Pls I need a candid advise from matured minds! Its been over two years since my Ex got married. We broke up in a very mysterious way that is beyond human comprehension "based on not the will of God" from the church. I am still shock over everything and I have tried all my possible best to move on to no avail! I have this guy that cares so much that I decided to give a trial but I can't get my ex off my head. I always wish its my ex in almost 90% of what he does. Even when he talks about marriage, I am so scared. Pls what do I do? And I don't want to hurt this person because he is a very nice person

Sleep dey catch me

dingbang:
Sleep dey catch me

Lol.... Go sleep nah

Start getting used to reality. Your Ex is married (he has moved on) and nothing can change that...except if you plan of ruin it.
Give the new guy the chance he deserves to prove to you.

move on...its very hard buh its totally worth it.

he z married...Love sum1 else!

EMXTAN1:
he z married...Love sum1 else!

I wonder ooo

Sister, wait Until you clock 30, you will know what to do.

Your ex is gone, try creating fresh experiences with your new guy, yes it will take time but its better for you.

Honestly, I understand how the OP feels. It's the same way I love my boyfriend, too. Right now, we aren't having the best of relationships because of distance and a number of other encumbrances. But I love him... and in all these years, I've never seen anyone better than him, or rather, anyone I preferred to him. Trust me, I've seen a lot others, guys seem to get attracted to me a lot. Life gets topsy turvy, we may not get married (I sincerely pray we do), but I doubt I'll ever stop loving him.

Back to the topic, I won't advise you to fight the feelings you have for your ex, but try not to nurture it. Open your heart and give someone else a chance. Who knows? You just might find love again. You may not love any other man as much as you loved your ex, but at least what you feel for the new man should be real enough.

I just pray love will remember you...

Since I lost my girlfriend too, I have been floating like a river. Love life of men in uniform na ups and downs. Never had much time for her while at home due to my job, traveled out creating room for long distance relationship and stayed incommunicado in the Middle East for 18months. Her dad talked her through moving on and alas I lost my Ujunwa for good.

My dear, my advice is move on. You can't change change.

STOP STARING at his pictures and you will be fine....the head is designed to recall data when it see's anything that aids,it cnt recall until the eyes sees...discard everything belonging to him and give your self two weeks...works all the time...Give the new dude a chance,everyone is unique you see you will be fine

You can still love someone and not be with them. Once you realise this you will move on with your life.

Quintessential1:
Honestly, I understand how the OP feels. It's the same way I love my boyfriend, too. Right now, we aren't having the best of relationships because of distance and a number of other encumbrances. But I love him... and in all these years, I've never seen anyone better than him, or rather, anyone I preferred to him. Trust me, I've seen a lot others, guys seem to get attracted to me a lot. Life gets topsy turvy, we may not get married (I sincerely pray we do), but I doubt I'll ever stop loving him.

Back to the topic, I won't advise you to fight the feelings you have for your ex, but try not to nurture it. Open your heart and give someone else a chance. Who knows? You just might find love again. You may not love any other man as much as you loved your ex, but at least what you feel for the new man should be real enough.

I just pray love will remember you...

hmmmmm. keep it up. you are damn good.

alizma:

hmmmmm. keep it up. you are damn good.

Thanks.

Quintessential1:
Honestly, I understand how the OP feels. It's the same way I love my boyfriend, too. Right now, we aren't having the best of relationships because of distance and a number of other encumbrances. But I love him... and in all these years, I've never seen anyone better than him, or rather, anyone I preferred to him. Trust me, I've seen a lot others, guys seem to get attracted to me a lot. Life gets topsy turvy, we may not get married (I sincerely pray we do), but I doubt I'll ever stop loving him.

Back to the topic, I won't advise you to fight the feelings you have for your ex, but try not to nurture it. Open your heart and give someone else a chance. Who knows? You just might find love again. You may not love any other man as much as you loved your ex, but at least what you feel for the new man should be real enough.

