sauceTDA:
Yea. No one's perfect. Only God

Toks2008:
Often times we hear the single and searching use this phrase and I tend to wonder what it means to be decent?

Decency means a different thing to different people but according to the English dictionary, the word decent is an adjective used to describe an acceptable or satisfactory standard of a person which brings to mind this simple question;"Can one ever find a partner who has a total satisfactory and acceptable persona?"

The answer is a BIG NO.

No matter how hard you try, you will never find a "decent" partner that meets all your standard and there will always be a reason to leave that partner of yours because every one of us have one or two indecent character which may not be too obvious at first but will usually come crawling to the surface in due time and when such nature becomes obvious,we tend to wonder where it has been hiding in that person and we usually tag it "irreconcilable differences" then we break up with that person just to be on a wide goose chase with another presumably better partner.

The bottom line is that we should stop looking for a partner that will pass the decency test and learn to take people for who they are. You may never see all you want in one person and if you think you have then be prepared for a rude shock when you eventually discover the indecent side.

Have an open mind when searching for a partner and look for the top most quality you want and be prepared to tolerate that person,celebrate the good sides and overlook the bad sides because no one is really decent and that includes you.

Hope this makes sense.

Nma27:
At last, sheen you are searching for a decent partner to marry huh; I have one sweet caring lady to hook you up with. Holla at me to match you guys up. P.S she's based in Abuja

Nma27:
Are u not in search of a decent partner again? OK, I must admit I didn't even read your post

Toks2008:


Tot as much cos i was only being creative with the title. But u love making friends tho *winks*

skarlett:
This account has been hacked

Toks2008:


You sure sey you read the write up so?

skarlett:


I read it that's why I doubt you wrote it...so you can write something this reasonable

Diplomaticbeing:
Yes, one can find a decent partner. This is so because attitude (persona or superfication) is not always direct reflection of attribute. The former can be learned or faked but the latter is innate.

So, one who is able to differentiate attitude from attribute can sure find a decent partner. Using standard-base of 100 percent, any partner that possesses from 70 percent upwards of the attributes one desires in a partner can lay claim of having a decent partner.

However, tell me that one cannot find a perfect partner and I will agree with you 100 percent.

Benita27:
You said it all.
Once you have it at the back of your mind that "no one is perfect", you're likely to tolerate for Love...and what matters is loving your spouse for who she/he is.

WiLdFLame:
All this love matter don tire person sef ...

Vanessa88:
To be factual, it is not about being compatible but how couples deal with their incompatibility"..

Rapmoney:
Toks2008, nice post you have written and I commend you for that. That's that...but to be frank with you, if you have met some type of crazy people in life, you would realize that the word 'decency' could really have a general meaning, acceptable among almost every sane and responsible human in a conservative African society like ours.

In as much as relationship thrives on accepting people's flaws and shortcomings which sum up to tolerance, I don't think it is wise to accept someone in marriage who has a trait/traits you cannot tolerate!!! We are all different and so are our desires when it comes to relationships and marriage. If Jude cannot withstand the condition of his wife-to-be not being able to communicate in English, there's no need being in a serious affair with Cynthia who happens to be someone who cannot speak or write in English properly. I bet you, he would never be happy in such marriage. Nobody should judge him because his mind is already conditioned not to accept such condition!

To ease our lives, we just need to know the characters or traits we can tolerate in others and those we cannot tolerate. If one has knowledge of these, one can make marriage or marital affair easier.

If anyone is searching for a partner who is flawless, such a person is living a life of illusions!