Say you will marry him but after school , then when school finish, change your mind that you won't marry!

Rubbish! What kind of parents are those ones sef? It's as if they are looking for the nearest person to offload you on because they don't want to take care of your expenses anymore.

I would advice you to find something of your own doing. A part-time job or Wig making, make up, fashion design etc....something that can get you some money, cos these your parents are just looking for who to take care of their responsibilities.

Naijaboiy1:
19 years?

What sort of parents do you have?

This is the first time i am seeing you operate an alternate.. How are you?

Toniaeloho:

I asked them for their reasons but they said they want what is best for me. My mom likes him because he is from her tribe and stays close to our house I am the first daughter and they want to want to get married early because they think it will bring honour to the family

It is now clear you are igbo. This can only happen in a place like that. I guess you should just stall the whole arrangement till you grad. Get a job and move out of the house.

DDeliverer:
Why don't you love this guy, my dear op?

Marry him..the love would grow afterwards...!!

Don't say "I'm too young".."there is plenty more time"..because those are exactly what sister meg said and today she is 49, No husband, No children...

And forget about that your poor coursemate you are dating....this is real life!!

RUBBISH! so she should forfeit her happiness cos of what?

Toh run commot from ouse

linearity:


When dem go act the part 2 of this cock and bull movie self?

You are 19 years old and in your final year? Or you meant final year for secondary school and your parents dey force you to marry for secondary?

Final year in the university.

Toniaeloho:
A man in his late twenties approached me to marry him. I was not attracted to him neither was he a very friendly person. I told my mom about it and she advised me to think about it carefully.

After much thought, I decided to refuse because he seemed in hurry to marry me even when he barely knew me.

My parents got so angry with me. They said I should say agree because he is God fearing, has a good job( he owns a school) and they like him. I still refused , the man told me to marry him because he likes me and my parents like him. I tried reasoning with him but he told me that in those days girls marry men their parents approve.

My parents have threatened to not support my schooling if I refuse. I have tried to love this guy but I just can't. My parents esp my mom like him too much. I am not allowed to say a bad word against him. I am in my final year at school and 19 year old.

What should I do?

honour your parents so the bible said, am sowi am telling this because all men are liars just d word of God true......do not refuse d request of your parent if your faith is as strong as I am viewing it ryt now go To God in prayers let him speak to your parents



ur parents are not wicked do not despise dem ur blessing is being tied down to dem, you ar young I agree even me won't allow my sis to get married dat age but they are your parents after all

Follow your heart girl

Biko what is the age difference

lepasharon:


Oya comot am

No one should be a slave to money just sayin..

If I comot am I go use am flog your flat nyash, u can't even use one hand to hold my big cassava, ur two hands no fit hold am round, ur mouth 2 small.

Money gives a better standard of living and I'll keep hustling money till I die.

you better gree before your engine go knock and cucumber is now very expenses in the market

repogirl:
Say you will marry him but after school , then when school finish, change your mind that you won't marry!

Rubbish! What kind of parents are those ones sef? It's as if they are looking for the nearest person to offload you on because they don't want to take care of your expenses anymore.

I would advice you to find something of your own doing. A part-time job or Wig making, make up, fashion design etc....something that can get you some money, cos these your parents are just looking for who to take care of their responsibilities.

I plan on following your advice. It's surprising since my parents are well to do. I think they are just scared I will bring a poor boy from a tribe they hate and I will say I love him.

kukuma run leav d house for dem

talktonase:
that's the problem with this generation of ours...streaks and smells of rebellion and disobedience...And you want to live long enough to make heaven

Marriage is about agreement btw 2 persons if one ready to agree and other is not, how do u want them to cope

Masonic:


TBH, I think there's something you're not letting out. What kind of honour would an early marriage bring? Are your folks still living in the stone age?

