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My Girlfriend Is Being Forced Into Marriage by Forced17: 8:22am On Feb 07
Good morning Nairalanders

This has been eating me up for days. Me and this girl have been together for 3 years now, she's 17 and I'm 19.

I accept all bashings for being in a relationship at this age, she's the last born though and we perfectly understand each other.

Now her father is forcing her to marry a man in Kaduna, she refused and the father threatened to throw her and her siblings including the mum out into the streets or send them to the village if she doesn't marry the man.

Now she hasn't even for days now and she's contemplating on taking her life and she just told me about this yesterday and this has brought me down so much. I don't know what to do, I need help. This is about her future, I don't want her to be forced to become a mother at 17 and living under a man she doesn't know.

She has only three weeks before the man comes to take her away.
My girlfriend is being sold into marriage and I don't know what to do.

I need help, I'm heartbroken��
I don't know who can help me push this to front page

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Re: My Girlfriend Is Being Forced Into Marriage by joshjc(m): 8:25am On Feb 07
Hmm,tell her to go to ministry of women affairs and report her dad
So you and your girlfriend started dating at the age of 16 and 14,you need serious flogging

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Re: My Girlfriend Is Being Forced Into Marriage by Davash222(m): 8:30am On Feb 07
She’s 14 when you started dating her
You’re worse than the father!


Anyways, na Small pikin still dey worry both of una.

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Re: My Girlfriend Is Being Forced Into Marriage by Quality20(m): 8:32am On Feb 07
in Islam parents are highly responsible for their children and wards under them. Pls allow the man do as he please, he isn't going to hurt his daughter. she is under his care and will account for her on judgement day. Pls don't spoil another man's family, u are only a random boyfriend who might eventually use,dump n spoil d innocent girls life.
I'm myself dating a Hausa lady and I know n accept that the father can chose to marry her out to any man he wish and I can't question that. Even though I love her, I'm not going to tell her to rebel against her parents. I repeat, don't spoil things for other ppl, u r not responsible for this girl and u can't change that. Cultures vary a lot, u can't impose ur cultural views on others

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Re: My Girlfriend Is Being Forced Into Marriage by Davash222(m): 8:32am On Feb 07
Quality20:
she is under his care and will account for her on judgement day.
No, she’ll account for herself on judgement day. Life na per head.

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Re: My Girlfriend Is Being Forced Into Marriage by Forced17: 8:34am On Feb 07
joshjc:
Hmm,tell her to go to ministry of women affairs and report her dad
So you and your girlfriend started dating at the age of 16 and 14,you need serious flogging
I know but about what you're thinking
we don't go close to it

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Re: My Girlfriend Is Being Forced Into Marriage by Forced17: 8:35am On Feb 07
Quality20:
in Islam parents are highly responsible for their children and wards under them. Pls allow the man do as he please, he isn't going to hurt his daughter. she is under his care and will account for her on judgement day. Pls don't spoil another man's family, u are only a random boyfriend who might eventually use,dump n spoil d innocent girls life
she's not a Muslim and we have a future together

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Re: My Girlfriend Is Being Forced Into Marriage by PrimadonnaO(f): 8:38am On Feb 07
joshjc:
Hmm,tell her to go to ministry of women affairs and report her dad
So you and your girlfriend started dating at the age of 16 and 14,you need serious flogging

That's why her father thinks she's ready for marriage. She's got three years' experience. She'll learn the rest on the "job." cheesy

@OP Isn't there anyone else in her family who is enlightened and can step in talk to her father?

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Re: My Girlfriend Is Being Forced Into Marriage by Quality20(m): 8:40am On Feb 07
Forced17:

she's not a Muslim and we have a future together
owk. I thought she is from a muslim home. Anyway, it's still good u thread softly

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Re: My Girlfriend Is Being Forced Into Marriage by InfernoNig(m): 8:42am On Feb 07
My guy, what you can do now is report to any organization in charge of girl marriage, or ministry of women affairs, or better still get her pregnant to spoil show for her father or you just leave family matter for them to solve. Nothing more you can do.

