My girlfriend is really going through a difficult time. She has been with a guy for over 4 years who she loves very much and from all indications this guy is not serious about her. He has tried giving her the light several times for her to call off the relationship but she keeps hanging on.

On her part I understand her plight cos this guy is her first love and the first man in her life. Several times we have discussed this issue and she told me how he would he would call her unprintable names and not call her sometimes for weeks. She said she knows what to do but is just finding it difficult to move on. This guy doesnt even know where she lives after 4 years in a relationship!

Just last week he gave her another opportunity to call the relationship off and she couldnt.She was crying as she told me and I just didnt know what else to say.She said its like the guy is using jazz on her that's why she cant seem to break free from him even though she wants to.

As a friend I just dont know what else to say to her.

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Simply give her my phone number. . .

She's wearing the shoe, and refuses to take it off. I really dont pity her, cos its hard to understand how a girl would even start a relationship with someone who clearly doesnt give a damn about her.

whitelexi:

She's wearing the shoe, and refuses to take it off. I really dont pity her, cos its hard to understand how a girl would even start a relationship with someone who clearly doesnt give a damn about her.

Guys please, I know it must seem that way, but this is my childhood friend and I'm really concerned about her. This is her first relationship and its so unfortunatele that the guy has turned out to be a complete wash-out.

MrLoverMAn:

Hey

how are you doing

Im alrit

The quickest way to lose your friend would be to tell her something bad about her BF.
Even if it is true, its better she finds out for herself than you risk losing her friendship.
as you said, you both have talk about this previously, still she hasn't given up leave her,
and she will learn the hard way.

Godmother:

This guy doesnt even know where she lives after 4 years in a relationship!

U Gats to be Kidding!!!

I tried doing that last night but I could tell she wasnt listening.And why Im not trying to justify her actions this guy is the first guy she ever slept with and I dont know if that explains the strong tie to this guy

i know it is difficult to brake up with someone u love and been together for yrs, but when it very obvious the guy doesn't want her any more then she should learn how to control her emotion and move on. but i don't get this part how can a man be dating a gal for 4 yrs not months or weeks and he doesn't even know where the galfriend lives then that's pathetic. the gal should av know from the on set that the guy is out to play her. u are her friend and i believe u want the best for her thats y u brought this matter here, but u should try point things ut to her tell the hard way i think thats the only way she'll understand.

Seems the guy is a lot older than her and he's holding all the aces.
It's not easy but sooner or later the heartbreak will come.
It's better she moves on now while there's still time.

she needs to let go.

zuuby:

Seems the guy is a lot older than her and he's holding all the aces.
It's not easy but sooner or later the heartbreak will come.
It's better she moves on now while there's still time.

You've made a lot of sense my dear, I hope she takes your advise co's that's the best option she's got now.

How old is your friend ? In her late 20's-30's ? cos ppl in those age bracket alwayz wanna hold on to senseless relationships.

She is in her mid twenties and the guy is ten years her senior

as long as she keeps taking his rubbish and forcing herself on her, he will never appreciate her. My advise is to walk away from that relationship, i know it will hurt but its the best thing to do. the guy will know her worth and miss her when she is gone. i bet u, he will try to come back to her, when reality hits him that she is gone, by then i expect her to call him all th eunprintable names he has been calling her and kick his ass for life.

if she can move on dou, pls hook me up. i can help her forget, besides i need a loyal woman like her.

Godmother:

She is in her mid twenties and the guy is ten years her senior

Dis one pass me oo. Your friend should leave that man alone !

smooooooth:

as long as she keeps taking his rubbish and forcing herself on her, he will never appreciate her. My advise is to walk away from that relationship, i know it will hurt but its the best thing to do. the guy will know her worth and miss her when she is gone. i bet u, he will try to come back to her, when reality hits him that she is gone, by then i expect her to call him all th eunprintable names he has been calling her and kick his ass for life.

if she can move on dou, pls hook me up. i can help her forget, besides i need a loyal woman like her.

Pulease he has been trying to dump her for ages but she won't let go. He'll neva see any worth in her. She should just let him go n let her heart find another to love. Easier said than done but if she follows through she'll find healing and a much better person to love and who'd love her.

eehh yaa, 4yrs. Is a very hard situation but with time she will get over it and that heart will become HARD ROCK. Just keep telling her stories and referin her to people, how important her life is. Also, keep telling her that "every disapointment is a blessing" thanx VICTOR 4m Abuja.

Thanks guys.I'll follow your advices and continue praying for her as well.

Am Dr. Know and sorry to tell u, ur friend suffers from what most girls who grew up reading romance novel suffer from, FIRST LOVE SYNDROME, they will never forget them, be treated like trash but will still have sex when called upon, If yes then sorry to tell u it has no cure, though she might leave him but he will still have that effect on her,once he calls her she will come, he bangs her, see things like this everytime, either that or he has an extremely big koko