Chubhie:
A once spiritual husband goes to strip club to watch naked women and you think the wife deserves a slap for reacting the way she did?

you... I remember yu. dyu have anything against me? Why must yu always negate me?

NevetsIbot:
you... I remember yu. dyu have anything against me? Why must yu always negate me?

I'm sorry about that.nothing personal. Just coincidence.

A lot of Nigerians are practicing open marriage but they keep deceiving themselves and society to be happily monogamous.

oloyede252:
I am a 34 year old man. I have been with my wife for
nine years - married for the last five. When I married her,
she had very traditonal values. We had a lot in common -
both somewhat shy, both non drinkers and non smokers -
very respectful - spiritual rather than religious ,ethically
proper and commited to one another. We've always been
very honest with each other as well. Our physical
intimate life started off rather pedestrian - very
unadventurous but slowly grew as we did into something
wilder and special - however we remained monogamous.
One time my wife got very jealous when I told her I had
visited a strip club with friends and was very hurt by it. I
promised her I would not go to one again. This was
about three years ago.
My wife has since had some revelations and has
changed. Long story short - she suggested to me that we
consider an "open marriage". Apparently at work a fellow
she was attracted to hit on her and she was flattered, so
much so that it brought forth an idea she said she'd had
on her mind for about a year now ... the idea that society
puts too much emphasis on sex and that if we can have
our needs met by someone else other than our partner
that we should go ahead and do it. She said she would
have no problem with me being with other women if I felt
it was right.
I CANNOT sleep or eat. I am in agony. I love her so much
and respect what she has to say but this hit me like a ton
of bricks. I have no interest in being with anyone other
than my wife EVER. I told her I would consider it and try
and be a litle more evolved in my thinking but I don't
think i can. The thought of my wife being with another
man makes me ill.
My wife argues I am being possesive and territorial. She
is being great about this , by the way, she is simply
expressing her feelings and being honest with me - and
given the situaltion I couldn't ask for more. My wife is
prone to quite analytical and is a real thinker and we
have considered this is just a phase she's going through.
But what if it isn't?
I want her to be happy and I don't want to supress her in
any way. But I don't think I could deal with her being
with other guys.
Please help - thank you in advance.

1.She has someone outside that she is either cheating with already but she is just using the open marriage as an excuse to keep banging him.

2.She has lost respect for you big time.For her to have the guts to tell you bro.

3.If she taste another dick forget your wife.You will die early.You will just be a cuck because open relationship hardly favour men except you are huge and very handsome.She will always have men at her back and call.Bro in short you don die.

oloyede252:
I am a 34 year old man. I have been with my wife for
nine years - married for the last five. When I married her,
she had very traditonal values. We had a lot in common -
both somewhat shy, both non drinkers and non smokers -
very respectful - spiritual rather than religious ,ethically
proper and commited to one another. We've always been
very honest with each other as well. Our physical
intimate life started off rather pedestrian - very
unadventurous but slowly grew as we did into something
wilder and special - however we remained monogamous.
One time my wife got very jealous when I told her I had
visited a strip club with friends and was very hurt by it. I
promised her I would not go to one again. This was
about three years ago.
My wife has since had some revelations and has
changed. Long story short - she suggested to me that we
consider an "open marriage". Apparently at work a fellow
she was attracted to hit on her and she was flattered, so
much so that it brought forth an idea she said she'd had
on her mind for about a year now ... the idea that society
puts too much emphasis on sex and that if we can have
our needs met by someone else other than our partner
that we should go ahead and do it. She said she would
have no problem with me being with other women if I felt
it was right.
I CANNOT sleep or eat. I am in agony. I love her so much
and respect what she has to say but this hit me like a ton
of bricks. I have no interest in being with anyone other
than my wife EVER. I told her I would consider it and try
and be a litle more evolved in my thinking but I don't
think i can. The thought of my wife being with another
man makes me ill.
My wife argues I am being possesive and territorial. She
is being great about this , by the way, she is simply
expressing her feelings and being honest with me - and
given the situaltion I couldn't ask for more. My wife is
prone to quite analytical and is a real thinker and we
have considered this is just a phase she's going through.
But what if it isn't?
I want her to be happy and I don't want to supress her in
any way. But I don't think I could deal with her being
with other guys.
Please help - thank you in advance.

Am glad she opened up

You can't change her mind but you can do things that will make her to have a rethink of her thoughts

Seat her down and both if you should discuss that ideas of her and what lead to such thinking

Her response will indicate either that you are not caring and providing for her or you are caring and providing but she feels you need assistance

If you have not been taking her to places for outing, then it's time you start doing that

Well let me stop here

Whatever happened to the couple on this thread?

Did the wife push forth with the 'open marriage'?

The husband sounded very weak. But again, he lost the moral standing the moment he went to the strip club.

How far with your marriage OP… did you agree to the open marriage? Are you guys still together?

Go back to the drawing board.

Fornicators and adulterers shall be judged by God.

Take the lead by setting things straight, and mandating her to follow suite.

Why destroy your marriage by western ideologies from the kingdom of darkness.

Send her back to the streets of Ikot Ekpene from whence she came. Once she's done satisfying her lasts, a molue will take her to the streets of Ekwulobia where there will be weeping and gnashing of teeth. You are the man, you are the prize. Stop acting like a pvssy and man up. This is Africa.
Woman condition you and you dey shake. Chaiii.