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Re: My Girlfriend Is Being Forced Into Marriage by Forced17: 8:44am On Feb 07
PrimadonnaO:


That's why her father thinks she's ready for marriage. She's got three years' experience. She'll learn the rest on the "job." cheesy

@OP Isn't there anyone else in her family who is enlightened and can step in talk to her father?
the older ones talked to the man but. he insisted she must marry the man from Kaduna
she's the last born �

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Re: My Girlfriend Is Being Forced Into Marriage by thorpido(m): 8:46am On Feb 07
Quality20:
in Islam parents are highly responsible for their children and wards under them. Pls allow the man do as he please, he isn't going to hurt his daughter. she is under his care and will account for her on judgement day. Pls don't spoil another man's family, u are only a random boyfriend who might eventually use,dump n spoil d innocent girls life.
I'm myself dating a Hausa lady and I know n accept that the father can chose to marry her out to any man he wish and I can't question that. Even though I love her, I'm not going to tell her to rebel against her parents. I repeat, don't spoil things for other ppl, u r not responsible for this girl and u can't change that. Cultures vary a lot, u can't impose ur cultural views on others
Nonsense.What of the girl's rights?

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Re: My Girlfriend Is Being Forced Into Marriage by joshjc(m): 8:50am On Feb 07
PrimadonnaO:


That's why her father thinks she's ready for marriage. She's got three years' experience. She'll learn the rest on the "job." cheesy

@OP Isn't there anyone else in her family who is enlightened and can step in talk to her father?
lol three years experience in what??

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Re: My Girlfriend Is Being Forced Into Marriage by jeff1607(m): 8:51am On Feb 07
Forced17:
she's not a Muslim and we have a future together

Exkiss me please , you have a what together?
can u feed her?
can you handle her emotional needs
can you protect her
can you cater for kids coming in

Do you have a roof over your head?
will you be able to sponsor her education?

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Re: My Girlfriend Is Being Forced Into Marriage by uruba23: 9:00am On Feb 07
Well if someone decides to stab the man from Kaduna my hand is not there.All I have been hearing lately is wife stab husband ...All this arrange wedding are not the best.

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Re: My Girlfriend Is Being Forced Into Marriage by Forced17: 9:06am On Feb 07
jeff1607:


Exkiss me please , you have a what together?
can u feed her?
can you handle her emotional needs
can you protect her
can you cater for kids coming in

Do you have a roof over your head?
will you be able to sponsor her education?
is that a reason for her to marry at that age?at 17!!!!

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Re: My Girlfriend Is Being Forced Into Marriage by Tonyfx: 9:06am On Feb 07
You've been dating her for 3years (since she was 14yrs) and she's the last, that means she must have been disobeying her father because of you and the man is fed up and wants her to marry since its man that is her problem. So you probably are the cause of her problem.


Forced17:

she's not a Muslim and we have a future together

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Re: My Girlfriend Is Being Forced Into Marriage by Forced17: 9:12am On Feb 07
Tonyfx:
You've been dating her for 3years (since she was 14yrs) and she's the last, that means she must have been disobeying her father because of you and the man is fed up and wants her to marry since its man that is her problem. So you probably are the cause of her problem.


her father knows nothing about us
only her older siblings

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Re: My Girlfriend Is Being Forced Into Marriage by luvyaself95(m): 9:16am On Feb 07
Quality20:
in Islam parents are highly responsible for their children and wards under them. Pls allow the man do as he please, he isn't going to hurt his daughter. she is under his care and will account for her on judgement day. Pls don't spoil another man's family, u are only a random boyfriend who might eventually use,dump n spoil d innocent girls life.
I'm myself dating a Hausa lady and I know n accept that the father can chose to marry her out to any man he wish and I can't question that. Even though I love her, I'm not going to tell her to rebel against her parents. I repeat, don't spoil things for other ppl, u r not responsible for this girl and u can't change that. Cultures vary a lot, u can't impose ur cultural views on others

What an arrant nonsense.

