missyQween:

Don't listen to the comment baby,We re in love right? that's what matters

iykedare:


Dunderhead.

Uniben4sure:


BTW, bros let's assume all what you wrote are true, how exactly are you better than that lady who got married at 40, after she was already a Senior government official and has so much money in the bank account, and now is HAPPILY married with 2 kids? How please?

eitsei:
my own dad was 25

ellacute45:


funny

repogirl:
Marrying a young man....hmmm, clears throat.... most young men never get sense abeg. Their wahala plenty unlike an older guy who is most likely to be mature sense wise.

Instead of making a conscious decision to grow up, the senseless immature ones will start quoting me. Truth is a bitter pill to swallow, isn't it?

KingRex1:

You're laughing..
Coman collect this diamond ring before I sell it

ItsQuinn:
Good morning dear

How are you?

ellacute45:


Awww

iykedare:


I'm sure you can't remember our back and forth argument the other night. If you did, you would have called me devil.

iykedare:

What else do you eexpect from a feminist?

BlossomedCherry:
repogirl I disagree with you on this one. I married very early and same is my hubby... in his middle twenties but age is just a number, maturity is of the mind. We still dey like boifrnd and girlfrnd now sef. The only ish you might add is finance but we are doing just fine.

ItsQuinn:
Of course I remember....I remember every single detail.

Why would I call you the devil, we were just having a normal conversation

Mindfulness:
Disadvantages:

1. Your personality is more likely to change in a noticeable way when you are younger so the choices that you make in younger years may not be the choices you would want to make when you are more mature.

2. Younger couples divorce more often.

3. Younger people often do not have the finances to get married and keep the marriage going hence finances are another rampant reason for divorce.

4. Older people have more sophisticated ways to cope with conflicts and they have - ideally - learned to tame their temper more effectively.

5. Life expectancy is on the rise, so you have more time than your ancestors.

I could go on.

repogirl:
please take a second to read my words which were carefully chosen. I used 'most' young guys, not all young guys and I said older men are 'most likely' to be mature and not that they are mature.

Ofcourse I understand that there are some that deviate from the norm which was why I chose my words carefully. I like hearing testimonies like yours....there just might be hope for our young guys afterall.

BlossomedCherry:
lol.. okay o thats nice...


in another note, u still kept people in suspense in forever and for always. whats happening naw?

iykedare:


Sorry for the insults I dished out. It wasn't the right thing to do.

ItsQuinn:
It's a disadvantage when it comes to career

blackprowler:


See where Nigerian brain reach! Your rat race in life is about making your children graduate and all when you're still "very young". That's your idea of having lived a life? Oh god, this country is a joke. Nigeria will ultimately sink under the enormous weight of the people's stupidity. Foreign countries should bar us from entering their countries. What a people!

blackprowler:
Enjoy this

Bishops10:
Aww....let me listen to you honey

KingRex1:

Is that a yess?

uniteam:
Hmmmm, I love this question and i am going to answer it relatively, meaning i am applying it to my own situation.

1. The lady that got married at 40 will definitely not find it as smooth as we did medically when it comes to reproduction becos at that age, she is close to menopause.

2. Domestic affairs, child bearing and upbringing may not be as easy and fun as we had it because of the age.

3. I paid N32,500 for this same son to resume kindergarten in Lagos then, same school collects N572,000 for same kindergarten entry as at the last time i checked in July 2016. Thats almost 1800% increase.

4. I have him drive me around sometimes which the lady at 40 may not enjoy until sometimes 58, all things being equal.

5. Now i can use my old age to enjoy myself and my wife for as long as God gives us life, not to be looking for school fees or following up on child education or upbringing even at 58. I have my wife back as my chick now.

6. I enjoy the gap between me and them cos we are able to create family fun and go for several games together here and abroad and we challenge ourselves to it, we attend same dance class, I play musical instrument and i was able to make all of them pick interest as well and i feel happy watching them handle musical instruments during music production.

People looked at me as stupid me when i decided to marry then, but i was able to focus early and build a standard.

Bros, the list is in-exhaustive on personal ground though, but that's not to say there are no advantages for the person getting married late but for me i prefer & can speak for early marriage.

Good Post!

Kaysalas:

Easy bro! mind your words, no go dey insult elderly man abeg. but i really do agree with you, because the man graduate by 20, come get better job wey afford am fit marry by 22 abi na 24, now him kon get liver dey yarn us which one better pass. how many young people in naija today even at 26 upwards dey financially stable to marry. Abeg, wetin work for Taiye nor mean say e go work for Kehinde O!

blackprowler:


But you don't know my age or who I am nau. One thing that's killing this mumu country is what you just pointed out: they don't want each person to live his own life according to his own circumstance. They want everybody to follow a particular script and that's why we've backstabbed and sold one-another out to meet up. Few days back there was a BBC discussion about African societies and how they keep emphasising child birth. Lo and behold, there were some who were in their '50s and '60s before having their first children. I am in my 40s and have never really had a relationship in the true sense of the word, let alone having a wife or children. I refuse to "measure up" and I'm living my life according to my circumstances, a product of parents who also wanted to "measure up" by marrying and having a large family without any clear plan how to live into the future. I took the bullet for the family in a way. Don't let me go too personal. Nigeria is composed of too many dumb people. Maybe the guy talking had capable parents who made life smooth for him, met a girl who he was compatible with, got a good job, liked to marry early and suddenly, that's how all of society should operate! I've not even talked about how quickly multiplying the population that is unproductive and waiting to share crude oil money is impoverishing the country ever more. I mean, how dumb can Nigerians get? The present UK Prime Minister married but she did not have children. No be people be dat? In Nigeria, they will say it's a curse or she's barren or she's a "prostitute". As I always say, NIGERIA IS A JOKE!

blackprowler:


See where Nigerian brain reach! Your rat race in life is about making your children graduate and all when you're still "very young". That's your idea of having lived a life? Oh god, this country is a joke. Nigeria will ultimately sink under the enormous weight of the people's stupidity. Foreign countries should bar us from entering their countries. What a people!

ellacute45:


Yeaa

Kaysalas:

Hmnn! now, i can see that you are on a totally different page compared to us here. 40 and not married, no child? Bros! u get STRONG mind o. i am 30 and i am beginning to crack under pressure from right, left and centre. but truth be told, i never find my missing rib.
anyway sha, abeg, quickly find something do O, Bros, my own na child's play compared to your own. i nor envy you at all just kidding, no hating..cheers

DavidEsq:

Why u dey vex for her na. I know wat I used to be 6-8 years ago. Now I'm more mature, more tolerant, considerate, appreciating, bla bla bla, for good.