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The Trouble With Premarital Sex By Jane Kolade by MVLOX(m): 1:53pm On Nov 06, 2016 |
Sex is such an innocent sounding word
– three letters with far reaching
consequences.
A wise man once said of sex, “Sex to a
man is like a hungry man walking into
a Mr. Biggs outlet for lunch, what is
his business with who cooked the
food?” Therein lies the trouble, a
healthy male animal wakes up with an
erection and sees nothing wrong with
finding a ready female to assuage his
desire. So while the lady thinks she is
in love, and in a relationship with a
future, the guy is only having fun.
To the ladies, at the risk of sounding
like I’m preaching a sermon, having sex
with a man you are not married to is
such a big risk. Even when he says he
loves you, he might or he might not.
And can take the age old tack of
telling a woman what she wants to
hear to get what he wants from her.
This is why many Romeos run away
from or deny their Juliets when
pregnancy shows up.
The first time I got this insight was in
a conversation with an older colleague
who was gisting about sowing his wild
oats as a young man. Even though he
had met his wife, and had decided to
marry her, he had this side chick that
used to spend the weekend at his
bachelor pad, his wife on the other
hand never passed the night. She only
visited on Sundays after church,
because her work schedule made it
impossible for her to visit during the
week. Meanwhile the other babe
arrived on Friday after work, and left
early Sunday morning.
After months of sleepovers, the side
chick asked bros where the
relationship was heading, and he said
he was not ready for any commitment,
not long after she stopped visiting,
and he went on to marry his wife. So I
asked him why he was sleeping with
the other chick when he had no
intention of marrying her, and he said,
“When she was giving me the thing to
chop nko?” I really don’t want to go
into the rights and wrongs of such a
relationship, but I wonder if the side
chick could have saved herself the
heartache if she had simply kept her
legs tightly closed.
Sexologist and researcher; Fernando
Enriques in his book, Modern Sexuality
says that the male sexual appetite has
remained mainly promiscuous even in
societies that has forced monogamy
on men. He posits, “The male sexual
urge has retained its strongly
promiscuous, if not polygamous
nature.” That could be the reason why
the exigencies of modern life that has
delayed marriage until into the
twenties, thirties, and even beyond
means that men have to find a way to
slake their thirst by any means
possible, even if the experiment leads
to unwanted pregnancies, abortions, or
STDs.
The sad thing is that while the men
who do this are hailed as studs, their
female counterparts are seen to be
tarts. There can never be equality in
such matters. Many men look down on
their female conquests, and see
nothing wrong with moving on to the
next available female. For the female
folk, I say there is nothing wrong with
deciding to be a plaything, if that is
what you want, if not, you might want
to rethink your choices, and lifestyle. source: http://thenationonlineng.net/trouble-premarital-sex/ |
Re: The Trouble With Premarital Sex By Jane Kolade by Laveda(f): 1:55pm On Nov 06, 2016 |
I want to read it, but it looks too scattered. |
Re: The Trouble With Premarital Sex By Jane Kolade by Tallesty1(m): 2:02pm On Nov 06, 2016 |
I kinda agree with her. love is a word we use to get free sex and ladies use it to enjoy the money they never worked for. |
Re: The Trouble With Premarital Sex By Jane Kolade by sinaj(f): 2:09pm On Nov 06, 2016 |
Tallesty1:what bout the working class ladies? U think evri lady is after your money? Daz if d guy evn hav |
Re: The Trouble With Premarital Sex By Jane Kolade by Tallesty1(m): 2:10pm On Nov 06, 2016 |
sinaj:Working class ladies need bigger money. They ask for very huge amount 1 Like |
Re: The Trouble With Premarital Sex By Jane Kolade by holatin(m): 2:35pm On Nov 06, 2016 |
Story story
we all love sex |
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