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Re: My Girlfriend Is Being Forced Into Marriage by generationz(f): 9:19am On Feb 07
Quality20:
in Islam parents are highly responsible for their children and wards under them. Pls allow the man do as he please, he isn't going to hurt his daughter. she is under his care and will account for her on judgement day. Pls don't spoil another man's family, u are only a random boyfriend who might eventually use,dump n spoil d innocent girls life.
I'm myself dating a Hausa lady and I know n accept that the father can chose to marry her out to any man he wish and I can't question that. Even though I love her, I'm not going to tell her to rebel against her parents. I repeat, don't spoil things for other ppl, u r not responsible for this girl and u can't change that. Cultures vary a lot, u can't impose ur cultural views on others

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Re: My Girlfriend Is Being Forced Into Marriage by generationz(f): 9:25am On Feb 07
Forced17:
Good morning nairalanders
This has been eating me up for days
Me and this girl has been together for 3 years now, she's 17 and I'm 19. I accept all bashings for being in a relationship at this age, she's the last born though and we perfectly understand each other.
Now her father is forcing her to marry a man in Kaduna, she refused and the father threatened to throw her and her siblings including the mum out into the streets or send them to the village if she doesn't marry the man.
Now she hasn't even for days now and she's contemplating on taking her life and she just told me about this yesterday and this has brought me down so much. I don't know what to do, I need help. This is about her future, I don't want her to be forced to become a mother at 17 and living under a man she doesn't know.
She has only three weeks before the man comes to take her away.
My girlfriend is being sold into marriage and I don't know what to do
I need help, I'm heartbroken��
I don't know who can help me push this to front page

Well, creating a twitter account and crying for help there will attract the necessary public bodies to really around and help. I don't know if she will like that type of exposure though.


Plus if everything works out, she had better start looking for a job.

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Re: My Girlfriend Is Being Forced Into Marriage by jeff1607(m): 9:38am On Feb 07
Forced17:

is that a reason for her to marry at that age?at 17!!!!

is that the reason to date or sleep with a minor?

forcing an underage into marriage is bad but what is worse ,is if she gets preggy by you? which is worse?

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Re: My Girlfriend Is Being Forced Into Marriage by Tonyfx: 9:47am On Feb 07
Forced17:

her father knows nothing about us
only her older siblings

For a man to threaten to kick out his entire family because of one child, you should know that water don pass carry. Mind you I'm not supporting the man's decision (as a matter of fact he should be reported to ministry of women affiars) but know that once a naive girl falls in love for the first time, her attitude changes totally so the man doesn't need to know about you. It's his daughter and he know when her attitude changes.

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Re: My Girlfriend Is Being Forced Into Marriage by Nobody: 9:49am On Feb 07
We only address relationship matters that are related to adults not teenagers.as a matter of fact you and the girl are spoiled kids for starting to have sexy at that early age.

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Re: My Girlfriend Is Being Forced Into Marriage by Kobicove(m): 9:51am On Feb 07
Forced17:

the older ones talked to the man but. he insisted she must marry the man from Kaduna
she's the last born �

You're 19 and you say you and a 17 year old girl have a future together...boy can you even feed yourself not to talk of taking care of a wife and child?! undecided

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Re: My Girlfriend Is Being Forced Into Marriage by gift2xl: 9:51am On Feb 07
All this early spoilt dudes!! why not use that same desire and love to focus on something profitable that brings money. The man the father of the girl is giving her out to, might be well financial stable and your there killing yourself for love.... dude they don't eat love. Go keep your brain busy with profiting jobs and stop embarrassing your manhood. Grow up!!!.

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Re: My Girlfriend Is Being Forced Into Marriage by Kekereekun123: 9:51am On Feb 07
Its their culture. Find ya own real gf
Re: My Girlfriend Is Being Forced Into Marriage by elotajohn1(m): 9:51am On Feb 07
While mine is forcing me into marrying her ASAP as if she's carrying someone else's child grin grin grin

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Re: My Girlfriend Is Being Forced Into Marriage by gratiaeo(m): 9:52am On Feb 07
Ignorance romancing stupidity

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Re: My Girlfriend Is Being Forced Into Marriage by Forced17: 9:52am On Feb 07
jeff1607:


is that the reason to date or sleep with a minor?

forcing an underage into marriage is bad but what is worse ,is if she gets preggy by you? which is worse?
I know what you're thinking but trust me
we dare not go there

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Re: My Girlfriend Is Being Forced Into Marriage by babyfaceafrica: 9:52am On Feb 07
Okay

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