vicben27:
.bro some of dis woman ar crazy dis dayz but advice do ur best nt to involve urself in der family matter cuz he wil alwayz b on her side. mak sure derz a little distance dat way u earn ur respect, try to b independent! dnt qurel wit a woman at d end of d day i'll end up lookin stupid

sasural:


I'm female... She's about 4 years older than me

sisisioge:
Babes, pls apologize to her and leave her to her own. Avoid her like a plague. In fact, the fact that you dropped voice today has taken your relationship to another level...just say sorry and leave her and her husband alone. No too talk.

sasural:


You seem to assume I care if he divorces his wife. As far as I'm concerned, he's living his life, whatever he decides to do that's his business. I don't think I could care less if I tried. I've been nice to her, even when I don't want to. I don't know what more I can do. Everyone in my family aside from my Mum complains about her behaviour. Even my Mum complains, but she doesn't do anything because she never corrects my brother... Even when he does blatantly stupid things. So four people who are in the majority are wrong as opposed to the one person in minority?

sasural:


I don't live with them. I have never visited them unless it's to go help my brother out with work.
Please believe me when I say there were way more nasty things I could have said to her but I didn't. I respected myself and said only what I said on the account that she's my brothers wife and my brother is a fool who listens to no one.
There's quite some backstory, but I didn't type it out here because it's too long. I used to ignore her before, but I decided to try and this is the response I have recieved. The 2 most selfish and entitled people I've encountered seem to think telling me to sacrifice my time to help them out for nothing in return is doing me a favour.

Agbaletu:

I am not comfortable with that. He is your brother either older or younger he doesn't deserve it.

If you know that you cannot genuinely apologize, no need for apology.
If i were in your shoe i will apologize to her. My brother's wife deserves the same respect i give my brother.

sasural:


I don't live with them. I have never visited them unless it's to go help my brother out with work.
Please believe me when I say there were way more nasty things I could have said to her but I didn't. I respected myself and said only what I said on the account that she's my brothers wife and my brother is a fool who listens to no one.
There's quite some backstory, but I didn't type it out here because it's too long. I used to ignore her before, but I decided to try and this is the response I have recieved. The 2 most selfish and entitled people I've encountered seem to think telling me to sacrifice my time to help them out for nothing in return is doing me a favour.

Omofairy:


I agree with you 100%

Pray you don't marry into a place where u are hated.

+ seeing you can comfortably call your older brother a fool cos he married against the wishes of the majority, gives me a picture of what kind of attitude you give her.

It's their home, her life, and she is not your mate. I'm yoruba, and have a good relationship with all our wives cos I refuse to demand undue respect or treat them as beneath me as is the custom simply cos they married from my family.

Again I say, do unto others as you would have them do unto you. Every human has the capacity to love...and if you just can't tolerate her, let them be

sasural:


You seem to assume I care if he divorces his wife. As far as I'm concerned, he's living his life, whatever he decides to do that's his business. I don't think I could care less if I tried. I've been nice to her, even when I don't want to. I don't know what more I can do. Everyone in my family aside from my Mum complains about her behaviour. Even my Mum complains, but she doesn't do anything because she never corrects my brother... Even when he does blatantly stupid things. So four people who are in the majority are wrong as opposed to the one person in minority?

sasural:
Also immediately after the fight, she went into my Mum's room to report to her. Before she entered she was laughing, later my Mum told me she almost cried. So she's pretending and trying to play the victim to my Mum?

cococandy:
Your mother is selfish, self absorbed and difficult.
Your brother is foolish. Lobatan.

Your mind is made up. So what's the purpose of this thread then? You want someone to cheer you on in your ant-SIL campaign?