WHAT IS MARRIAGE

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It seems so many people are forgetting the definition of marriage or they don’t know what marriage really is. With the high rate of divorce lately and the flimsy excuses a lot of these people divorcing their partners give, it seems most of them don’t really understand what marriage is. Until one understands what a thing is, one can never have a good relationship with that thing. The way you define a thing will determine to a great extent how you will relate with that thing. Same applies to marriage. Until you understand what marriage is and entails you can hardly become successful in it.


I remember when I were in junior secondary school, under a subject called Social Studies, I were told that ‘marriage is the coming together of a man and a woman as husband and wife.’ They never told us for how long such a union is supposed to last. It seems this is the same view most people have about marriage: let’s come together now and when it doesn’t work out the way we expected it to be, we opt out.


That is why so many people are so quick to profess love to complete stranger they don’t know much about and the next minute they are already in the registry. Because they already have the distorted view that if it doesn’t work in their favor they can easily work out. No plans for the future on how they would want their marriage to be like. All they are looking at is the fun for the now. If it isn’t fun anymore, we can easily opt out and go to the next available naïve abuser of marriage. No wonder there are so many young people these days in their thirties already having a history of divorce. No one is talking about ‘working things out,’ all they talk about is ‘leave if it doesn’t go as you expected.’


What does the word ‘marriage’ really means to me? From my experience as an adult, I got to understand that marriage is more than what I were told in school it was. I discovered marriage has responsibilities and that marriage is supposed to be for a life time. So, how I do I define marriage?
“I see marriage as a decision by two matured individuals to love, accept, respect, support, care, protect and be faithful to each other all through their life time”.


Those seeking to go into marriage must first of all be matured. What does it mean to be matured? They should be people that have attained the legal age of maturity as stipulated by the law of the land in which they dwell in and they must also possess mental maturity. They must understand what marriage is; what it entails; the responsibilities involve and must have the wherewithal to meet those responsibilities. This is a simple summary of what maturity is.


Secondly, those seeking to go into marriage must be willing to love, accept, respect, support, care, protect and be willing to remain faithful to their partner for the rest of their lives. Marriage is an adventure that has a lot of up times and down times. You must make up your mind to stick with your partner through it all. So many people are so quick to leave their marriage hoping they would meet the real angel that they have been waiting for in their next marriage, only to discover that such angel does not exist.


They keep repeating the same mistakes; always thinking that it’s the partner they are with that is the problem. They fail to understand that marriage requires work in order for it to be a success. You must be willing to work on yourself, your partner and your marriage in order to make it what you want it to be. If you are not ready for the work and responsibilities of marriage, then you are not yet ready for marriage because you are yet to understand what marriage truly is.


Lastly, marriage is supposed to be a life time adventure. Marriage does not have an expiry date. It is supposed to be ‘till death do us part.’ Marriage is very interesting and vital for our lives; if only we can have enough patience with our partner and work things out with them we would discover that marriage is very enjoyable.


Since I took that bold decision of marriage seven years ago, I have never looked back. Yes, there were times we had great misunderstanding and we felt like stabbing each other, but the love we had for each other always saw us through. We understood that we were different and that it is our responsibility to make our marriage what we want it to be. Since we got that knowledge, things have greatly improved and our marriage has been getting better with each passing day.


Look, there is no angel anywhere! Everyone has some form of imperfections in them. So don’t run out of your marriage hoping that you’ll meet someone better. You can’t really tell how good or bad your next partner may be. Stay with your partner and try to work things out. Both of you can work on your marriage and make it what you want it to be. All it requires from both of you is just a little bit of love, patience and understanding. You have in you what it will take to make your marriage a heaven on earth. Stay, fight for it and work on it in order for you to make it what you want it to be.


Marriage is vital to our lives and for our existence as humans. But we must first understand what it is and what it entails before we can actually make the most of it. This is a summary of my own understanding of ‘marriage’. What is ‘marriage’ to you?

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95 percent of today's marriages is based on 1. My sister is married 2 all my friends are married 3 because he or she is reach. That is why fails marriage is common, because 1 person is thinking of WEDDING and the other is thinking of MARRIAGE . This are two different things