Today is sunday, while others are somewhere having fun others are suffering from Break ups. No one wants to go through break ups, and yet millions of people are dealing with them on a regular basis. If you want to avoid the issues that are related with breaking up with someone, you are not going to be able to do it. There's no way to avoid it. If it's going to happen, it will, and you will be left out cold. Now, there are ways that you can change things up. In fact, you could learn how to get your ex back. This is something that a lot of people will no doubt want to chase, and it starts with changing. You will need to change a bit, or else you will not get anywhere.

Just Be Friends

The first thing that you need to do is make sure that you are friends. You will not be able to win her back if you do not go this route. Make sure to call, and just check in. Ask about getting a drink, as friends, and just catching up and staying in communication. You don't need to do this a lot, but you should make sure that you chime in and see where they are and remind them that you're there if they need you. You have to become a good friend, not just an ex. Don't get angry, don't bring up the past, and just be open minded about what your conversation may entail, including dating. Without friendship, you can't possibly figure out how to get your ex back.

Make Changes To Your Lifestyle

Think about the complaints that your ex had before you broke up. Start making changes to your life in the opposite direction. Change your wardrobe, start learning about self improvement, improve yourself and go to different places. Look as though you're having fun. Go to meetings, and gatherings, meet new people and soon enough she will see that you are making strides. She'll actually ask you to go back with her, and that's something worth exploring. Remember, this is not so much about how to get your ex back, but rather about how to get your life back in order. Remember, you're trying to learn how to get your ex back, by changing.

Ask Her Back

Once you make changes, and you have been apart for some time, ask how she is. Ask if she's seeing anyone. If she's not, then ask her for a unique date. Take her somewhere you've never taken her before, and somewhere that you have discovered since being single. If you do this, she'll be in awe of your changes and will give you a second chance. However, you cannot get to this step if you do not focus on the aforementioned first.

Happy Sunday My People. we are here to listen, share your break up stories with us and we will advice you

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oga lalasticlala and mynd44 here is my sunday gift to Nairalanders

As I don see bbmpin like this....
I don know what to expect
Surprise Us for once na

KissChrix:
As I don see bbmpin like this....

I don know what to expect

Surprise Us for once na

i wish seun will introduce psychiatric section to send people like him their

Change too much then you have lost yourself as an individual no one is perfect, change comes from both parties what if the guy tries and the woman has not made any attempt to compromise ( the issue with most women it's her way or no way)

Raina80:
Change too much then you have lost yourself as an individual no one is perfect, change comes from both parties what if the guy tries and the woman has not made any attempt to compromise ( the issue with most women it's her way or no way)

yes sis you are correct. most ladies is their way or no way because most of the guys going to them have no dependency value to attach. once she truly loves either you or your cash their will surely be another way. remember one of the laws in the 48 laws of power "Always make other people dependent on you". ladies are mostly unknowingly applying the rule. making guys dependent between their legs. it is that sense of dependency that makes it only her way or no other way but once a guy reciprocate and make her dependent on his love, company, favor or cash their will surely be another way

LordZero:
What happened to her accepting you for who you are? what happened to both of you working/learning to accommodate and tolerate each other?.
Change yourself and she'll say you are fake or she find other things about you she doesn't like and you guys will have to break up again then you change again and the cycle continues.

If you are trying to improve yourself because of a partner and not for the betterment of yourself then you need HELP..

if learning to improve yourself and make you better means you are fake, then i am still wondering why you are sent to school. changing through learning only means you are improving yourself and most likely going beyond her standards. once it is clear that you are much better than her, then you surely have an upper hand

hahn:

hhhh, after everything you are calling her bi*ch after all u made her who she is. what do you expect us to call u ?

importexpert:



hhhh, after everything you are calling her bi*ch after all u made her who she is. what do you expect us to call u ?

How did you come to this conclusion?

hahn:


How did you come to this conclusion?

the picture you posted said it all

@op I can relate with this loooooooool...men sha

Why would anyone want to get back with an ex?

uzobaby:
@op I can relate with this loooooooool...men sha

just tell us that you fell for this

Bahddo:
Why would anyone want to get back with an ex?

the answer is just between your ears. think and you will find out why

importexpert:



the answer is just between your ears. think and you will find out why

It's either you just learnt that expression and you are trying to practice, or you believe everyone longs to return to his vomit. Which?

I think it's stupid trying to get back with an ex regardless of who initiated the breakup. If the relationship were that awesome, it wouldn't have ended in the first place.

importexpert:


the picture you posted said it all

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just tell us that you fell for this [/ well it took me down memory lane. .

Bahddo:
Why would anyone want to get back with an ex?

never say never. .some do get back after self rediscovery

Bahddo:
It's either you just learnt that expression and you are trying to practice, or you believe everyone longs to return to his vomit. Which?

I think it's stupid trying to get back with an ex regardless of who initiated the breakup. If the relationship were that awesome, it wouldn't have ended in the first place.

if its that awesome it wouldn't have ended in the first place? you made me laughing in chinese . in your illusive thinking perfect relationships now exist were issues dont come up ? as long as issues can come up break ups can come up. even the best relationship teachers in the world have their own personal relationship issues. remember our lord says "he has created humans with free will" as long as the free will and the imperfection are their, we can sometimes break up and regret it in the future. that is where getting him or her back comes in

LadyMercedes:
we got back together 3 weeks ago.

Done the tattoo?

After a year and you still haven't forgotten your ex..there is something wrong with you and u were d one responsible or having d faults dat led to d break up in d first place.
A clear conscience does not know or have any guilt.

Onijagidijagan:
After a year and you still haven't forgotten your ex..there is something wrong with you and u were d one responsible or having d faults dat led to d break up in d first place.
A clear conscience does not know or have any guilt.

I wanna believe the topic refers to relationships, not flings..so Please sire, Wat observation led to this hypothesis?