you wait 3 more years let me make it.
You just hold yourself and play the good guy
You ask her if she loves him, she dodges the question and replies you with " He treats me well".
Well since she wasn't informing you to take permission, she was simply telling you.
You have to be the cool guy and wish her well.
One week later, she gives you the traditional wedding card. And then you do the math yourself.
She was talking to the guy a long time before now.
Then you realise that for every "K" you got on WhatsApp, the guy was getting a long epistle.
You have been played.
Worse is you cant even blame her, you are just a prospect who no one knows what will become of your life in 4years time.
Would you have made it or not?
She has gone for the real deal, someone who has already made it.
In footballing terms, you are a "Anthony Martial" ( prospect) while the guy is a Messi ( has made it already).
I mean you were sending her cards of N200, and the guy was telling her to manage 10k for the weekend.
No comparison there.
And then you go through that silent heartbreak guys go through, the ones they don't talk about.
And unceremoniously you get inducted into the special hall of fame where members are young guys whose childhood loves and friends or girlfriends they thought they would end up with left them to marry someone else.
Your heart is broken into smithereens.
In this hall of fame, you are all victims. Victims of not having found your path in your early twenties.
At the wedding, no sight is more heartbreaking than seeing "the love of your life" say "I do" to this guy she just met 6 months ago.
To make matters worse, you get an alert from Diamond bank telling you how N13 have been deducted for bank charges. You are mad.
Your N4000, is down to N3987 rendering that N1k useless, you can only withdraw N3k now.
And that's your home and abroad.
Can life be more unfair at this moment?
To make matters worse, she tells you that she wants you to be the god-father to her first son.
You are livid, the plan you both made was to be the father, god wasn't there. Why are you involving god now.
god-father huh.. is that a sort of compensation package?
You chin it up, suck it, move on and double your hustle.
6 years later. You are 30 now. Congratulations, you finally made it. You are as rich as you hoped you will become.
You are one of the happening guys in town.
You go to a wedding. With your friends, Just the truth... Nice.. |
| Re: When Being Loving Becomes Inevitable by weedfada(m): 5:58pm On Oct 14, 2016 |
OBTSubtle:
No be that much film wey her papa Na pastor and the guy na bad boy and the girl make the boy repent??
Chai.. My ex make me watch that film.. E dy annoy am anytime I see am.. I wan break the laptop when I watch the film... Conji dy catch me.. I dy pretend to like the film.. Hahaha... That movie "a walk to remember", too emotional abeg. |
| Re: When Being Loving Becomes Inevitable by bamisepeters(m): 6:00pm On Oct 14, 2016 |
Like some said, it is for mature minds... I only concentrate on comments that point out any errors in whatever i write because they make me improve. I am proud i write whatever i post and not copy and i am proud when what i write make frontpage on Nigeria biggest forum... Too long isn't an excuse because many of my keen readers home and abroad loves it that way, just pick the point and let us all move on. Thank you Mr seun, lalasticlala and all... God bless nairaland and God bless Nigeria. |
| Re: When Being Loving Becomes Inevitable by Nobody: 6:02pm On Oct 14, 2016 |
weedfada:
Hahaha... That movie "a walk to remember", too emotional abeg. I hate am |
| Re: When Being Loving Becomes Inevitable by Edetson(m): 6:04pm On Oct 14, 2016 |
Hi everyone,
Being loving becomes inevitable when it is mutual, trustworthy and understanding driven. Most relationships never get to the fullest of joy and fulfilment because of this quick result syndrome. If people get committed to the relationship they profess to have, the world will be a better place... 1 Like |
| Re: When Being Loving Becomes Inevitable by Dabsey: 6:05pm On Oct 14, 2016 |
Sweet, or chewing gum Sir krissconnect:
Matured minds only...
I have this #10 note in my wallet since last month. Please,aside sachet water which might sky rocket to #20 soon, what else can I buy with this useless money in Nigeria? |
| Re: When Being Loving Becomes Inevitable by daveP(m): 6:18pm On Oct 14, 2016 |
Laveda:
Just the truth... Nice.. At the earlier part thru middle, he was describing me |
| Re: When Being Loving Becomes Inevitable by iLifeplus: 6:25pm On Oct 14, 2016 |
Bro you got me lol with this. In MI voice, ''Too badt'' GROOOVE:
Then one day she calls you and askes you "where is this relationship heading to?.
You dont even know where your own life is heading to, not to talk of a relationship.
|
| Re: When Being Loving Becomes Inevitable by Laveda(f): 6:35pm On Oct 14, 2016 |
daveP:
At the earlier part thru middle, he was describing me
How did you scale through? |
| Re: When Being Loving Becomes Inevitable by buffalowings: 7:02pm On Oct 14, 2016 |
[quote author=Ridhwan1 post=50198458]Hey everyone,
Can I ask you for something?
When my heart beats, what does it beat for?
For Love or to live? [/quote
To live
Love is an afterthought |
| Re: When Being Loving Becomes Inevitable by buffalowings: 7:04pm On Oct 14, 2016 |
Kiss me
Kikkkiss me
Infect me with your poison |
| Re: When Being Loving Becomes Inevitable by daveP(m): 7:31pm On Oct 14, 2016 |
Laveda:
How did you scale through? Friends, true ones, who did all they could to divert my thoughts with finding another. But hard to replace. They humorfully told me this was what made a good boy a badt boy- subconscious revenge drive. |
| Re: When Being Loving Becomes Inevitable by GROOOVE(m): 8:03pm On Oct 14, 2016 |
Laveda:
How did you scale through? Laveda:
Just the truth... Nice.. Lol, take Toke Makinwa's advice... Life's too short enjoy your twenties in the end nobody remembers but never lose you |
| Re: When Being Loving Becomes Inevitable by ephi123(f): 8:07pm On Oct 14, 2016 |
GROOOVE:
To be continued When? We are waiting, please continue.. |
| Re: When Being Loving Becomes Inevitable by Bartwale(m): 8:25pm On Oct 14, 2016 |
GROOOVE:
. , Worsd... You just analyzed someone's life! |
| Re: When Being Loving Becomes Inevitable by MrDojo(m): 9:30pm On Oct 14, 2016 |
 I want to believe true love exists but just can't  |
| Re: When Being Loving Becomes Inevitable by JayJayGee: 10:27pm On Oct 14, 2016 |
Wetin be the usefulness of this post... Coz I no get anything |
| Re: When Being Loving Becomes Inevitable by metallisc(m): 1:22am On Oct 15, 2016 |
charijee:
This
Thing
Called
Love
Hmmmmmmm
chai! see my love oooooo! |
| Re: When Being Loving Becomes Inevitable by MrMacinterchi1: 9:56am On Oct 15, 2016 |
Ridhwan1:
Hey everyone,
Can I ask you for something?
When my heart beats, what does it beat for?
For Love or to live?
It beats to LIVE for LOVE. |
