Dear Bunmi,

I met this lady 3 years ago on the social media and we started dating.

Twice she has quitted and reunited again, simply because she knew I loved her that much.

But, the major issue is that, all these years, she has refused to visit me; always giving excuses.

The last time I brought up the issue of visitation she said I should be the one to visit her and family.

Please I'm confused, should I let her be and move on? I can't even describe her in physical.

Thanks.

Nick
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Visit her na.... Mchew

You are probably chatting with a girl on a wheelchair.

Maybe she's is on the big side, please tell her you like anyways

Or she's been cautious..


People are wicked.

So people still dey do this thing??



I no fit date girl for one week iffa no see am. We don pass that stage na

No body should visit each other when u are meeting for the first time,choose public places first.for me if you no they come public places they go my body still need my head.maybe she is scared of you

Please is this the real dearbunmi?

Like the one on Vanguard Wednesday paper?


Have been an avid follower of your column for many many years...

I've got the same gift as you do though I've not put mine to use just yet... I hope I can do so too in the nearest future...

Your responses and advice always make me proud though I definitely would disagree with you on some...

A fan...


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Wow so it's the real you ma'am...

A big big fan right here... pls keep affecting lives positively as always!!!





PS: I used to crush on you in my teenage years too...call it having a thing for older women or whatnot

You should visit her na! Must she be the one to visit? If you love her like you claim, then be the one to visit first.

Bluezy13:
So people still dey do this thing??




I no fit date girl for one week iffa no see am.
We don pass that stage na

I tire o. This shit is so old school.

Na me do am pass those distant old days of yahoo chat rooms , nimbuzz, and co.. 8 out of 10 times the girls were a disappointment when you finally get to meet them.... From the too short, to too fat, to too stout-like black, to too ridiculously busty (breasts hanging close to her knees!), to K-legged-ness to limping beauty, to borderline insane/mental issues, to 'quarter past five' eyes... Whoosh! Despite all their Beyoncé formings online. Oh boy, it was a crazy era.

However, one mistake I never made then (and which the young OP must not make now) is to visit the faceless girl in her location. You must always be the boss. It must always be your way or the highway. If she no gree, then cut her off immediately. No questions asked.

Pick the spot where you want to meet (never your house). Pick a convenient place with space for manoeuvring and with reduced chances of too much shame. If she's coming from out of town and might have to spend the night on your first meeting (I had a few of those), pick a nondescript hotel not too close to your area. This would help you avoid too much embarrassment or shame if she's an epic fail.

You're being catfished (google it) by either a fat girl or a dude. Congrats on your newly discovered bisexuality

Eleganza33:
No body should visit each other when u are meeting for the first time,choose public places first.for me if you no they come public places they go my body still need my head.maybe she is scared of you

This is why all you Nigerian girls will always be olosho and 4199,a guy should meet you in public place may be shop rite or KFC and he will spend about 25 to 30k that day then he goes home like a fool a when he calls you on phone again the you will not pick up or you will never visit him.Nigeria guys please be wise because all this girls are thief's. Let her come your place fiirst and una fk

Abeg give me the girl number , i want to marry her




What is your problem visiting her at home with her family? Are you scared of something ?

U r funny,meeting in public place dos nt mean he came to spend money there, r we goin there to eat ,jus bc u date such gals dosnt mean every gal dey like that. Any way i dnt av ur time bye

Escabado:


This is why all you Nigerian girls will always be olosho and 4199,a guy should meet you in public place may be shop rite or KFC and he will spend about 25 to 30k that day then he goes home like a fool a when he calls you on phone again the you will not pick up or you will never visit him.Nigeria guys please be wise because all this girls are thief's. Let her come your place fiirst and una fk

Catfish