Look mami, its your life.. Your future.. Its in your hands. Your folks won't endure a painful marriage with you. I think you should do what makes you u happy. You shouldn't be scared about their threat, you are already in your finals and truth be told, our parents love to make empty threats. They'll eventually come around.

@tonia , re-read this post over and over again.

Don't be scared about their threat!
Your future happiness is at stake here.

so u wanna marry at d age of 19?? .. ur parent didn't tink of ur future.. well I can't say u shud go against d will of ur parent but to me.. ko jooooo..

Funnicator:


If I comot am I go use am flog your flat nyash, u can't even use one hand to hold my big cassava, ur two hands no fit hold am round, ur mouth 2 small.

Money gives a better standard of living and I'll keep hustling money till I die.

TheRealestGuy:
Wow.

You're so good that you can know people's tribe from their post.

that shows you the level of her reasoning faculty... she is so sure the OP IS igbo, even when her name is Eloho! Soooooo smart!

Toniaeloho:
A man in his late twenties approached me to marry him. I was not attracted to him neither was he a very friendly person. I told my mom about it and she advised me to think about it carefully.

After much thought, I decided to refuse because he seemed in hurry to marry me even when he barely knew me.

My parents got so angry with me. They said I should say agree because he is God fearing, has a good job( he owns a school) and they like him. I still refused , the man told me to marry him because he likes me and my parents like him. I tried reasoning with him but he told me that in those days girls marry men their parents approve.

My parents have threatened to not support my schooling if I refuse. I have tried to love this guy but I just can't. My parents esp my mom like him too much. I am not allowed to say a bad word against him. I am in my final year at school and 19 year old.

What should I do?

Be honest this woman!!

Nine[b]Teen[/b] years??

ya parents no try bdat na...

Shes nt igbo by d moniker n igbo chics knw whn 2leave broke guys 4greener pastures...hustle is real
Op follow ur heart bt carry ur head along as well

19, and in final year... You no finish secondary education before you enter? After university education, wetin again? Na to marry or get better work, and start making money ... You no like the man ....I sure say you don test one boyfriend way dey scatter your dada for that school... Think well oooo.

Naijaboiy1:
19 years?

What sort of parents do you have?

poverty stricken ones (sorry to say)

lepasharon:

follow me to the other room, lemme FLOG your flat nyash till you love money.

talktonase:
She should simply honour her father and her mother for her days to be long...

Are you sure you're not the supposed groom?

Estharfabian:

So, This is the 21st century. People Marry for love... Not because your Parents say he's good for you. what do they even know? last I checked, maturity isn't a yardstick for wisdom. We've got dumb, Old people too.


Sweety, If you don't love this-this Grandpa, don't marry HIM! you'd only be miserable for life. I mean, You're Still young. Really young... This is the stage Where you should fall deeply in love, Have fun, Explore the world.

Your parents threats are just barks. I guess? they can't kill you. if they're Your real parents, Then, They won't do you anything. except, well, except they're really evil, Shallow and don't care about your own feelings..DON'T MARRY HIM! Pleeeeease! Sheeesh!

I go with u 100%.

This story would have gone completely left if the OP was a Muslim.

Shafiiimran99:

Marriage is about agreement btw 2 persons if one ready to agree and other is not, how do u want them to cope

Agreement between the two parties only comes from borrowed western cultures. Parental consent is key in this part of the world...

I see bad gang people creating new account same day posting on NL some cooked up stories... just to hit front page, Ogun is watching all of u
Check out the date registered, this kind fake stories for NLFP

Rone16:
Agh 19..That's too early oh or are you the only child

Why u put blank picture

You fit come dey with me first.

tee59:
I know ur parents are igbo who lik money dan anytn.. Money is d only language dis igbo women understand, dat is why dey encourage their toddlers to get married to rich dudes wtout considering their happiness and joy. Igbo people and money, only God can separate dem. I kno d guy must be rich.

as u like money,transfer d one weh dey ur account com mine.


#see ur mouth.