I just pray love will remember you...

Awwww......that's so sweet.....I pray Ur relationship works out dear....
I still owe u DAT laugh u know!

rokiatu:
You can still love someone and not be with them. Once you realise this you will move on with your life.

Nice talk.....d moving up is d hardest though..especially if u still see each other regularly!

luminouz:



Awwww......that's so sweet.....I pray Ur relationship works out dear....
I still owe u DAT laugh u know!

I pray so, too... And yes, you still owe me that laughter.

Quintessential1:


I pray so, too... And yes, you still owe me that laughter.

I know dear! Am still cooking it! d more I cook it...d more infectious it is! Just wait n seeeee

luminouz:



I know dear! Am still cooking it! d more I cook it...d more infectious it is! Just wait n seeeee

Good good...

Quintessential1:
Honestly, I understand how the OP feels. It's the same way I love my boyfriend, too. Right now, we aren't having the best of relationships because of distance and a number of other encumbrances. But I love him... and in all these years, I've never seen anyone better than him, or rather, anyone I preferred to him. Trust me, I've seen a lot others, guys seem to get attracted to me a lot. Life gets topsy turvy, we may not get married (I sincerely pray we do), but I doubt I'll ever stop loving him.

Back to the topic, I won't advise you to fight the feelings you have for your ex, but try not to nurture it. Open your heart and give someone else a chance. Who knows? You just might find love again. You may not love any other man as much as you loved your ex, but at least what you feel for the new man should be real enough.

I just pray love will remember you...

I can relate with this 100 percent

rane06:
I can relate with this 100 percent

Story of our lives...

Maria Carey once wrote a song titled :LOVE TAKES TIME TO HEAL. i guess you have to listen to that song. Cry your eyes out, and allow your heart to melt away the feelings of him. After awhile the broken pieces will come back together and finally you will be free from the thought of him. Not that you won't remember him at all but not in this manner. Love hurts you know when you love someone so deeply and you breakup at the end, it could be killing, devastating and very frustrating.
You have to fall sick, become dead in your heart so that you can be reborn. It's gonna be difficult but with time and engaging your thought and self in someone anew ,you will forget him like yesterday because then he won't be your shinning Hammond.
I have been there before. I even thought I was going to die at some point but today I have moved on and I no long wish to die but simply smile each time I remember that memory. I just smile.

SirJeffry:
Since I lost my girlfriend too, I have been floating like a river. Love life of men in uniform na ups and downs. Never had much time for her while at home due to my job, traveled out creating room for long distance relationship and stayed incommunicado in the Middle East for 18months. Her dad talked her through moving on and alas I lost my Ujunwa for good.

My dear, my advice is move on. You can't change change.

Sori man, sad experience. u will get another lady soon who wuld love u for u.
I salute!!!

SirJeffry:
Since I lost my girlfriend too, I have been floating like a river. Love life of men in uniform na ups and downs. Never had much time for her while at home due to my job, traveled out creating room for long distance relationship and stayed incommunicado in the Middle East for 18months. Her dad talked her through moving on and alas I lost my Ujunwa for good.

My dear, my advice is move on. You can't change change.

So sowi for ur loss, i understand u. I pray u get plenty money dis new year with a fine hot girl dat loves u, so u just propose fast before she escapes from ur hand like water ./

Bluezy13:
Sister, wait Until you clock 30, you will know what to do.

This is the best advice so far!

Chicybez:
Pls I need a candid advise from matured minds! Its been over two years since my Ex got married. We broke up in a very mysterious way that is beyond human comprehension "based on not the will of God" from the church. I am still shock over everything and I have tried all my possible best to move on to no avail! I have this guy that cares so much that I decided to give a trial but I can't get my ex off my head. I always wish its my ex in almost 90% of what he does. Even when he talks about marriage, I am so scared. Pls what do I do? And I don't want to hurt this person because he is a very nice person

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Thanks Dear

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